Venting

[KeziaBrightsea]

I am 25 weeks + 2 days and I can't stop fighting with my fiance. I even gave him the engagement ring back after the fight tonight. He just doesn't get the pregnancy. I get home from being on my feet for eight hours and ask him to make me Mac and cheese and he just says "I can do cereal". I wanna scream. He didn't do dishes or laundry either and then wanted me to let the dogs out when I got home and feed them. I am at my wits end. He does do stuff around the house and he has a job but he constantly holds everything against me. If he lets the dogs out three times one day and I only do once, he will guilt me for months after. If he does half of the dishes once, it is all he will bring up when I ask him to do something. Normally, I can do it myself. I am a relatively independent person. But with the pregnancy and working full time, I have no energy and he thinks I am just making excuses. I say I don't feel good and he just says neither does he. I have constant migraines, leg cramps, back ache, nausea,and I have anxiety and he just won't understand why I am leaning in him. He throws a tantrum and gets mad, calling me lazy and useless. I just wish he knew how it felt to be pregnant. And it doesn't help that all of my friends ditched me when I became pregnant. I have no where to go to vent and get time away from him. He is tired of me complaining, since he's the only one I can complain to, and gets mad when my hormones make me depressive. I just don't know what to do. I worry that the stress will break us up.

[jennzington]

He might be scared. Guys have a weird way of expressing their feelings. The unfortunate part is this is another human being that you two are bringing into this world so he needs to address the situation sooner than later. Hopefully he comes around if not you need to think about what's best for you and the baby even if it means leaving. It's not healthy for you or the child and will only create problems down the line. Counseling is a excellent resource even if it's individual and they can help you process the situation and make some important decisions.

[victoriamichelle1010]

He sounds juat like my bf. Doesnt seem interested in any of it.. :/ its hard when we are so attatched and they dont even realize what a commitment it is. My bf does go to appointments but now hes. saying he doesnt wanna do that cause all we do is liaten to rhe babies heart beat. I think thats a huge thing! apparently its not a big priority to him. I hope they change when the baby arrives cause if he shows as little interest then he can just leave.

[KeziaBrightsea]

I do include him. He doesn't seem interested. I told him we should schedule classes together and he said he didn't really want to. I wanted to talk to him about if he wants to cut the umbilical cord and he told me he didn't want to talk about it. I don't think he realizes how much a baby changes your life. I constantly link him websites, drag him (yes, almost literally drag) to appointments, and give him books. Nothing changes or works. I want him to talk to the baby and spend time every day talking about the baby. I just don't know anymore.

[victoriamichelle1010]

Yeah my bf thinks cause he carries a tool belt ariund at work he knows what im going through. and acts like his pains add uo to mine. I get exhausted from sitting sometimes.. Just because the baby is against my lungs and what not.(however uou explain that) but its annoying so hopefully it gets better for you cause i know its hard to deal with someone who just doesnt understand everything.

[cali4na14]

I feel you sweeetheart,  my fiancé does the same crap to me, I feel alone and all we do is fight..  he barely helps me too.   I'm actually considering leaving him.. I keep telling him I'm lonely and nothing is changing.. it's getting worse

[nkoli]

This is gonna sound like im playin the devil's advocate but do understand that he is just as scared as u r,he hasnt done this before as well, and you are both learning... Instead of giving back the ring,may be u should try talking more and involving him in the pregnancy,may be attend classes together. It'll help him understand u better and you'll fight less. You can work through this and I'm sure he'll come around. Good luck!

[IzabelleNhugo]

Lol that's exactly why im so excited to have this page I dont talk to anyone it feels good to let things out

[KeziaBrightsea]

Thank you ladies! It is just good to vent to women who understand! I hate sounding like a brat and I do love him but he just drives me crazy some times!

[IzabelleNhugo]

Its like some guys will never understand. . I love the experience but I wish men can feel what we do..
My bf called me lazy the other day because I was to tired to get up and grab him more food he was to busy watching bad girls club.. we argued all day because of it.. I felt like I should have been the one watching bad girls club asking him to do things for me! Lol hopefully everything goes well!

[jennzington]

Sad to hear. Hang in there and take care of yourself and the baby!

[LaylaMona]

Sounds to me like he's beyond immature and nasty & its not the attitude he should have towards you and especially not while carrying your child . He should be more understanding & helpful and I don't blame you for giving the ring back he's not acting like a fiancé a boyfriend or someone that your about to bring a life into this world with. I would give him his space do some nice things for yourself & let him come around & apologize and be more supportive if not you know were you guys stand