huge baby shower dilemma

[sairynfrey]

So my close friends are throwing me a baby shower for my twin girls and I'm a ftm. They've been more of a family for me than my own and my own have treated me like crap for the last couple of years. My question is, do I still invite them? Or just invite the one that I still get along with? Is it worth the potential stress?

[sairynfrey]

Thank you all for your advice!

[kelsobliss]

I think the thing that stands out to me is, "they treat me like cramp." Im not sure its so much about differences of opinion or not just getting along. If people are mean, bullies or go out of their way to treat you poorly, they dont nenecessarily need to come. They can always throw another shower if they want to change their game and be nicer.

[BonitaMichelle]

There are 2 events in life family should not be debated over. Birth and death. Marriage use to be included but everyone doesn't view marriage as a 1 time event. Your baby will be born once and die once as we all will. Set your differences aside and celebrate the life of your baby.  

10 years from now when ur child looks at pictures and ask why auntie or uncle isnt there. Are u going so say "mommy didn't like them when u were in my tummy"

Its just another perspective.  Im not saying im right. Just seems childish to exclude over something so important and only happens once.

[BonitaMichelle]

Who cares if aunts and uncles are judgemental.  I was raised to be who I am regardless of judgement.  I dont dislike people, especially family,  because their views are different from mine.  im an adult! I can accept a persons opinion as their own, not fact.

[janellemassy]

I have problems with alott of my family not my mom or dad but like my aunts and uncles bc they are judgemental p.ricks! Who cant say anything to ur face but kno exactly wat to say to **** me off. I dnt like putting myself through tht kinda stress bc i dnt need ppl like tht who only bring me down in my life. Tht is my thoughts. Family or not u are going to treat me how i want to be treated or not be in my life. Bc i dnt need it and my baby sure as h.eck dont.

[wholivedinashoe]

Leave them where they are. There is no rule that says you have to invite anyone to anything that you are having. Let drama and the people that like it stay away, the only thing you have to do is get prepared for 2 babies at once.

[Zay07]

I think it all depends on how bad the situation is. If its something small that you know you guys can work out I would definitely  invite them just to be the bigger person, but if its something  really serious going on where you know there is going to be drama then don't Because  it will ruin your entire day.

[kelsobliss]

Have fun getting excited about your new life as a mom:)

[kelsobliss]

For me the baby shower is about celebrating something very exciting that is happening in my life.
If they can be genuinely happy about what is happening (YOU'RE HAVING A BABY!!!!) Then hey, there's room at the party!
If they aren't happy and ready to celebrate then its just not the party for them. It isnt the day to be worried or caring for rude people. Its a day to be filled with gratitude and  

[19jellybean94]

If it was me, i'd only invite the people I get along. Inviting the people that treat you like crap will make you stress and there would be drama. But in saying that, inviting the people that treat you like crap, shows that your being the bigger and mature one. It's your choice :)