the dad just isnt ready. help:(

[mommytobemandy]

Im 22 and 8 weeks with my first child. My boyfriend is 24 and was excited at first but now just wants to either be texting or talking or hanging out with his friends. Im not a controlling girlfriend what so ever im just tired of being put on the back burner. Has anyone been through this situation and it just not work out? Or has anyone had their significant other act childish and immature but step up at the end? Just need advice. thanks

[danny13flor]

if this is your first baby then maybe thats why he's like this, he probably nervous about everything too.just try talking things out. It helps to understand each other

[danny13flor]

Same here for my daughter my bf would be happy at first but then he started hanging out more with his friends and it wasnt like he cared. But thats just tge way guys are they do care its just that they show it their way. This time that im prego he's more sweet and everything. I guess pregnancy symptoms also hits d dads lol byt everything will be ok

[kynleeK]

I'm 21 and my bf is 26 and I'm 31 weeks pregnant and all of a sudden he's going out every weekend and been really mean towards me! I've barely seen him recently because of his job and he promised he would come stay with me this weekend but last night he went out with his ffriends and I haven't heard from him since. He let me down again and the stress is too much I'm so unhappy lately and I don't want that reaching my little girl so I've decided to end my relationship,  his actions prove he doesn't care. . I hope your bf steps up and your story ends better then mine.  . Good luck x

[Puhkin2]

My hubby has two kids from a previous marriage and loves being a dad but he is currently the same way. I'm almost 15 weeks with my first and he doesn't seem very excited at all but what I realized is as women we go through all the pros & cons of pregnancy and we really can feel all the ways baby is changing and how we are changing so we get to bond with baby before it's even born while dad doesn't. Once baby is born that is when he truly becomes a dad and feels it too! Do not worry mommas!!

[chelseaa2010]

We did a lot of fighting in the beginning because he wasn't ready & didn't want this.. we fought about everything & then finally I told him that if he doesn't want this, I can do this on my own.. I was kind of a ***** & said Welp with 25% of your income, I can raise our kid just fine without you! He didn't like that,  not the money part but the whole me leaving. I was dead serious & stayed with my mom's for the weekend. That was a huge eye opener for him! We finally had a serious talk after all that & we both agreed for the baby's sake, we stop fighting! & we've been the best ever in 4 years! We even bought a house last month & just moved in lasy weekend! Hang in there... he will get over whatever it is hes dealing with & step up! :)

[mommytobemandy]

He is a good guy he is just too involved with his friends. I just dont get it because they are all grown men like dont they all have their own lives to worry about. He even wants us to be roommates with his best friend.  I said hellll no lol. Im hoping he will come along like yours did. I feel like space may distance us but i guess that's what i will have to do. Thanks for the responds i was feeling alone in the situation.

[shivyd2010]

Hi mandy same issue here am 26 and 15 weeks preg. My bf was happy at first and then he just freaked. He didnt wanna see me his attitude stunk! And he would cause an arguement where ever possible. He would comstantly only think of him self and not be there for me during my bad points in the pregnancy. I was on the very verge of endin  it all. Cos i didnt think he would step  up n be there for me. Myself being seriously unwell seemed to wake him up and realise how hard things were for me. And we talked and he was just scared stiff! We are amazing now and hes right by my side thank god and we both finally enjoyin the  journey. Fingers crossed he will step up. I think hes scared of all the sacrifices he will have to make.

[chelseaa2010]

Guys are all the same.. they all have the same worries & it's normal for them to freak & act like they don't care.. but really they do care, it's just a weird way of showing it! My bf can be such an *** at times.. but then again I can be a complete biatch too so it's fair! ;) haha

[chelseaa2010]

Me! I'm 22 & my bf is also 24! Im 24 weeks & we've been together over 4 years..Honestly when he found out, he was pissed! More so because he thought he wasn't ready! He did the same thing... I got mad at first but then talked to a few friends & they said let him! It's his way of handling it & trying to hang more with the guys to relax & ease his mind. If he's a good guy like mine is, he'll come around! He's getting more excited now that he can feel his son kick & going shopping for him. So hang in there hun. He's a guy. Let him do his thing & hello come around! :)