child care

[saramay2014]

So i have a 2month old and really i need to get a job bad but my problem is i have no clue what imma do with the baby while im at work 8hrs a day all week long. I live with my grandpa but he isnt physicaly capable of caring for her that long, i dont trust my mother or aunt, my bf works from 4pm-1am or later so he sleeps during the morning hours, his parents both work from 10-6am... i have no clue what i can or am gunna do but i need money so we can get a place to live or so i can fix my aunts old house up for us...

[saramay2014]

Also theres no way i could be a stay at home mom, my bf does not make enough to even save much money also hes not good with money he just blows it sometimes... i get foodstamps but they dont pay for cloths for her or diapers n wipes

[saramay2014]

Thanks ladies i really apreciate the advice <3

[GeekMom1213]

You need to hold him to a higher standard. If you allow him to avoid caring for her now then he'll learn that it isn't his responsibility to be an active parent. That you'll just get someone else to do it so he doesn't have to. It isn't just your job to raise her - and he needs to recognize that. The job belongs to both of you. Not extended family, not neighbors. Her parents need to raise her. If you need to get a job and you can't afford daycare then you both need to make sacrifices - not just you.
I went back to work when my son was six weeks old. I worked overnights and my husband worked days. Our little one was up several times every night and my husband was there for him - waking to every cry, feeding and changing and soothing him back to sleep. I came home around 7:30AM and slept in the mornings during nap times. We were both sleep deprived. It was hard. We needed both of our incomes to provide for our family the way we wanted to while we saved up for me to finish my degree. But we knew what to expect when we decided to have a baby and we had to be equal partners in it in order to succeed.
Don't let him get away with being a dad in name only. Don't let him grow into the stereotype of the lazy loser father. You and your child both deserve better than that. Time to step up.

[BonitaMichelle]

Sometimes its cheaper to be a stay at home mommy.

[saramay2014]

Ive asked him to feed her n watch her while i take a shower and id have to get out cause she would be screaming and hes just over there passed out... i dont understand how but yea. I mean what would happen if i left her with him for hours at a time :/ my neighbor is a cerified baby sitter n ive known her for years but im sure it cost out the butt to pay for

[manukes4]

You will need a good day care, men are crybabies when sleep deprived and the baby will suffer night shift is hard. I had to do it with our 2nd child and I would come home to screaming baby and he was asleep. See where you can get childcare assistancewith ppaying for daycare all states should offer it.

[Charbucks2121]

I agree your boyfriend will need to step up and take care of the baby in the morning. That way it will be less stress on you and you don't have to spend money on a sitter. You can find a 6-2 shift. I wish you luck!

[GeekMom1213]

Sounds to me like your boyfriend is the one who's going to have to step up and take care of his child while you go to work - lots of places offer "mothers hours" of like 8 or 9AM to 3PM which would work opposite his schedule it sounds like. Babies that age still sleep a lot - if he needs to nap for a while when the baby does then that's fine.

[lilcness]

Child action? Google it