Financially.

[B1128]

How do I talk to my boyfriend about this stuff? He's the only one working, and I've never felt it to be my place to say anything about money, due to him being the only one working. But, the baby will be here in three weeks, and I feel it is so important to get money set up for our bills and the rent. If he's not spending his money, he acts like he has none.

I don't know how to talk to him about it because I don't feel it is my place or right of me to do so because it is his money. And at some point, he does always take care of things, and he's good about it usually. May be a little late but it gets paid. Should I leave it alone?

I am just afraid. I don't know what the baby will cost when she is here, if anything for awhile. I am just scared and don't want him to feel any pressure for money when she does get here and then there's bill on top of it. Water is due, electric is due in a week, and then rent and then the baby.

I just don't want to make a situation out of something that may not even be anything?

[Brittany_Orlando]

You need to talk about this. Plain and simple. It's not something to tiptoe around. A baby is going to cost a lot of money. More than you think. Sit together and write down your income and what you are spending now; what is a necessity vs. what you are able to cut back on. You will feel much better and he will too. My husband and I did this as soon as we found out we were pregnant. I am 28 weeks and my doctor has just put me on modified bed rest, so now I'm not getting a paycheck until the baby comes and we had to do it all over again! Luckily, since we sat down and went over everything early on, and we've been putting my paychecks either into savings or paying off credit cards, we feel secure and know how to manage everyday expenses on one income. We feel better that we have that money to fall back on in case of an emergency or something unexpected like this! Every situation is different. You'll figure it out if you work together!

[B1128]

At some point everything is taken care of and paid for, which is why I feel like maybe I shouldn't say anything. He is doing what he needs to as far as bills go. I just don't know what to expect for when the baby is here and I don't want any extra stress on him. If we have pretty much all that we need for her, should we have to spend any money at all for awhile for or on the baby?

He often makes me feel like we aren't a "team" because I haven't been working. Normally when he says he's going to buy this or that (usually future/near future stuff) I just say "okay, it's your money." I don't feel like it's my place to say yes or no. Atleast that is what I've started saying.

He gets paid weekly with his new job he started about a month ago. Before his new job he stressed about the bills being paid and stuff more then i do, because I feel if we can't pay it when it's due, it will be paid at some point. And that's okay, sometimes there just isn't anything you can do about it and getting all worked up isn't worth it. With his new job things have changed financially so he feels more free to spend his money on things.

Ultimately i guess I'm just worried about him feeling more stressed when she arrives because I don't know what or if we will need to be spending money on or for her for awhile? I just want to be prepared and scared of not being.

[CDV123]

bills need to be taken care of just talk to him tell him whats due and how much. i have to do it with my man he is the only one working and im at home and he takes care of it all and hes not even working in the state we live in he has to travle for work.  i would talk to him maybe yall can come up with a plan.

[fabulously_fabulous]

What is he spending money on that is not a necessity?   He has a responsibility to take care of your baby so I would say it's your business to be concerned.  I would just talk to him what your worried about.