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conception.. who's the father please help!
My Lmp was July 17 2013 i slept with one of my children fathers on July 27th at about 3:30am we had oral sex and that's when the precome came we then started having sex before he ejaculated he pulled out and we were done i then had sex with my youngest kid dad on July 28, and July 31st i took a pregnancy test August 14th it was negative then again on the 16 it was POSITIVE! Went to the E.R the urine test was negative but the blood test was POSITIVE and was only at 53 someone please help who could be the father?
Well we got the dna test which was over $1,000 since I'm still pregnant but the SECOND GUY (the one that was gone STILL stick by me) WAS THE FATHER 99.9% I'm sooooo happy and it was such a relief :)
Sorry But No One Can Tell You the Answer To That Question. The Best They Are Doing Is Guessing.You Won't Know For Sure till You Have The Baby And Do DNA Testing.
They didn't see the baby yet or the fetal pole so i go back in 2weeks for another ultrasound
My ultrasound showed 5weeks 2 days
momma, if all the indicators from the ultrasound say that the first possible day she could have conceived is August 5 or 6, it would tend to point to the second guy. (If the indicators say August 1, it could be either guy.) I suggested an early ultrasound just on the chance it would give the later date. Not because it is very likely, but if they did, it would help her ease her mind a bit during the pregnancy. You'll note that I didn't say she should not have a DNA test in any case, but knowing the odds during your pregnancy helps it not be one of constant stress and worry. She will know all in nine months, but she wants to know what she can know, now.
i'm sorry, but you had sex with one guy one day, then sex with another less than 24 hours later so there is a 50% chance for either male to be the dad. an estimated due date WILL NOT tell you who the dad is - if there was weeks between the guys then maybe, but not less than 24 hours. and it doesn't matter if you have sex at the beginning, middle or end of the month, you have a 50/50 chance of it being a boy or a girl, so the statement that the gender of your baby will indicate who the dad is is a load of tosh, I'm afraid to say. the only way you are going to know is if you do a DNA test
Honey, I think it was good to tell, although it is upsetting to everyone right now. Since your dates are so close together, all you are going to have even in a best-case scenario are some pretty strong indicators, not guarantees. I hope that will be enough to allow you to sleep better at night. The reason it is important that your boyfriend know is that you'll need to do a DNA test in the end, he may as well know now, pretty much as soon as you know there is a problem. (Then you haven't added lying to him for months on top of everything else.) Some of the girls on the DNA forum try to hide the need for a DNA test (like, by hiding it from the boyfriend and testing with the other guy), but I think that secrets as juicy as having to take a DNA test do not keep, and all the hiding and evading make the pregnancy extremely stressful. I'm sorry you (and he) are in this spot, and hope the ultrasound is helpful.
I go back on the 26th to do another blood test then they are going to schedule an ultrasound the end of that week.. i just told my boyfriend ( the one i had sex on the 28th and the 31st) that i cheated on him it was eating me up... I'm still currently crying he said that he stills wants to be with me but just doesn't want to talk right now. I just hope the doctors can give me an pretty good idea on who the father is so i can sleep better at night.
If the last time you had sex was July 31, the latest the baby would be conceived is about August 5, according to research. (Most says sperm can live 5-6 days, though some research does suggest a bit longer. Counter to that is research that says sperm is pretty weak and not doing much by that point.) I would still get that early ultrasound, though, to see if it casts any light on things.
On July 17th my blood test was 53 on the 19th it was 153 and then on the 22nd it was 600 and something... and you said August 7th the last time i had sex was July 31st
ps -- ... and even if the ultrasound does suggest August 7 or later, it is still wise to get the DNA test once the baby is born, simply to put the entire question to rest for sure.
It might be a little clearer when you get your first ultrasound, which I would recommend you get in your 6th or 7th week (counted from the first day of your last period, so, go this upcoming week). If you can, get your gestational age (the "6 weeks, 3 days" count) and definitely get an estimated due date (EDD). You can plug your EDD into a conception calculator online and count backwards and test the idea that perhaps guy #1 was too early by a bigger margin than just the difference between July 27 and 28. If the EDD and calculator don't give much of a margin, you will definitely need a DNA test. The only reason I think it might help to clarify things, is if you count backward from the hCG level of 53, dividing by two every 48 hours, it suggests conception in the first week of August. Again, even THAT is not a guarantee, since nobody can say how quickly your hCG is rising -- if it is not doubling every 48 hours (and sometimes it doesn't) then that seat-of-the-pants estimate won't help.
When you get the ultrasound around your 18th week that tells you the gender of the baby, if the baby is a boy that would tend to mitigate against the first guy being the dad.
Unfortunately, the pulling out, the baby's gender, the dividing the hCG level by 2 and counting backwards, and the earlier home test coming up negative -- none of them are guaranteed to be correct by themselves, and they aren't even definitive together. (Together they give about as much certainty as just the fact that he pulled out.) But, and again speaking very generally, it sounds like the second guy has enough of a reasonable chance that it would be worth getting the ultrasound this next week. (They are useful if early, and later it won't give you any clues.)
Unless something in the ultrasound suggests August 7 or later for conception, you will definitely need a DNA test to confirm or deny either guy.
When you get the ultrasound around your 18th week that tells you the gender of the baby, if the baby is a boy that would tend to mitigate against the first guy being the dad.
Unfortunately, the pulling out, the baby's gender, the dividing the hCG level by 2 and counting backwards, and the earlier home test coming up negative -- none of them are guaranteed to be correct by themselves, and they aren't even definitive together. (Together they give about as much certainty as just the fact that he pulled out.) But, and again speaking very generally, it sounds like the second guy has enough of a reasonable chance that it would be worth getting the ultrasound this next week. (They are useful if early, and later it won't give you any clues.)
Unless something in the ultrasound suggests August 7 or later for conception, you will definitely need a DNA test to confirm or deny either guy.
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