explain fatique to husband

[Montanamomma2]

Hey girls. I am expecting my 2nd baby my husband and I are more than excited! But he is having a hard time dealing with my fatique he keeps telling ms that I am being lazy and it is really starting to get to me. I currently work nights and we have a 3 yr old girl so on the rare occasion she has a sleepover with her grandparents I take advantage of rest. Rest turns into me sleeping almost all day then when he gets home he makes me feel lousy because of it. He thinks I just need to make myself get up run errands or just do something and I won't be as tired. He doesn't understand that I am just plain exhausted no matter what I do. How can I explain to him its not laziness and that this exhaustion period will subside later on in the pregnancy?

[anwhatin1]

You just tell him to go ahead a make a baby while doing everything u do in a day and then he can complain.

Seriously, he is being rediculous u r tired and he should understand that his baby needs u to rest when u r tired and if u get a day off then he should pick up the slack till u r better which could be 3 months.
If he wants a baby then he needs to read a book and understand what u r going through or at least have knowledge about what happens during pregnancy and that is normal and u should be resting instead of adding to your stress.
Sorry it is a little harsh I just can't stand it when men think u should do everything u did before and after your pregnancy. They created a baby as well we just have to carry it so be understanding or shut up.
I hae a good husband in the sense that he is a stay at home dad and understands that when I get home I am tired and can't always help him. Although he has other flaws this is one good thing that many other women wish they had.
Tell your husband to buck up and stop making u feel this way and help out during this time.

[deekie25]

How far along are you? I pretty much slept through the entire first trimester I was so exhausted and the reason for that....? Making a baby Is hard work your body is in overdrive for the first few months at New life. Not only are we making a baby in that first part but we are also pretty much growing a brand new organ( placenta)to feed our child with. And those first few months is where so much happens. Egg is fertilized egg turns into fetus. Fetus forms an actual shape instead of being a sea monkey. Arms and legs grown heart forms along with other organs..... It's a lot of stuff to happen in such a short space of time. And those first few months are some of the most important for baby and the way our bodies can create something like this is a miracle. I'm now 39 weeks and 3 days and I'm active. I now the lawns every week I cook I clean and do the laundry I do the shopping.... The fatigue doesn't last forever and over working your body when you are exhausted will only do more harm then good....there's a few shortish documentries he should watch that cycles through a baby growing inside and he might learn that it's not just lazyness.Otherwise get him to read some comments and know that he will never understand fully what it is like growing a human but to know that it's hard work.