The life as you know it is over. You get to start a new one with a special person to care for. Your responsibility as an adult are getting ready to change. You can no longer be selfish. Your decisions impact more than just you now. In addition you get the awesome opportunity to bring someone else into this world a dynamic change happens from the time you get pregnant and it continues..... The butterflies of holding them and them relying on you for their every need and desire. You get to hear their dreams and nightmares and speak into their lives. You get to enjoy being a kid again with all the fun trips and experiences you once had as a kid. You get to pass down traditions from your family and create new ones. You don't lose friends you gain new ones who live the lifestyle you live now. You can incorporate those old friends at events and party's that are centered around your little one and family. Which shows them how awesome you are for being a good parent and they may even desire your life for themselves. When your kids are reaching milestones you are their cheerleader. Yes it's tough work to be a parent no more sleeping in... your budget is not just for you it has to include diapers and bottles, field trips and disney character shoes. But when you see that child who is totally captivated by how awesome their mom is nothing in this world is worth that one experience and you get these experiences now until the time you become a grandparent and it continues until they get to take care of you. How many of your friends will be alone at an elderly age? But you'll still will have joy and laughter... I am on baby 4 and I know their is more joy than not. But it's what you focus on that your bring about. Blessings...
In truth, it is tiring and difficult. There are sacrifices that have to be made and it will be a huge lifestyle change. That said, there aren't enough words in our language to describe what a fulfilling and beautiful experience it is. A lot of that stuff is overdramatized anyway, mothers are not disgusting sleep-deprived monsters who never find time to brush their hair or take a shower. Hard work, indescribable pay-off.
Yes its hard but then there are lots of good times...when you get your baby laughing, or get baby snuggles as he falls asleep, or your baby learns something and you are so proud it makes it all worth it!
I think that talking about good and bad aspects of parenthood is healthy. Same goes for pregnancy too. We as a society glamorize pregnancy and parenthood so much that it's easy to lose the perspective of hardships that come along. Parenthood should be an informed decision, people should talk about difficult days as much as the good days. Being a parent is a lifestyle. I am happy I chose it. But I am aware that there are difficult times too.
Being a parent has to be the most challenging yet rewarding thing ever..everyone wondered what kind of mom I would be (on my 3rd baby now) but the minute u have a child u experience unconditional love and are in awe that u made such a perfect little human..with all the challenges and sucky things it is so worth it for all the good and joy that come from them..I would/will do anything for my kids to ensure they have a good life and are looked after properly..congrats on ur little bundle and thanks for the question because writing this out has made me re-remember day to day life makes u forget the little and important things at times :)
For the people who say your life if over when you have kids I truly feel sorry for them. I was single when I haf my daughter 5 yrs ago and when I had her I found out my life was only beginning. Yeah I lost a lot of friends BUT those that I lost were not really friends if they couldn't hang out with me and my daughter. Being a mom is amazing. Yes your going to be tired, wore out, sleep deprived for a while but as your sitting there rocking thay baby back to sleep or feeding the baby you get to look at him or her and see the greatest miracle of the world. Now I'm pregnant with baby 2 and alone again (long story) but I don't look at it as a curse or punishment. I look at my pregnancy as another miricle. My daughter can't wait for her brother to be here to help, hold him, and love on him. Just seeing her gave light up when we talk about him or I'm teaching her things is wonderful. Every day will not be a walk in the park but everyday is a blessing from God. He didn't have to give us our children but he chose us to be their moms and chose which babies to put in us to grow and have. Don't let people get you down. People say negative all the time to me also and I always throw the positive back in their face.