breastfeeding

[marijana19]

So i see some women decide they dont want to breastfeed and they decide using formula so i wonder why is that? I understand if someone has trouble with not having enough milk or baby not wanting to breastfeed but i dont understand why some women decide they dont want to breastfeed?

[Takeiyah_]

I'm going to TRY to breastfeed. I think its wonderful bonding but I don't see what's wrong with formula milk either . it just depends on the mother and her reasoning

[diiddlybop]

Some women jus don't because it hurts them too bad or worried about breasts becoming saggy afterwards, I heard a somewhat "celebrity" one time say that it was weird to have a child sucking at her boobs because her husband does it during sex and I was flabbergasted. I plan on breastfeeding but wasn't breastfed as a baby and Idk what my mother's reasoning for it was but come on people, it's not fair to judge just because a woman decides to formula feed instead of breastfeed. It's not the worst thing, by far, that a mother could do.

[nicolechavez]

Omg lmao is this really bieng turned into a debate....dont worry bout others kids worry bout your own..to each its own...personaly I pump and give in bottle but really why do youcare ??

[mummy_times_2]

There is no comparison to having made lunch then ordering more from somewhere else that's simply just doubling what you have. Don't get me wrong I have breastfed both my children and ill do it with any other children  and by no means am i offended by your post i was just trying to explain that it doesn't matter how a baby is fed and it's no one else's business beside the mothers as its her choice maybe formula fed baby's parents worder why on earth people would breastfeed you know? There is no real explanation rather than just what feels right and what choice is made :)

[jesseyka]

Most mothers who choose to formula feed will say just because....because it isn't always easy to explain why. And it isn't any of anyone's business as to why or why not.  As for me...I tell people that I choose not to breast feed just because I can, but reality is, I can not mentally bring myself to it. That part I can not explain, but there is a phycoligical block, it doesn't feel right, and I cry.  Bottle/formula is a happier way to feed my sons. I don't think it is fair that I force myself to try when it will cause more mental pain than is needed. But....in the long run, my 3yr old is healthy and happy, and my new son...being born tomorrow!!!... Will be just the same...happy and healthy. As will I. Again, it is an extremely person decision, and no one should feel less of a mother for her choice in feeding. As long as baby is healthy

[marijana19]

I'm not trying to offend anyone but if we are making comparisons then i think this is like if you already have made lunch but you still order food from restaurant.... to me it doesnt make sense not to breastfeed for no reason (or reasons like i dont want to have ugly looking boobs after) but thats just my opinion.

[mummy_times_2]

I don't think it really matters what choice mothers make about feeding their child it makes no difference babies still grow up and succeed breast fed or formula fed I mean they are getting fed doe sit matter how so? Would it matter if a 10 year old was christened or not? No you wouldn't even know any different if you hadn't asked now I know there's a difference between the two but it's the same concept of who cares they are still happy and healthy, it's personal preference and i dont think it matters at all what they are fed as long as they are being fed.

[happybaby2015]

They choose not to just like some parents choose to curse in front of their kids, smoke, argue, drink alcohol, pay more attention to their phone than child, etc etc etc. It's because people have different opinions on how to raise kids & on what is important.

[marijana19]

@JillyC23 yes i see some women decide they wont be breastfeeding before even trying (before the baby is born) i understand if you have complications or some other reason not to, but just simply saying you dont want to, thats what i dont get...

[JillyC23]

Do you mean decide not to before even trying? I can understand trying and not succeeding but can't help but feel it's a little selfish to not at least try before switching to formula..  At least give them the antibodies from the first few days.. Don't want to offend anyone it's just how I feel about it

[jennymeaney]

I will be breast feeding my third this time and im very proud of the fact but it doesnt mean I love my children any more than any other mother who feeds or not. As long as you love them its all that really matters...

[mummainoz]

I agree that breastmilk is best but breastfeeding is not best for everyone. My son was prem and I worked really hard to breastfeed him but unfortunately due to my health complications I couldn't meet all of his needs and he failed to thrive. Breastfeeding became an extremely distressing experience for me. It broke my heart at every drs appoitnment and I felt like a failure every time I went to mothers group because I was the only one formula feeding. I even felt ashamed every time I formula fed my baby in public because I felt so judged. As for my son, he was like a different baby on formula, so much happier, put on weight, slept through the night, didnt get his first cold til 14mths. Now, facing the same complications again and about to have another prem, I've decided to celebrate my miracle baby and skip the heartbreak and go straight to formula feeding. In my experience ive discovered you're damn*d if you do and you're damn*d if you dont so you might as well be 'pro feeding hungry babies' however you choose to achieve it because at the end of the day all anyone wants is a happy mum and a healthy baby. So this is so long, just wanted to explain my choice.

[brittany_alan_jayden]

I am choosing formula. My son was on formula and did just as good as a baby who is Breast feed, he did even better actually. Its the parents choose and I think either way you do it is just fine.

[marijana19]

@bittybean i agree. You can always pump and bottle , i just dont get it, you have the milk already why wouldnt you want to breastfeed if thats the best for your baby

[jennymeaney]

My friend didnt even try with her first because she wanted her bf to do night feeds too!!!!! She also said she was worried it wud feel wierd. She wanted to feed her second but didn't because she felf it unfair on her first,  I personally dont understand it but respect every individuals decision on what they do with their bodies. Its just a shame

[MrsSpenc]

Because they don't. I feel if the baby is fed who cares how they eat. Its not your child. I'm a bf mommy by the way. But I don't see why everyone cares why or what others are feeding. I mean its just like later in life.. mother's who feed only organic get mad if someones kid is eating a Cheeto..its not ur  child don't worry. Just like when I flop my big ole booby out at the restaurant table . If you tell me to cover I'll give ya the bird...its no ones bees wax what others do. We have to much freedom of speech .

[bittybean]

I am with you. Breast milk is the best thing for the baby. Even if you don't have time or just dont like the thought of it you could pump the milk and bottle feed them the milk.

[jessijlb1229]

I'm not sure either. But, it is a personal choice everyone has their reasons. Whether it be work related or just wanting the freedom back to eat or drink whatever they'd like. I am personally going to try my hardest to breastfeed but I understand that sometimes it's a lot easier to go the formula route if you have a busy schedule to keep up with.