isn't wrong to be pregnant out of wedlock

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Hello ladies sorry to bored u with my story but i just can't get over it have been so much in tears.IIs all about my mum so i have been having trouble for the past two years she married another man have 3children and then divorce him, so she then expect so much from me by helping him with the kid, i so much help her with the kids even living my job just to make sure am with them and was just going to evening college, so she doesn't even help me financially not even contributing to my school, i was feed up and drop out  of school. Not i do seem to be good at all tell everyone how bad that i am not helpping her with the kids most time she even lock the kitchen before going to work so that i will not eat i cry all day and night looking very thin.then later i spoke with my aunt and i went to live with her and got a mini job but she always come around and fight with my aunt. 

I met with my fiance date him for one year and then he ask me to move over and now am pregnant for him 35weeks soo people advice me to let her know that i am pregnant she still remains my mum no matter what, then i called her and told her but she started  laughing at me that i have got pregnant out of wedlock that am going to suffer the guy will never marry me she know am going to end up that way that i am a disgrace she and her kids will never anything do with me. 

I have been cring if really i have made a the greatest mistake pls ur advise will do me better pls and am 25years

Sxl0072412 · Answer

Girl I am on baby number two and not married or engaged. We live together and it's the same baby daddy. 
Things work out and even if they don't hey you only have one kid so I'm sure you'll focus on just that! Good luck and btw stay away from your mom, I've had to do it and even to this evening I still only see her once in a while. We love each other with space lol

sheku · Answer

U have said it all  jealousy that ist

hazel0150 · Answer

Don't pay attention to your mom evidently there some jealousy....

MrsBaskerville2015 · Answer

Being married before sex is what is looked upon as the right way.  Nobody can say how many kids u are allowed to have and not being married.  You only have to answer to one and He is the ultimate and final authority.  Just take care of yours with the love you want to be given back.  Your baby is a gift to you, no matter your situation, cherish it.

Cbeginning · Answer

God Loves us all the same, regardless of our faults, trials, or sins as long as we ask forgiveness. Please don't allow people to speak negative over your life only speak life. God bless you

chelle24681 · Answer

flaws she takes it out on you, know that our age doesn't determine maturity! Learn from her mistakes and love her from a distance. You will be married soon enough! God bless you and your growing family!

chelle24681 · Answer

Focus on your health and the health of your baby, being a mother is a hard job! Trail and error so to speak, be there for your growing family and let your mother be bitter alone, she may see something in you that she lost in herself a long time ago and instead of noticing her

Annisha_1 · Answer

I feel what yiu are. Going through. She is your mom,but she cant be a bully and as negative as you have narrated. I myself just turned 27years am 36weeks down the road. I got pregnant while i was on a vist to my boyfriend in Africa. I have seen people judge me condemn since i am a Christian. They look at me as a teeribke sinner. I have a very religious lady but guess what stuff happened!!! It hasnt been easy cos you always have to see the people who respected u look down on u cause u got pregnant  out of wedlock. It bothered me at first. But when i realised that Children come from God cos i have no idea how a human being grow inside a woman's womb without nobody touching it. Develop stage by stage!! That is a mystery only Hod can do! So its a blessing you and i have to embrace and forget about talkers. Enjoy ur pregnancy and be strong sheku. She will come to u when she is ready to change her mindset en lifestyle. Take care dear.

watermelon15 · Answer

My aunt and uncle are not married. Never got married, it's just not something they think determines your chsracter, or how well you parent. They have been together 30+ years and have 3 sons and 5 grandkids together. Nobody even realizes they aren't legally married lol. So who cares, your mom sounds like a horrible person. I wouldn't put much into what she says. You don't want someone like that apart of your child's life anyways.

sheku · Answer

When i found out i was pregnant we decided to have an official living together at the registry and we start saving up for next year.

Mrsjackson0406 · Answer

You have no reason to feel.ashamed because you are pregnant and not married. When my husband and I had our first we were not married. I was the happiest mother and did not care what others thought. Now the second time.around we are married. I just would not suggest having more than one child without being married. Enjoy your pregnancy and the little one when he comes.

Miyu19 · Answer

Don't put much thought into hun. She sounds incredibly selfish, childish and doesn't want anyone but her to be happy. Concentrate on your happiness and making sure that the baby is, as well as you, are healthy.

sheku · Answer

Thanks ladies i  keep imaging while she hate me sooo much

Miyu19 · Answer

You know what? Screw your mom. She sounds like and awful person anyway. Cut the limb off before the infection spreads. Did that to my toxic brother. Things may or may not mend themselves between family. Blood isn't thicker than water. My god mom is there for me more than some family members.  Don't get me wrong, I still love my bro and should anything happen, I'll show up, he might not but whatever.

Don't let this stress you out, that's not good for you or the baby. A mother should be happy for her child and not let them suffer in any way. Your mom doesn't sound like a mom making you do so much without any love or appreciation. My mom bends over backwards for me and I know that most mother's do the same for the children they love as will I for my child.

Wedlock or not, doesn't matter. You said he's your fiance so that should be a strong indication that you still have him right now and will eventually marry before or after the baby comes.

xoxosarah_ · Answer

Girl do not feel bad ! So many people are pregnant or have children and are not married ! When you meet your baby you will not care what she or anyone says trust me i know !!! She will be the one suffering in the end when she sees your baby and feels bad for how she treated you

blanca_13 · Answer

A lot of people get pregnant out of wedlock sweet heart. That doesn't make them any less happy. A piece of paper makes no difference in how happy people should be. 
If your mom doesn't want anything to do with you and persists on treating you harsh the best thing to do is leave her out of your life and move forward.
Good luck with everything, I'm positive you'll get married and even if you do don't I'm sure you'll be very VERY happy.

QueenRubyRed · Answer

No you have not done anything wrong. You should just worry about you and baby and leave your mom alone because she's the one making the mistake by hurting you when your helping her out and her payback is to put you down. I would stop helping her with the kids and anything I do for her if that's how my mom was acting

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