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272759 tn?1270485594

anyone get hurtful criticism of your baby's name?

hi girls, maybe it's the hormones talking but i am having a hard time with the way that my mother-in-law has reacted to our choice in baby name.  i don't expect everyone to love the name skye, but my husband and i put a lot of thought and heart into this name.  if you don't like it, i feel like you should keep your mouth shut!  my sister-in-law overheard my mother-in-law mocking my baby's name at my own shower!  she heard her telling one of my husband's aunts how much she hated the name and then was making gagging sounds.  

i just needed to get this off of my chest...i must be having a hormonal day because i am sitting here bawling my eyes out about it!!  
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Don’t worry about the haters. If they want to have the right to pick and choose names, they can have their own babies!
You are the one who has to be pregnant, give birth, AND raise that child. YOU and only you deserve the right to pick any baby name you choose... My mom and grandma was making a fuss over my baby boy’s name because it “wasn’t a Bible name” (I named my son Wyatt Hunter) , and I just respectfully told them that they had their chance to name their sons, and that this one was mine.
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Hi I had and have the same problem with not only my mom but also extremely inconsiderate rude people I come across from the hospital staff to shopping centres. My husband and I wanted a unique, strong sounding yet feminine name for our first baby girl and after alot of thaught we fell in love with the name Octavia. My mother was the first to react with "don't call her that. That's such a dumb name and she will be teased."  She eventually got over it when she realized we had made up our minds on it. But even now we get random rude people offering their opinions that we never asked for. I recently went to the hospital to have my leg x rayed and had to bring O ( nick names are O, Tavie, Tavia). In there a nurse approached to see the baby and asked her name and upon me telling her responded in a mocking tone "hah! What are people gunna call her?! Oct?! Its just a bit of a mouthfull dont you think??" Took all my restraint not to loose it! How very inconsiderate and very unprofessional. I get you can't help stupid people and you just have to let it go but I deffinitly understand the pain of inconsiderate remarks and opinions from people just because you didn't let them pick your child's name. I love all the unique names out there and it's not the name that makes the person our children become. We all make a name for ourselves by the people we choose to become.
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Ya, that's rude.  Some people need a filter.  My mother in law---  when we called her from the hospital after giving birth and my husband told her the baby's name said "what else do you have, I don't like that".  My husband was like "um, that IS the name".  They were on speaker and you know, I'd just given birth so was worn out and emotional so started crying like a chump.  LOL  And my husband said "now you made her cry, I have to go,".  it's funny to me now for some reason.  I love my son's name!  Octavia is pretty!
334776 tn?1249968581
it took me a minute, but the "hot sister" in american wedding was named kadence ;)

i think it's pretty, and i like mackenzie(sp? lol) as well!!!
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272759 tn?1270485594
i like your names, and i absolutely love kadence!!  as one of the girls mentioned above, some people have a really hard time with names that aren't traditional.  i try to let it roll off my back, but it can be hurtful...especially when my husband and i put months of thought into it.  there is no name that will make EVERYONE happy...  i just hate the fact that people feel it is their place to give their opinions.  especially since when you choose a name, it's something that you are really excited about!
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464067 tn?1297298432
hiya im going through the same thing i told my sister what i was calling my baby if it was a boy (MacKenzie) and a girl is (Kadence) thanks to the girls on here i choose the girl name thank you. my sister likes the boys name but not the girls she doesn't think its a real name and when my family find out what im calling it  boy or girl they will hate the names i've picked but im not going to listen to them. we are all the ones carrying the babies but other people think they can tell use what to name them as far as im concerned if they don't like the name tuff its not there child and they should have there own and named the baby what ever they want and leave use alone. i love the name skye i was concidering that name. x
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272759 tn?1270485594
kbothe-your inlaws sound EXACTLY like mine!!!  

the most recent thing my MIL is saying is that "Skyler is not even a real name" and she told my brother-in-law that she plans to call the baby by her middle name rather than her first name.  well, maybe i should train my daughter to call her "meemaw" instead of grandma!!!  i am most annoyed that she doesn't say this stuff to my face.  she is a 60 year old woman!  why does she act like a child??

thank you all for relating :-)  
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I have had sort of the same issues with name choosing and my mother-in-law. She seems to be the most judgemental person regarding names. I knew we would have a problem when her and my father-in-law would mock the names that their friends chose for their children before we were even pregnant. They weren't even bad names! Well, we decided on Reece, which she said that she liked, but now she's making a huge deal about how we spell it! With an "S" Reese or a "C" Reece. I like the "C'' because it's supposedly supposed to be an alternate spelling, but who the hell cares or is even gonna pay attention to a name with one letter's difference? I think that a lot of in-laws just want to be in control. I say, it is your baby, you're delivering it, you pick his name. Skye is a very unique and cute name! I can't even imagine someone making a gagging noise over it! I also have realized that people in their 50's and older only like the old fashioned names. Everyone always tells me, "Keep the name a secret until the baby's born and then no one can say anything about it." But you're so excited and you love the name so much that you can't help but share. I say that you and your hubby are doing perfectly! You can actually agree on a name! lol
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574442 tn?1221657729
i had this problem with my partners mother aswell we decided to call our little boy antony jean, jean being pronouced john but being spelt after my partners nan who died recently she seems to think he will be picked on when he starts school but me and my partner loved it and we just told her it was personal to us so we kept it i think the women are right once baby skye is born she will love the name just as much as her grandaughter good luck xx
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272759 tn?1270485594
natemomma-that is so funny because i think lydia is a very feminine name, and way more feminine than your neices names.  

thank you all for your support!  poop on her!  she is never happy with anything anyway.  even if i didn't like the name, i wouldn't have the nerve to mock it.  all she does is make herself look immature and nasty!  it's good that we are all in this boat together!  i knew it was a common thing that parents go thru when choosing a name, but it helps to hear your personal stories :-)
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177382 tn?1253041140
my babies god mother was the same way. my lil guy's name is Jett Kingston. so i warned her that i may have to fire her lol but now she seems to really like it because it fits him.  I love the name Skye. ~d
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427258 tn?1266445242
my OWN mother hates the name we picked for a girl...i love the name lydia marie...she of course hates it, and had the nerve to tell me that lydia is too masculine (sp?)...its one of the most beautiful girl names ive heard...now i have 2 nieces who are named harley and miley and i dont adore those names, but that wasnt my choice and i dont mock them...and of course my mother LOVES those names...i just ignore it all, she doesnt have to like it and she can kiss my a**! LOL
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I have had the same responses for all my childrens names lol. My daughter was Bailey Rae, My oldest son is Michael Owen, my youngest son is Aiden Lee, and this one will be Conner McKinley.

I just very bluntly tell them that I dont care if they like it or not, as I never asked for their opinions on the name choices. Eventually family and friends learned to accept what DH and I chose for names, and as soon as my baby was born, they name was practically non existant lol because they were to in love with the baby to care what his name was anymore.
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Forget about her....You and your husband LOVE the name then that is all that matters.
My first choice in a girls name (when I was like 16) was Snow Makayla or Makayla Snow.  My parents HATED IT!  My father told me if I gave such a horrible name to my child he would call her Mickey. I told my father no that if that was the name I chose then there was NOTHING he could do about it.  Well...my DH has the name Sorian picked out for a boy and they HATE that.  Again, I love it DH loves it and that's all that matters!  Keep your head up.....
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my grandma was like eww why are you going to name him Aiden Michael
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272759 tn?1270485594
hahahahaha, i love it!!!
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Well - - - - - you could always tell your MIL that the next baby will be named after her, and then at the very end, change it to a name you like.....

OUCH - - - that would be mean...... :)

Sorry she is being rude behind your back...
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272759 tn?1270485594
i am surely sticking with it!  and you are all right--it is a choice that my husband and i made together and that is special.  i am glad that i am not the only one that goes thru this.  my mother-in-law is just so mean and i feel like she is critical of everything!  i wish i could trade her in!!!  but anyway, thanks a bunch!

on a side note, my husband and i originally were going to keep it a secret.  my friend kept her baby's name a secret for that very reason.  although, to be honest, my mil is the only one that gave us a hard time--the worst part, she didn't do it to my face...she was doing it behind my back at my shower.  maybe next baby we will keep baby's name a secret to just her and will tell everyone else!  

thanks again girls!
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448723 tn?1301454958
I agree. Skye is a beautiful name..

Stick with it.
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580650 tn?1217927471
aawww Skye is a lovely name. I love it!!..... It is special to you and ur husband so dont let anyone upset you hun.

hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well, hugs and best wishes
x x
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296738 tn?1235996403
There will always be someone with something negative to say about whatever name you choose.  I went thru it with my kids.  Just tell her that you appreciate the opinion but the decision is something you put a lot of thought in and have decided on.  Your mother in law will love the child no matter what the name is.  Besides, after she sees the baby and calls it Skye no other name will quite fit.  My mother gave me grief about the name Steeley. Now we cannot imagine her by any other name.
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That's what happened to a couple of our friends.  They told people the name they picked and they reacted to it poorly so they changed it.  Then they advised us not to tell anyone until our baby was born.  We decided to throw one of our sisters off by giving her a fake name that we were going to name our baby and sure enough, we got an opinion.  So I would go with not telling a soul until the baby is born, cuz by then you've already named him/her and they can't say anything!
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400885 tn?1297698918
Don't listen to them that name is sooooooo cute!!!!!!
I'm getting the same thing you are some of my family don't like that I am naming my boy Damien.
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412969 tn?1224334248
lol i feel you! i got **** from all my family and even random strangers!
ive heard everything from....
"Domino? you mean like the pizza place?"
to.....
"Theyll ask is she black or is she white!"
the worst is always from family!
the funny part is that me and my boyfriend loved the name and when my stepmother one day was outright hostile about it, we decided rigth then that we loved it even more!
just tell the people that if they dont like the name, they can ahve there own kids and name them whatever they want!
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554628 tn?1362777919
i love the name skye for a boy or girl i used that name for a middle name for one of my twins. i love it, so it doesn't matter what she says, thats kind of immature if u ask me. but good luck and I LOVE IT.
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