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I am 35w3d with twins and I get no help. I feel like I'm stuck. I have a 4 year old daughter and 2 boys on the way and I do it all on my own. I had to stop working because I was in pain. I can't afford daycare for 3. I live with my babies father and his parents and I can't stand it. He does nothing with his life. Just plays video games all day. Then when he does work... all his money goes to his NEW truck and insurance. It cost 350 a month for his new truck and 200 a month for insurance. Then he comes home from work or out with his friends and claims he's too tired to help me. I just stopped working and going to school a couple months ago... I'm pregnant with twins... and I've been struggling for 5 years and have a pos car that doesn't even work half the time. Plus I still do everything around the house. Landry. Pick up after him and my daughter. Cook. Take her and pick her up from school. Homework. Go to doctors 3x a week. EVERYTHING! It's so frustrating but I don't have the money to get outta here. :/
My daughter (our daughter) doesn't even like him. This is not how I pictured my life at all ! With a sperm donor who does nothing for me or my kids.
We been on and off for 6 years. Since I was 15. He was bad on drugs and I was young and dumb. Then a couple years ago he got locked up for a year and I truly thought he changed. I got pregnant a couple months after trying to work it out again. Now I'm stuck cuz he just went right back to the way he used to be...
My daughter (our daughter) doesn't even like him. This is not how I pictured my life at all ! With a sperm donor who does nothing for me or my kids.
We been on and off for 6 years. Since I was 15. He was bad on drugs and I was young and dumb. Then a couple years ago he got locked up for a year and I truly thought he changed. I got pregnant a couple months after trying to work it out again. Now I'm stuck cuz he just went right back to the way he used to be...
File for Public Assistance. Tell them that your living with your mom who always thraten to put you out and that you never know when it will happen. They will get to you faster if your homeless or on the verge of homeless. Online classes are good for medical billing. Your due any day with twins. So after you have the baby start that. But yea look into section 8, like now.
Not sure what state you're in or what assistance they have but where I'm from you can apply for daycare assistance through the state Maybe something to look into
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It doesn't have to be this way. You need good friends and family around u and if not don't have them around if they r not helping.
Look u picked him and there is nothing u can do now about him. He has to change and if he doesn't cut him loose if he truly cares he will change if not he is not worth it.
Get assistance and move out even if it is a ****** place, youcan clean it and make u your own.
Focus on your kids and go back to school as soon as u can. Get child support from bd to help u out.
If u r not happy now then trying to get out is only going to improve this o er time so start now.
Don't clean up after him.he can do it.take cate of you kids and do what u need for them but only them. Try and put money away in a bank account he doesn't know about for a rainy day.
Women do not always have to take care of the kids. I was 15 when I had my first my bf was an idiot and I went back to school raise my daughter on my own and moved out when he was cheating. It won't work unless he wants to change. We had a 9 yrs brake, I am a register vet tech I own my own home and he came back after 9 yrs of me saying no. I took him back I work he stays home and takes care of our youngest and will do the same for our new baby in Feb. I work come home to dinner etc and spend time with my daughter. He works when I need money and gives his money to the household. He plays video games at night when our child has been put to bed.
So it can work out but he has to want to change and u need to move on and find help any way u can.
You will feel better over time and go back to school never give up on that bc if u want it bad enough u will make it happen no matter what road blocks are placed in front of u.
Good luck
It doesn't have to be this way. You need good friends and family around u and if not don't have them around if they r not helping.
Look u picked him and there is nothing u can do now about him. He has to change and if he doesn't cut him loose if he truly cares he will change if not he is not worth it.
Get assistance and move out even if it is a ****** place, youcan clean it and make u your own.
Focus on your kids and go back to school as soon as u can. Get child support from bd to help u out.
If u r not happy now then trying to get out is only going to improve this o er time so start now.
Don't clean up after him.he can do it.take cate of you kids and do what u need for them but only them. Try and put money away in a bank account he doesn't know about for a rainy day.
Women do not always have to take care of the kids. I was 15 when I had my first my bf was an idiot and I went back to school raise my daughter on my own and moved out when he was cheating. It won't work unless he wants to change. We had a 9 yrs brake, I am a register vet tech I own my own home and he came back after 9 yrs of me saying no. I took him back I work he stays home and takes care of our youngest and will do the same for our new baby in Feb. I work come home to dinner etc and spend time with my daughter. He works when I need money and gives his money to the household. He plays video games at night when our child has been put to bed.
So it can work out but he has to want to change and u need to move on and find help any way u can.
You will feel better over time and go back to school never give up on that bc if u want it bad enough u will make it happen no matter what road blocks are placed in front of u.
Good luck
Yeah I want to get back in school at some point. When the twins get a little older. I'll get back on my feet once they grow a bit but for now I'm stuck. I don't have sitters and daycare is a fortune. Not even worth the work. I have my AA and was just starting the program for nursing but it's way too demanding. 5 days a week. My bd and I have been on and off since I was 15 and I'm 21 now.
I know women are the main care givers but I hate being a woman sometimes. We have to do everything and more. They just go to work and then come home and chill or get to go out. I don't :/
I hope everything goes good for you Paula. I know how hard it is. And yeah got 1 more kid then I do.
Destynee I'm going to Def look into the medical billing if it's only a few months ! I love anything medical. Thanks for the advice.
And unfortunately for living... section 8 waiting list is closed. And even when it does open the waiting list is at like 8 years. And the low income housing u still need to prove an income. U have no idea how many people and programs I have called. It's rediculous. The government doesn't want u to live off them yet you don't have any other choice really especially with how much daycare cost.
I know women are the main care givers but I hate being a woman sometimes. We have to do everything and more. They just go to work and then come home and chill or get to go out. I don't :/
I hope everything goes good for you Paula. I know how hard it is. And yeah got 1 more kid then I do.
Destynee I'm going to Def look into the medical billing if it's only a few months ! I love anything medical. Thanks for the advice.
And unfortunately for living... section 8 waiting list is closed. And even when it does open the waiting list is at like 8 years. And the low income housing u still need to prove an income. U have no idea how many people and programs I have called. It's rediculous. The government doesn't want u to live off them yet you don't have any other choice really especially with how much daycare cost.
What online school are you going though? I can't find one that will take Pell grants and only go for 4 months.
Same situation kinda .. Only he was extreamly violent . I'm 21 years old , with a 6yo son and a 1yo daughter . and twin girls on the way . with him he was nothing but another child . we was living with my dad in a FEMA trailer . I took all I could , trying to make it work for the babies . I've been free for a month now . me & my kids live with my sister and my two nieces now . where I have help when needed . me and him was together for 14 months , and for the most part I was unhappy . but I was also weak . I finally found the strength to make a change. its still hard as I type this . parts of us I miss but when I start to miss him , I think of all the selfish ways he has . and I think about my kids , and we deserve better . good luck , and stay strong . I hope everything works out .
Theres a lot of grants that will pay for you to go to school. Online classes may be better since u have kids like me. Im doing medical billing online classes and only takes 4 months to complete the course. Once ur done, u can find work from home or work anywhere u want. Just a suggestion. I hope things start looking up for u. Good luck.
I'd say get a goal. Get back in school and make something of yourself to get u and Ur babies out of the situation. Even if its part time to start
^ like she said I would try low income apartments or try apply for section 8. The apartments you may find may be beat up and suck however it yours and you don't have to deal with anyone, being it's your home! I wish the best of luck for you and the kiddos!
Have you tried a women shelter for help or seek public assistance for help they can help you find a place of your own maybe live in low income housing until you get on your feet something to look into not the best situation to be in but don't sound you in a great situation either good luck
I tried staying with my mom but we just don't get along. She knows I'm struggling so then she offers to help then holds everything over my head for it. Like if the smallest thing isn't done her way or at the exact moment she wants it done she kicks me out. For ex.. I made soup and I washed the pot and silverware and everything yet I forgot to put the can in the recycling bin and she literally freaked on me
Do you have family you can go stay with?
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