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im going to get bashed for this and i dont care.
I'm not religious. But I don't disrespect people who are. But my step mom feels she needs to shove it down my throat she even said she was going to take my child to church even after I said no.I feel like my child is going to be brain washed before she can even speak. She also has told me what diapers I will be using and what not but the main thing is when she tells me about how I need to be in church. I want to leave so bad but have nowhere to go and I understand I am stuck till my husband and I get a car but I just needed to vent.so thanks for reading and if I get bashed then oh well
I mean that's your opinion and if that's how you feel your mom should respect that because that is your child
I understand how you feel. My dads side of my family was like that. Theyre Mormon and talked me into getting baptised as a Mormon when I was only 8. They would always to to talk me and my siblings and my mom to go to church. She even tried to get me and my husband to get married in the temple so we wouldnt get separated "when we go to heaven." Honestly I dont think I even believe in God.
Ugh, I hear you. My husband and I are non religious too and it has been a little difficult getting my parents to accept that. St the end of the day this is your child and your decision. I'm sure she would find it appalling if someone was keeping their step child from bringing her daughter to church. Stick to your guns.
I'm sorry you're going through this, my parents let me choose to be religious or to not be, and that's how it should be honestly.. You shouldn't be forced to believe in anything you don't want to, that's how I'll raise my baby girl also.. Its not your mothers decision what's so ever nor should it be anyone else's but your babies when its older.. Just my opinion, I hope things work out for you
I don't but I don't get into debates with people and don't like to at all. But she has crossed so many lines it's not funny. I am scared she is going to take my child to church without telling me since I live here. I feel that if my child wants to go then she should say so not start before she can even walk
I am a Christian but my husband is atheist. We both agreed to raid our kids with morals and good character and allow them to learn of religions on there own the way my parents let me. That way they are informed if they want to be and dont feel like religion was shoved down their throat. I had a lot of friends in high school that gave up religion because because they felt forced into it based on parents beliefs. Hubby is atheist and is one of the best people I know as far as being a good person and doing the right thing. I feel that a just God would be ok with that.
I'm glad I don't go through that since we moved away from family it was the best choice don't judge but I do love the family but being away from them makes life easier
Your belief, or non beliefs are yours. And its not fair for her to make you feel this way. Best way to keep her from taking your daughter to church would be to lock whichever room your daughter is going to be in that night and sleep in there. So theres no way she can "sneak off" with her if thats what or how you want to bring your child up. On top of that your husband should help if he is the same as you. If hes not, that could be a little harder, cus its his child too. But really you just need to be firm with her, not insulting, but firm. Good luck.
When my husband and I were dating I was questioning and he is athiest then I started doing research on religion itself and science and that made me athiest as well. And my mom knows that but she keeps says "well I hope you are on fire for god like I am" and I want to scream and tell her how I feel but I bottle it up since I am stuck till tax time. I don't care what other people believe and feel we should respect each other no matter what but she trys to change me by telling me to go to church. I vent to my husband all the time and he is getting annoyed with it.so I feel sooo alone.
My daughter will be in my room for the first few months and I hope we will be moving soon after.
Good luck, soon you guys will be good when u move and get your stuff togheter, but honestly people that are set to there beliefs will not stop bugging,some people don't get it and feel like there doing you a favor and them selves spreading there religion word around by trying to push you to it so its a tough one. Honestly just ignore lol it gets annoying
I have been ignoring it but I am about to come unglued. I guess its just the hormones idk. We are trying to keep the peace ATM but I feel so disrespected.
I don't really know your situation personally since my family and I are Christian, but I do believe that wether we are and someone els is not thats not our business, its not our place to try and force it down if someone truly doesn't want it. And when I read your post I thought this was your mother in law, not your step mom. Have you talked to your dad about it? Is he as religiously nutty as she is? I mean theres one way of inviting people to church and then theres the wrong way. Obviously shes doing it the wrong way, specially when it concerns your child. You'll be able to get out of there, but that won't always garuntee she'll stop pestering the issue. Better to nip it now than later. Good luck.
My dad says he is but doesn't act like it and doesn't go to church. And he will just say there is nothing he can do about it. So till I move I'm biting my tongue and If she trys to take her while she has her on the weekend I'll just pick her up on Saturday
I have done research on religion and science my self... I love to research things because there is so much to know out there about everything. My research has not made me doubt my faith because science backed up what I feel about my faith. I don't have a specific religion because I have not found one that thinks and interprets the bible the way I do. I don't think anyone should force any faith on a child because there are so many and no one is sure what is really right. All religions see the bible the wrong way. I think everyone should raise their children with morals and values, teaching them right from wrong and to be a good person. If a parent wants to take a child to church then I think they should take them to many different kinds so the child can later choose what is right for them. I think if you raise your child right they will be fine and they can decide the rest later... they should not have any influence about what they should believe it's for them to figure out. I would tell your mom it is out of the question to influence your child.. tell her you want her to decide on her own what she wants to invite into her life. After your child gets older let her experiment with different religions.. but if you do not have a religion your baby should probably wait till she gets older and haves thoughts of her own or you are right they will brain wash her... good luck..
I am catholic and will raise my child as is. With that said, in the end it is ultimately your choice on whether you want your child to be religious or not. It should always be a personal choice. If my child grows up and does not want to continue being catholic then I will accept it. I am no one to judge. Good luck.
I didn't realize you were the same lady who had concerns about the dogs. In all honesty speaking up about this and the other will help. Even if it seems like it won't, its your choice of course. But nothing gets done with a closed mouth and hurt feelings.
I plan on teaching my child different religions and explain why her father and I are athiest. Then when she is older let her decide I'll be proud of my daughter either way because then she can explain to people about her religion or non religion because she can back it up and not just say "oh well it's in the bible" my mom did this to my niece and now she is questioning herself and she is scared to talk to my mom because of how religious she is. And I can't help her because I myself dont have all the answers
@luxah yes I vent a lot but also know it won't do any good. She is closed minded. And its ONLY her way cause its her house. I'm not looking for advice on this one just needed to vent :) but I do thank everyone for not bashing me and giving me advice
Also I am glad I'm not the only one. I feel better now.
My family is super religious too. I'm not atheist but I don't believe in god either, but I believe in the ouroboros that with a every ending there is a beginning and I really do hope there is an afterlife but if not I will have lived life to the fullest. My family hates that I believe this and no matter how many times I tell them don't bring up religion with me because you'll only get mad they do it anyway or they try to convert me. I've lived with it since I was 14 when I chose to be open with not believing but my fiance didn't and has a really hard time handling my family, like my sister got a bible for our baby she knows how I feel yet she did it anyways on the assumption that since she got it for the baby id let her have it as soon as she's born or read it too her. I was mad but I've been dealing with this forever, he wanted to shove it back at my sister but didn't because of me. I'm going to put it in a box with some other things that when shes older she'll get.
Your welcome. I wish you luck in gettin out of that fun filled house soon. For the sake of your sanity x.x I wouldn't be able to do that. For your niece she should find a group or someone else to talk to. Whether its about religion or science or whatever. Your mom soumds like the last person who should be giving spiritual (and non) advice to anyone. And nobody has all the answers, only ones who do are dead.
I can see it now my family saying god loves you or something along that nature and trying to explain that to a 3/4 year old with a ticked off husband. Truly your step mom doesn't think she can just take your baby just because. I understand needing to bite your tongue (even when others will not) but that's your baby, you get to make the decision.
My husband wants to argue with her so bad but I tell him no. But once we have our own place I can't hold him back lol. We bought a bible but only because to many people were saying this or that wasn't in the bible and we got one to prove them wrong
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