frustrated

[stevierichins]

Iam so frustrated with my living situation right now all I want to do is cry, ive had my ownbplace since I was 18 and 6 months ago my mom, her 3 birds, sister, and my niece moved into my house I was renting with my boyfriend.  It was supposed to be temporary but 6 months down the rd it seems there is no end in sight, my sister is not even close in the position to get her own place and my mom has racked up so much debt she cant afford to move let alone rent or buy like she wants to. And now that im so far along and our baby will be here anyday me and my boyfriend are relying solely on his job and cant afford to move anywhere else. Theres always drama always someone fighting with someone,  and about 90% of the time its my mom stirring the pot Iam so far beyond my breaking point, this morning my mom left for two days and I was thinking thank god itll be a nice little break but no its currently noon and now my grandma is over here and my sister and her bd are fighting (over a freaking redbull mind you) and my grandma is yelling at them for fighting.  I already spend so much time in my room to avoid it all but it doesnt stop me from hearing it or getting put in the middle every time i have to pee. Im so desperate at this point ive even been trying to figure out how to get a trailer we could afford just so I can be away from it all but my boyfriend says hes not putting me and his baby in a trailer to give him some time, I totally understand why he thinks like that but I feel like im gonna loose it mentally and I miss having our own space so bad, i just cant imagine bringing home our baby into this house with constant drama and having the space and peace of mind I need to be a good mom

[LyricOlivia]

girl let them know they need to cut the bs or get the hell out cause you don't need the stress and don't feel guilty about it about they had there chance to live there life they screwed it up that's not right for them to just come and dump all there drama on you family or not it's you and your bf place yall have to set rules put your foot down if not the bs will cincontinue

[destinyluv01]

I know.exactly what your going through. I had my dad and my lil brother living with me.for the longest time. My brother just got out of prison moved his bm.and.there 3 babies. Plus my dad is paranoid schizophrenia and.mentally and.emotional.abusive and he started threatening that he was going to.lay hands on me in.front of my daughter. Then to.top it off my brother stole hundreds of dollars from.me.because.it turns out he has a drug problem and he wrecked my car. Ive been though so.much this year for trying to have a.big heart and help my family.out. All I got in.return was disrespect and I haven't even told you everything thats just the tip of.the iceberg. im now.6 months pregnant and I booted everyone! out it has been such a relief for me and my lil family (daughter,and my lover) its very peaceful. Bless your heart for helping.them but you need your space to declutter for the lil one. They need to understand that you need peace. Give them a time limit and they have that much time.to.figure out what they.are going to.do

[Jaci1024]

You seem extremely rational. You should try to sit down and talk to them. Tell them that you want a peaceful environment for that little one, and if they can't be normal human beings than they are going to have to leave. Tell them in a nice way, there doesn't need to be fighting.  

[Niya909]

Im in the same boat as you except its my brother and his lazy girlfriend they living in my apt...with my boyfriend and i and there not helping with anything not to mention there older than us...so we just plan on moving and not allowing them to come...i have 4 months before my son here and i need the space for him....good luck but if i were u i would just kick them out...

[LesleyMarie88]

I am so sorry, sounds like you are just trying to be a good daughter/sister/aunt  and your family is taking advantage of you and your  boyfriend, who were so kind to open your doors to them. I know that kicking them out may sound like an easy solution, but  that may make matters worse. I would just have asitdown with your boyfriend, mom, and sis. Let them know that you are feeling alienated in your own home. You shouldnt have to move out, they are the guests and they are outstaying their welcome. Being pregnant,  they need to be aware of the stress their fighting puts on you. It's also something that needs to be addresses before the baby comes.

[Bertha30C]

Well that seems like a very difficult situation,  but I would get them together n let them know that u need peace n quiet. Ask them nicely for them take their disagreements or issues out of the house. For them to argue outside of the home. That even if they in the rooms you can hear them and that u really don't  need any of that in the house. Wish things get better for u soon.

[SlavicaTurpin]

They obviously don't give a crap about anyone but them selves. Plain and simple, kick them out! You don't need that kind of drama! I wouldn't deal with that stuff for nothing. My family is full of drama and so is half of my husbands. They are just selfish and self centered. We just wrote them off.

[stevierichins]

I really wish I could but we cant afford the rent on our own for a 3 bd house while hes the only working,  and I would feel so bad for doing that because I know they literally have no place to go and no money to do anything either its like everyone is stuck and no one wants to be here, but instead of trying to make the best of it they all just fight with each other constantly

[varshney]

Seriously it's ur time..plz dnt take stress..it will affect ur little one..try to b calm n compose..do meditation..if u can't to anything else to them..

[Jaci1024]

Kick them out!!!!