family drama

[TeenMomma2Be]

......im not with my babys father...i have a new boyfriend YES IM ONLY 8 weeks and 4 days but im happy......my mother says im a bad person for it and pretty much just kicked me out k
(she said she is bring home boxes for my stuff) idk where to go....or how to fix this.....i just...wanna be happy.....

[makeartnotwarr69]

I didn't report you ash060115, I don't even know how to do that. And it didn't have anything to do with the advice you were giving it is about the way you say things just like joanna290 said. I just feel like on the posts I've seen you have always come across very harshly and I have seen comments from you saying you like drama.. anyway. That's all I have to say. I'm done posting on this thread

[ash060115]

Teenmomma2b I wasn't trying to be judgemental I was just being honest.

Funny how the person who bashes me here for a comment gives the exact same advice and then reports me :/

I hope you found somewhere to stay last night.
I'd my first child when I was your age and I know its really hard. Your ma has your best interests at heart too - I didn't see my mas pov when I was 18 either n wish someone had made me listen t her.  

Apologies if I did offend you but I honestly didn't mean t sound like I was being horrible

[Joanna290]

Makeartnotwarr69 I understand what you meant.. its the way some people say things.. no one wants to hear negative when they are in a situation like that.. I dont agree with the whole kicking you out deal. . Your life.. parents should encourage their children.. not kick them out when things get tough. I could never imagine kicking my daughter out especially if she is in such a vulnerable state of being pregnant. I hope things get better for you and your mom puts herself in your shoes.. you dont just give up on the ones you love.. boys come and go but a daughter doesnt.

[ash060115]

@makeartnotwar - I don't know what planet your on but how the feck am I being judgemental??
By saying I agree its a little early to be dating - its an opinion supported by many many people including this young girls mother.

I can see this from her mothers pov - and being a mother I'd be concerned if it was my daughter.  

Controversial advice ?? - by saying maybe stay with a friend to let her mom calm down-
How is that controversial ?

YOU JUST TOLD HER THE EXACT SAME ADVICE!

[MommaBearJojocy]

California law is Ur parents have to take care of until the age of 19 if u are still in high school

[LadyBeeley]

I met my current bf when I was 9wks with my first daughter. But theres a difference. I was supporting myself. I could pay to feed me and my baby. I had a roof over pur head and my own vehicle in my own name. It doesnt matter WHEN you meet. But as long as youre a dependent of your parent they do have the right to call the shots. And as a mother, im sorry, your happiness doesnt matter anymore. Is you wanting a relationship more important than possibly being homeless and having your child taken away forever?  Its the raw truth of motherhood: we sacrifice for our children. You need to decide if you will for yours. If you want this relationship you need to buck up, find a place to live, get a job, find a way to get food, transportation, your own health insurance. I really hope im not coming off rude, but I see this as a mother. If it were my daughter living In my home you can bet your bum I would do the same.

[Mreeah]

Would she let you stay at home if you werent dating that guy?
Honestly a stable home is important right now. Dating can be saved for later when you can stand on your own.

[makeartnotwarr69]

Ash060115 you are always giving the most controversial advice and you said you Always miss all the drama.  Stop coming onto people post and saying judgemental things.  You don't even know her. Stop being judgemental damn.

teenmomma2be: I would try and stay with a friend for a few days. Someone you can talk to and give her time to calm down. Sometimes when parents are afraid or hurt they can lash out but no relationship is dead or something like that. As far as dating, may not be the best so soon. But if you're happy then go for it

[tattoobabyjean]

Oh I take that back you are 18. Sorry the teen mom name threw me off. You're legally an adult but still that nonemergency number willhelp if a friend won't take you in.

[TeenMomma2Be]

i am 18:(

[tattoobabyjean]

If your mom is kicking you out I would call the non-emergency number to the police department and see what they can do to help you.. as a pregnant woman they do have emergency housing. Since you are not 18 what your mother is doing is considered neglect to a minor.

[ash060115]

Its a little soon to be dating new guys really now isn't it? ... I'm guessing your only young -
But your mom has to firstly come to terms with you being pregnant and now you've a new boyfriend.  

I can understand her pov and why she's angry with you.  She's obviously worried and stressed.
However kicking you out is a bit drastic.

Maybe stay with a friend for a few days? Let her calm and then talk

[ejimenez24]

Sometimes parents lose site of what is important. Happiness and a healthy relationship is important. You shouldn't be pressured into being with someone whom you don't want to be with because of a child. Remember to stand strong for what is best for you and your child. Honesty is always the best foundation for a new relationship. Make sure you share your emotions and your situation so you can get the support you need from your partner since you can't have the support of your family right now. Good luck and congratulations on your baby.