bullying by parents/step parents

[bryn93]

Okay now im a big girl and my weight has always been an issue. But since ive gotten pregnant my stepmom wont stop putting me down. She keeps telling that this baby Is going to ruin my figure forever and I'm never gonna lose weight. It didn't bother me till about three weeks ago. I'm starting to show!! Everyone can see my bump but she keeps telling me its just cause im a big girl that ill never have a baby bump. Its starting to really get to me. She's telling me I'll never feel her move with my hand and nor will my husband. I'm a fist time mom I'm 22 weeks and weigh 215 lbs. I'm a first-time mommy and she's scaring me am I reaaly gonna miss out on all this cause im fat??

[ramyamommy]

That old dried up ********* is just jealous of you tell her if she keeps talking **** about your pregnancy she can have nothing to do with your baby she'll probably try to verbally abuse your kid

[Jazzydoll]

What a ***** pay no attention im not a small person and i can feel my baby kicking constantly and that wasn't until about 23 weeks

[Nov7thmommy]

I'm 266 right now and I feel every movement that my little boy does, she's a btch and don't let her bring u down like that, when my sister did that to me, I told her so much stuff that she stopped saying anything

[1momma4chicks]

I know how you feel. When I got pregnant with my first child, my doctor, of all people, was pleased that I was only able to eat brothy soup & salads and lost a bunch of weight. Little did he know my body was producing gall stones & my digestive system was rejecting most food. He commented to me that I needed to lose weight because if I didn't, my baby wouldn't be able to be delivered thru my big thighs. What a jack***. I switched doctors...
No one should make a woman (especially one who is producing a life) feel bad or ashamed of her body. Tell your stepmom that she needs to take a good look in the mirror before she says anything to you. I am sure she has body insecurities that she doesn't want pointed out.
Good luck with your pregnancy & believe me, you're going to feel everything. As I write this, my little man is fluttering in my "obese" belly.

[miaaB]

She has some type of insecurity about herself to where she feels the need to put you down. Look you put your foot down tell her. You WILL FEEL YOUR BABY. You WILL SEE YOUR BABY BUMP. & THAT YOU WILL LOSE THAT BABY FAT. all you need is power & determination you WILL overcome her silly **** & tell her to RESPECT you & tell your dad to RESPECT you as well & to tell his wife to back off. Your father shouldn't let that go on anymore.if he does just leave them alone until the baby is here. You DON'T need the stress nor the verbal abuse

[merethibbs]

You need to tell your step-mom to have several seats. Hopefully on a seat currently teetering on the edge of a cliff. It is NOT okay for her to talk to you that was... pregnant or not. You are not going to miss out on anything... I weight the same and while I am slightly above average hight, 215lbs is 215lbs. I can see my belly moving and feel the kicks and jabs one the inside and out. Don't worry... stay away from your step-mom... and congratulations

[bryn93]

Thanks everyone big help!

[kouklaxo]

Weight has nothing to do with anything, you will feel your baby move and you're beautiful just the way you are. I had a slim figure before i had my son, by time i had him i had gained abouy 60 - 80 pounds i got my figure back in two years.... if you wanna lose the weight thats up to you, you do what makes you feel comfortable in your own skin and dont let anyone else tell you different. You're beautiful hun and you're going to have the most precious thing life can give you.

[chellea24]

Fd

[1st_time_mommyscarbro]

I'm 213 lbs and yeah I'm having my baby today but I have had a perfectly round belly with hardly any stretchmarks. I have felt my baby since 14 weeks and husband felt him since 19 weeks I think it was. Weight does not matter while pregnant because of so many factors. Just ignore the comments and know that it will come off if you want it to :)

[leelee561]

OMG EXCUSE ME?!? LOOK HONEY, I GOT PREGNANT AT 232lbs AND JUST BY EATING DIFFERENT DUE TO GETTING ON WIC, I'M DOWN TO 219, AND NO I'M NOT EXERCISING LIKE I SHOULD BE BUT I'M 13 WEEKS AND MY BELLY IS RETAINING ALL THE WEIGHT SO, SORRY BUT, SCREW HER! SHE DOESN'T HAVE A CLUE!

[myaugbaby22]

I weight a little more at 22 weeks and I w ways felt him move. My step grandma does the sane she always made ne cry as a teen because i never been a size one. Don't let her get to you. As long as u don't gave health problems or eat urself to a heart attack ur fine. You are beautiful❤

[BabyandChey]

No worries. I was 120-130 before I got pregnant and now I'm 160-170. I'm not even that big and my mom is ALWAYS bashing on me saying I'll never look the same and telling me I'm going to be a 'fat horse'. She also likes to give me craaap about my stretch marks though they're only on my boobs and are very faint. But I personally just think she's mad and says that to me because she never got her body back.

[jennifer_grant]

Thats a lie. I weigh the same as you and I only gained 25 lbs my whole pregnancy and I had a huge belly. I was all baby and my husband felt the baby kick when I was 16 weeks. After having the baby I lost all my baby weight within a week of him being here. Now I am not going to lie as soon as the doctor gives me the thumbs up to exercise I am going to cause I may have lost all the weight but my pregnancy tummy just fell so it needs to be tightened up. Thats the only down fall.

[nikkirilling]

I weigh 240 and can feel mine just fine. Tell her to mind her own business. She should be happy for u not acting like a  b I t c h . my mom always make fun of my weight cause I used to be tiny and she was bigger and now it's opposite and she always has to say something

[mpattea]

Nope I started off at 250pounds n trust me I have a belly to show off n I feel n see my baby move now I'm 31+weeks n I'm 276 n OMG dont worry u will lose UR weight :)

[Mel_Singh]

No im big and i feel my baby move. Shes so mean. How rude.

[stephannieluvv]

I've always been 150-160... when I got pregnant with my daughter my first doctor visit i was 158 and went up to 234. I now weigh 168 two years after my daughter.. You can do it and don't let anyone tell you different . And you will not miss out on any thing hun!!! Don't beat yourself up... She sounds ignorant

[pregoRita]

I weigh 215 and i have a huge baby bump and I can see and feel baby from the outside and so can my hubby and kids.... she sounds rude and needs to be put in her place

[chunky_punky]

Weights been a struggle for me too I was 267 at one point took me almost a yr bt I dropped dwn to 180 got pregnant now I'm 211 at 27+6 and I can see and feel my baby moving the knly thing that I wish was different is my stomach is soft and giggly not hard and cute bt when he balls up its a hard knot thatvyu can see lol you'll be fine hugs and kisses dont let anyone get to you

[mommybrandyozuna]

I was 260 before I had my first then 320 after her and I got down to 160 before this pregnancy I had never been that small before not even in school! Anything is possible and I would tell her to be quite and mind her business it's ur body u have to live with it not her!

[MissJessGolden]

Sweetie I started out at 278 and am now 244 and 23 weeks pregnant. You will feel your baby's kicks with your hand. Tell your stepmom how you feel. Honestly if she is unwilling to say anything positive during an exciting time in your life there is no need for her to be around. My bf and I went through the same thing with his mom. Keep those who bring happiness around you and your little family.

[squidbabeh]

Also, it is harder for some women to lose weight than others, obviously. But it is never impossible. Don't let her negativity get you down. Let it get you hyped to prove her wrong.

[baybeelovee1214]

Girl no! I'm 245 and trust me you will definitely show and feel the baby kick! Don't let words get to you..I'm 19+3 and there are days when I look bigger than others but my mom says it's still too soon and I'm carrying really low so my belly probably won't pop out too much. But anyways everyone is different, who cares if you do or don't show as long as your baby is healthy right :)