ADVICE NEEDED

[Hopechristine3]

ok ladies i need advice badly, my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years, now he is in the military. When he came home for leave in may we had talked about starting a family and getting married. Well just after he left on June 1st and got stationed somewhere i found out i was pregnant about 2 weeks later. He completely flipped out and was totally against it. Im about 37 weeks pregnant and the whole time during my pregnancy he has tried to talk me into adoption and giving up our baby bc it affects what he wants to do with his career. But when we had talked about it before i found out i was pregnant he was all for it saying he wanted a family and all. Im about to have this baby soon and he told me that if i decided to keep our little girl that he would leave & he cant even fathom the fact that i would make a decision to keep our baby over his career to support us. Now i feel bad for being the reason he cant do what he wants, but its also not fair to ask me to give up our baby when he said he wanted this and im so in love with her... im dying inside and dont know how to tell him im 100% keeping her bc i know he will leave and i love him soo much..HELP?!

[BabyWidmer]

Don't give up your daughter if you don't want to, especially over some guy. I understand you love him, but he is NOT more important then your daughter! What did she do wrong? Don't punish her, punish him for being a dic*

[BabyWidmer]

Don't give up your daughter if you don't want to, especially over some guy. I understand you love him, but he is NOT more important then your daughter! What did she do wrong? Don't punish her, punish him for being a dic*

[Catherinee28]

He's a *********, I understand you love him. But he's is not worth more than your precious baby girl. Don't give your daughter up for adoption you'll regret it later.

[LoveCake98]

If you don't want to give her up then don't.  It's not your fault he did a 180 on you.  Get him on child support and consider moving on. Life is too short to waste with men who are lousy fathers.

[Hopechristine3]

Thank you ladies very much, i am just extremely stressed out & needed some advice! I have tons to think about, but im hoping he comes around bc i dont want to give up my baby girl.

[KellyHamilton]

My heart just broke a little bit for:( I'm so sorry you have to deal with this when this should be such an amazing experience for both you and him. I don't think your going to like anyone's advice on what you should say to your boyfriend because what he really needs to hear from you is "your being an a**" I wish I had the perfect words for you to tell him but I don't, but, I wanted to tell you that you deserve someone who will be there for you and your baby girl. Hopefully he will come around and his terrible reaction to all this is just coming from stress he is going through being in the military? Either way, you do not deserve that.

[BabyWidmer]

I agree with Kaymanchase!!!

[Lovingtom]

Why would it mess up his career? Not good. I personally would never give up my child I carried for any reason!

[Kaymanchase]

Drop him, girl. Your daughter is YOUR DAUGHTER. She shouldn't be viewed as "the reason" her parents can't do something. She didn't choose to be conceived, but you both chose to risk it. **** him. He's a piece of **** for making you think like that at all. You love your little girl. You'll love her more than you'll ever love any man. Keep your daughter and drop the jarhead.

[Lovingtom]

Wow so sad :( I agree with the previous post

[BabyWidmer]

Men come ago go but your kids do not! My ex did the same exact thing and guess what? I dumped him and kept my son. You can only decide but think if he breaks up with you in a yr anyways and you gave up your child for him. Then what? In NO way shape or form am I putting you down. It just infuriates me when men do this. He is NOT worth it! Your child needs you! You need her!