after delivery/visitors/experienced moms

[faithanduriah]

I recently found out that my dad, my cousin and her kids and possibly another one of my cousins wants to come see my first baby when he is born. I originally only planned to have my mom and fiance's mom be there in the waiting room. And so now I'm freaking out a little cuz for one, my mom and dad have a bad past and two, it just sounds like so many people that I can't imagine them all coming in at once to see him. Do most hospitals have a specific protocol on this, or what did you do for the visitors? Only a couple at a time? And if so, how long do you let them have their chance before the next group comes? It all seems like too much :( I already agreed they could come and I really don't mind them wanting to be a part of it but I just don't know how to manage the reception!!

[LeighaMurphy13]

I'm due in june and my daughter will be 2 in aug. She hates my doc appts amd seeing me poked and prodded. So she wont be at the hospital till her afternoon nap. This gives me time to rest and get cleaned up a bit and for the baby to he cleaned up. I'm not taking ANY visitors until she gets to the hospital and sees him first. Anyone who doesn't like it can kick rocks. It's about what YOU want and comfortable with NOT what everyone else wants. Baby will be able to pick up of your uncomfortable or upset

[domingoleigh]

I do think there is a Limited ppl allowed at a time..... Just make sure u tell them they'll have there chance..... Congrats.

[domingoleigh]

It's really not that serious... At least they acknowledge the baby some family's don't care... It's the waiting room not the delivery room...... You get to bond with the baby bringing him home..... It's not like ur missing out. :)

[RellsBaby]

For my first pregnancy i had over 40 people in the waiting room... lol... my parents hate each other but they we able to get along for me and the baby... my daughter was the first great grand child and born in the middle of the night and still everyone came.. my cousins even had a bottle of alcohol to celebrate... lol ... if their not being supportive kick them out but have faith that good will come out of the birth of your precious child... its all love!

[faithanduriah]

Scratch that his mom is about 2 hours and a half hours, my mom is about 3 hours even, and dad is 3 hours and thirty minutes.

[faithanduriah]

Yeah, the hard part is they all live hours away! I'm trying to decide if we should wait til after the baby is born for the dad to make the phone calls. (That way we, for sure, have at least 2 hours before the first visitors, and so they all come at different times) Does that sound acceptable? His mom is probably the least far away by like 2 and a half hours, my mom about 3 hours and dad/cousins about 4 and a half hours.

[justme1186]

just tell them how you feel.  My husband and I at first want to spend about an hour with her before anyone Else comes in so we can have that bonding time first.  As far as cousins they all can wait until the next day and we will have them call to see if we want visitors because remember you'll be exhausted.  Tell them you only want so many people at once they can switch off.  I think it will be difficult to keep immediate family members away.  Just tell them you few can see the baby first for so long then the next group

[honkaaa]

You can ask the nurse to tell them that they can't stay longer than 15 min, and come in like you said small groups at a time. We asked our visitors to not come all together so they communicated between each other and decided whose gonna come at what time