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Help me! advice plz
So confused and don't know what to do. The father of the baby and I are no longer together and he hasn't really been there for me throughout my whole pregnancy like a man should be and he really thinks he deserves to be in the delivery room when she is born and to cut her umbelical cord and for her to have his last name. It means so much to him he's been giving me hell for it. Blowing up my phone and calling the hospital everyday to see if I'm in labor. I just don't think he deserves it. Idk if I'm being selfish or not but what do u guys think about it??
I wasn't married when I had my first, he's almost 6 now. There was no way in hell I'd ever give my child my boyfriends last name. Nopeee. My son has MY last name and he's also in my custody. His father hasn't physically 'seen' him in pretty much 3 years. Why would I give my flesh and blood his non existant awful 'fathers' last name? Craziness. Plus... If you were to ever get married to him you could always change the last name then. Speaking from experience if he was a crappy person pre-child... He's going to be a crappy person post-child. All my sperm donor got was his name on the birth certificate and acknowledgement of paternity. And he doesn't even deserve that!
It will totally be your decision. I say if he is abusive to you then you keep him out. Sounds like you aren't comfortable being around him which will make your delivery stressed. Having him at the hospital is one thing, but in the room for the delivery, personally, I would say no. That precious space should be for someone who cares for you and will support you bc giving birth is a super personal & important time in your life. As for the last name issue, You aren't married, you aren't together, he isn't there to support you so I say the baby had your last name. Any choice you make will be the right one for you. Don't let anyone intimidate you into making a decision that you are comfortable with. Dint second guess yourself. Your first impulse is usually the right one.
He doesn't deserve to be there. When you do go in to have your baby, make sure you tell the hospital not to give any information out. It's supposed to be a day of memories. Don't let him take them from you...
Dont feel guilty it is completely your choice.
Yes. What our my coffee said. If you are not married it is YOUR choice what last name your child has and YOUR choice who is interested he room during delivery.
Unless you are married its your choice in the last name and who is in the room.
Personally I would probably let him see her born. However if he made me uncomfortable at any point I would kick him out. I would also make sure younhave someone like your mom or best friend their to be there for YOU. And they can also be in charge of kicking him out ;) as for the last name absolutely not. A man doesn't deserve that unless he is with the mother when the baby is born. You are going to be the one doing all their school papers ect. I would want them to have my last name is I wasn't married but thats just my opinion.
Im in the same situation and my baby is NOT carrying his last name.and I told him if he even says one more word out of the way to me or gives me one more wrong look then he wont be in the delivery room.I cant stand him.we separated before i found out I was pregnant and all he is is a dead beat but he thinks that he has the right to be in the room when I deliver my child.
Just do what's best for you and ur baby girl because it's going to always be about her...
I don't think it's going to hurt you to let him see her born but if he wasn't around the whole time I wouldn't give her his last name but that's just me
.My baby dad was the same way but he was around and my son is two years old and he's still there. I even got mad when I was having my son and put him out but I had to give him a chance to be a man. ...
.My baby dad was the same way but he was around and my son is two years old and he's still there. I even got mad when I was having my son and put him out but I had to give him a chance to be a man. ...
No he doesnt deserve it if he hasnt been there through your pregnancy tell him he wont be there at the birth but he can sit outside tell him you want someone your are comfortable with like your mum but he is more than welcome to come after once shes born and uv cleaned up
Only you can make that decision. Is having him there gonna be detramentl to you during labour if so say no
He has drank and partied alot while I was prego and mentally abused me too. All my friends and family don't think he deserves it but idk I'm having doubts about it again
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