embarrassing!!!!

[ZM2014]

Okay so this might be too much information but I gotta tell you all because I've been curious if I'm the only one going through this! I live with my in-laws and I can't even use the bathroom there without my brother in law knocking on the door every time I go in. He makes a big scene and OMG I feel so embarrassed. And so it's been so long and I don't even eat because I don't wanna have to use the bathroom and my stomach starts to hurt and if I do eat it hurts because I don't go to the bathroom and I hold it in. I know that is disgusting but I swear the family I live with (in-laws) are wild. They are a family of 7 and 2 bathrooms and the bathroom upstairs is by the living room so they can hear EVERYTHING and the one downstairs is the one I like going to because no one is downstairs but then my brother in-law follows me everywhere and he keeps knocking on the door and it makes me so mad. I now have a stomachache and I worry that if I go he might make a big scene and go tell his family that I'm in the bathroom and they all laugh and this and that. OMG I hate this. I really have to go and if I go they will tell my husband that I was in the bathroom and thus happened and that happened and my husband will laugh.... my in laws drive me insane I swear!!!! This is just hard to explain.. going through it is much more harder than explaining it.

[GenesisAbigail]

Sounds like you are very young

[B1128]

I agree with RockRose. She after all has the best advice on here usually.

[RockRose]

ZM,  I just read a couple of your posts and really,  this is beyond weird.

Why are you living there?  If they kicked you out,  where would you go?

Go wherever that place is.

[Kathy2015]

I'd be a jerk just for spite. Every time I peed I'd call him in to flush the toilet for me. If he's that interested in what you are doing let him at least be useful. Im sure he'll get the point once you start calling him from his room or away from the tv just to flush the toilet. Of course don't call him for a BM, he will just use that to make fun of you more. Running the shower is a great idea I think. And if the in-laws get mad about all the water usage then you can counter with why you do it. If they want you to stop then they need to stop.

[B1128]

The shower will help with any type of smell also, and gives you as much time as you want, and makes it sound proof (: hang in there honey! I couldn't deal with it. You should speak with your husband about it, he shouldn't be okay with someone, even if it is his brother, making you uncomfortable. You are in a uncomfortable enough situation by living with them. He could atleast say something to them.

[phyliciahughes112493]

I was the same way actually when I moved in with my boyfriend and his family because his brother would follow me and knock on the door and even just open it knowing I'm in there so I got to the point where I turn on the water every time I go so no one will hear me

[ZM2014]

Thank you all. And Im going to speak to my husband about it. And my brother in law is actually 23... and he is mentally ill so the things he does makes me even more angry. Not only does he bother me when I'm in the bathroom but whenever I'm eating he looks at me and gives me the dirtiest look like "why are you eating my family's food" and I hate using the upstairs bathroom because it doesn't have a fan... whenever someone uses it OMG I can smell it all the way from my room which is on the 3rd level.... ugh.... and from now on I'm just gonna go when I have to...

[B1128]

Bring music and head phones with you, do it to him. Follow him around and knock on the door while he's doing his business. Going to the bathroom is a very private thing for me, it is just my boyfriend and I but it's still something I don't talk about. Turn the shower on when you go! He will think you are taking a shower, it is what I always used too do when I needed to and had no choice being at someone's house.

They all sound extremely immature, but until you find a way around it, it's going to bother you. These are just my suggestions lol. I'd follow the f.u.c.k.e.r and do the same thing to him. But after all, I'd rather just turn the shower on and let er eat (:

[Nickley3]

How old is your brother in law? Sounds like 10 year old behavior from everybody.

[fabulously_fabulous]

Have you been ignoring him or fueling his fun by getting angry or upset?   I would assume if you ignored his behaivor he would tire of it.  What an immature family you have to deal with!

[janellemassy]

Its kinda rediculous ur brother-in law does this. Do it back to him or tell him to stop bc not eating and not pooping is not healthy. I dnt like ppl hearing me use the bathroom as much as the next person but i wouldnt not eat and hold it in bc of tht. Everybody poops.

[kcarscad]

I totally get how that would be annoying and frustrating. I would honestly just tell them straight up that they need to stop especially you're brother in law.