christmas is coming and beyond sad

[elen83]

It's Christmas time and one of the special holidays that I love because it's about being with those who you love. It will be my first Christmas without having a dinner with my family. My dad hasn't accepted my husband and neither our unborn child. It will just be my husband and I for xmas eve and Xmas day. My mom and sister may come briefly on one of the days but not to stay long. My mom doesn't want to cause problems with my dad so we are having our dinners separate.  I refuse to be around my dad because of his ignorance and to always have to please his wishes. My mom said hopefully my dad will come around when the baby is born. But how can I accept his acceptance then? He has put me through so much heart ache and I try to stay positive for baby. I never imagined in a million years having Christmas without family and especially one with a baby on the way.

[elen83]

Thank you Nikki. What your wrote meant a lot. I hope my father comes around and sees what he has been missing.

[nikki_4_02_15]

I am sorry to hear. Your dad should just accept your husband. If your husband is a good hardworking man then i dont see what his problem is. As long as your husband treats you right then he should be happy for you and set aside his differences. Regardless you are still his daughter, and you are carrying his grandchild whom is innocent in all of this and is still just as much his flesh and blood to him. Your dad may need time. If he comes around then let him in. You dont want to teach your child to be vengeful and spiteful. Hopefully you and your dad can settle the differences soon. Just let him know u always have an open seat at the dinner table for him too.