Venting. Feel like I messed up

[Ladyfrench]

I'm 34 weeks pregnant and I'm due Nov 2nd. Me and my bf have been together for a year and a day until I broke up with yesterday. I broke up with him because I found a condom in his wallet yesterday. (I only went in his wallet to put his key in it so it wouldn't fall out the bag). He's "allergic" to condoms so we don't use them. We've only used a condom once out of the entire relationship. I asked him about it and he said that it wasn't his and that it was his friend's. But what I don't understand is why is he holding a condom for a friend? I found condoms on him before and that was the same excuse he gave me before. And so I'm just like I guess he's the condom holder for everybody Now. I don't see why he's holding condoms for a friend as if they can't keep their own condoms themselves when he knows how I feel about him having condoms. Ive caught him talking to other females plenty of times before. And honestly this pregnancy which is my first pregnancy, Ive been mostly sad or mad throughout the whole thing. Idk if it's my insecurities or not. I feel like I made a mistake on account of we just made it to a year Sept 24th and I broke up with him a day later. I couldn't sleep at all last night because I kept dreaming about me breaking up with him. It's all Ive been thinking about today. Idk if I made the right choice or not. I'm just tired of being lied to. And I know that I haven't been wanting to have sex that much anymore since Ive gotten further along in my pregnancy. So I guess that would give him a reason to cheat... I don't know what to do anymore. Any suggestions or advice?

[Pray4me2015]

You have been duped. Sorry. A latex allergy produces an instant reaction. He could have used lambskin to protect you if he loved you. I know you may have dryness issues but in the future get some
lambskin or the other condoms to protect yourself and a tube of KY. There is no shame in preventing HIV or anything else that comes from sex. But with all that said, the from finding of condoms and the fact that you have caught him talking to others is a red flag to me. If you are able to find a job ASAP so you can be more independent.

Good luck.

[Ladyfrench]

No I don't have any family members to stay with and I only one friend and they don't have the space

[bookieeeee]

I can honestly say I know how you feel . I am currently 31 weeks pregnant  (with my first ) & we lived together.  He is in jail now (3 weeks now) & just a few days before he got locked up I found out he was cheating on me . I broke up with him . & I feel as if my pregnancy has been so hard . You did the right thing by breaking up with him ! Pregnant or not don't settle for less than you deserve !

[maw4389]

Do you have family or friends you could stay with?

[Ladyfrench]

The bad thing about it is that I live with him and his people because I didn't have anywhere to go so I have to see him everyday and that makes it harder. And I don't know how fast I'll be able to get a job after I have my baby to save up to move out.

[Flickan]

I'm so sorry. It ***** to find out what a douche bag some guys can be. Ultimately,  I think you'll be happier and healthier keeping him at a distance from your personal life other than having a relationship with his son.

[Ladyfrench]

He said all condoms. Smh this hurts a lot honestly cuz Ive put so much time emotion and effort in this relationship and since Ive been pregnant my emotions have definitely been everywhere and Ive told him about past relationships. All I ever wanted was for us to be a happy family. But I guess that won't be happening anymore. :( Thank you guys!

[Imabeamommy]

Did he say he was allergic to "all" condoms or just latex? There are alternative forms of contraception. I don't know you but my guess is that you have been duped. You may not feel like having sex but that doesn't give your partner the right to cheat. Breaking up was probably the best decision you have made throughout this process.

[Ladyfrench]

I also don't like using condoms because they make me dry down there fast and I get irritated so I hate using them.

[Ladyfrench]

He "claims" he's allergic to condoms. The time he used one in our relationship I never saw a change in him down there or he never told me he felt different. And there was this one time that he used one but I never saw anything wrong with him and I made sure to pay attention to that afterwards. I really do love him a lot and Ive tried to make this relationship work for our son because we both grew up with our dads not really in our lives and his not being in his at all. And I just don't want our son to grow up being in two different homes and not having both parents together.

[Alexk123]

That is definitely sketchy. But if he's allergic why would he use one even if he did cheat? Is it a bad allergy? If you've caught him talking to other girls you certainly have every right to break up with him. You don't deserve that, and maybe realizing that you won't stick around and let him do whatever will help him grow up. My boyfriend cheated early on in our relationship and I did the same thing. He worked for months to get me back, and now almost two years later we're having a baby and I trust him completely :) since you're having a baby with him he will inevitably be a part of your life, so you should sit down with him and tell him how you feel, and if you want to be with him tell him that, but make him earn your trust first. Good luck :)

[mrs_meeklet]

finding condoms doesn't necessarily mean that he's cheating on you but it's definitely suspicious. there's no excuse for cheating on your pregnant girlfriend/wife, regardless of whether you haven't been wanting sex or not. he should get reacquainted with his hand.

[pointofview]

I dont think you over reacting ..you guys don't use them why is he carrying them .. And holding him for his friend that ******** lol his friends have wallet they are more then accaple of holding there own... You don't need the stress!