feeling self conscious.... :(

[Bellas_Mami12]

I been living with my bf for over a yr now. I'm due in 28 days with our first child together. Since becoming pregnant I haven't gotten any compliments from him. Before I was pregnant he called me beautiful all the time & couldn't keep his hands off me. Last night even though it sounded like he was joking he called me a " big whale " & I went in the other room & cried & he just went to bed to sleep. Before even going to bed he was on his phone looking at car parts for 3 hrs on his day off.. I would ask him to sit by me & he wouldn't even come by me. Then this morning I made myself dome waffles & brought them in bed cause I can't sit up anymore cause my baby's butt and legs are jammed up in my ribs ( I know weird & painful ) doc just told me this yesterday. Then he walks in the room and calls me Norbits gf the big woman on the movie.. I'm not even that big. I bursted into tears. He just turned the other way. He said sorry but in a sarcastic voice. Things haven't been going good. He never wants to do anything. My mom bought the baby a crib yesterday I thought we could both put it together but he's in bed... While I was crying he started snoring... I just don't know what yo do. But I refuse to have my daughter see a man ever put me down. I want to be strong for her.

[Bellas_Mami12]

Thanks a lot I just talked to him like how you suggested. We aren't fighting anymore. & he said he won't joke around with me abt calling me big. & I agree I should be happy during this time. Its getting so close to have her.

[verso29]

Just communicate with him. Don't raise your voice or get frustrated. Just speak your mind in a calm manner. My dad is a marriage counselor so I kinda know a lil about couples communication. I spent hours helping my dad study. Lol. Back to the subject. If his behavior continues, then take a break from him. Look at it this way, if this was your daughter in your position, what advice would you give her? How would you want her to handle this situation? Some things are easier said than done. If you have the means and resources to go stay at moms or a friends house for a few or even until the baby is born, do so. This is a time to be stress free and excited. Not to have tears in your eyes. I cried so much during the pregnancy with my daughter that I look back now and think, whyyyy??? Nothing stays the same. Including the bad. Some men, just aren't attracted to pregnancy, and some, love pregnant women. But it should not warrant abuse (even if its minimal)

[Bellas_Mami12]

Years** not hours

[Bellas_Mami12]

He has a son but his son is in mexico hes abt 6 hrs old. He sends a lot of money there to support him. & yes we did plan to have a baby.& thanks I'm just worried with how he puts himself first &, cuts me down it won't get any better.  

[verso29]

I'm sorry to hear that you are having a hard time with your bf. Have you sat down with him to talk about it? If he's being sarcastic, I suggest you have a mediator so that he has no choice but to listen and be sincere in his responses. It sounds like to me, and I may be wrong, that he feels like he is not ready to have a baby. Was this a surprise pregnancy, or planned? I went through something similar to this with my husband, then bf. We weren't even together AT ALL because the thought of being a first time father made him angry. He resented me for keeping the baby. But once she was born, everything changed, 6 months later we were married. But yes, talk to him, and I wish you the best of luck!!! Once baby is born, nothing else will matter.