crazy question

[OxChanty]

I'm 18 years old, 26 weeks and having my first baby girl, my boyfriend left me when I was about 8 weeks, he text me, but he almost never ask about the baby he doesn't give me money at all, but he wants the baby to have his last name, I'm still thinking about it, but need some advise. What would you do?

[Pray4me2015]

Put his last name on an order for child support and let him deal with his actions.

[Moluko]

It's up to you.  But if he's not going to be involved in her life, why give her his last name? It'll just constantly remind her she's missing a dad.  If she's going to be with you, she should have your last name.  You and her having the same last name might make her feel closer to you and maybe help you two feel like a tighter family unit.  

[JSMS_]

I am sorry to hear that. We become mothers the moment we find out we are pregnant but a man becomes a father once the child is here no matter if we are dating engaged married or separated frm them. In my opinion your relationship status shld not determine your child's last name. As for giving you money have you asked for any? Or have you asked him to purchase anything for the baby? He really doesn't owe you anything right now, but if you are having Co payments at the Dr and any baby expenses he shld help with that. My sister was in a similar situation and he did not give any money (Child Support) until the baby came (legally in our state he didn't have to before as there's no way to prove he was the father yet and they were not married) but he did purchase all of his own clothes crib and essentials for the baby that he kept at his house for wen the baby stays wit him. Your baby is not even here yet to judge wat type of father he is going to be...I knw some amazing men and father's but wen their wives were pregnant they weren't really involved...some men are awesome wen their significant other is pregnant but most aren't so dnt sign him off jus yet. The last name is really your choice but whether you put his name on that bc or not he can still fight for legal rights and most likely win them as long as he can prove he is a fit father! Dnt stress put too much about this be encouraged! You'll be meeting your little one here shortly and that's all that really matters:)

[PeytonsMom89]

Im in the same situation.
33 weeks and he comes and goes out of me and my daughter's life as he pleases. Im not giving her his last name or putting him on the birth certificate.  Like someone said above .. juat because your the biological father doesn't make you a loving dad.

[Lovingbaby1115]

Honestly if you put hes last name and it did come down to custody you will always be the legal guardian no matter if the baby has hes last name or not and child support is the best way to go if he doesn't want to do nothing for her

[Dolliefaith]

Nope!  If he isn't supporting your child Fincally he doesn't deserve to have his last name as your daughters last!

[KandisW]

I would strongly suggest against it, all that does is give him more rights to the baby and if he decides to do custody battle then it makes it so much harder. Also when the baby is born you have the option not to list him as the father at all, so he has no parental rights unless a court specifically gives it to him. If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't document him on my child's birth certificate at all. If he's not willing to be a father now, he never will be, and he doesn't deserve rights to that baby when he doesn't care about it. I would tell him if he wants to have anything to do with his child then he better step up and be a man and help provide for the baby. Otherwise what right doe she have? Anyone can get someone pregnant, that's easy. Its stepping up and handling that responsibility that makes you a real father or not.

[ivyluna]

He's not showing any interest. I wouldn't.

[xojensen_]

Totally your call. But I find it pretty useless for her to have his last name if he's not doing anything for you nor her, he doesn't even ask about her so why give him the pleasure of her having his last night? Makes no sense that he'd even have the nerve to ask you. If that were my bf id tell him to go **** himself. Just my opinion, totally up to you though.

[Octmommy2015]

I wouldn't... for one it creates an opening for more custody issues and honest in my opinion, if you ain't married or bout to be married then the last night thing is something a man's gotta earn, and it doesn't sound like he does much to show he deserves it. If you are pretty much going yo be raising baby as a single mom then the baby should have your last name. Being the father doesn't make you dad and if he ain't gonna act like dad then why should the baby have his last name?

[Roxxxy915]

Iwouldnt put his last name cause it seems like he doesnt care & putting his last name probably wnt change how he is .