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keeping to yourself

So my fiancé is always saying that we need to go out out with his friends and honestly I am in the mind set of I just don't wanna be around other people, especially HIS friends. . I was never the one to have a lot of friends they would always come and go. He on the other hand grew up with his friends and enjoys being around them he just doesn't get where I am coming from.
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I definitaly find it pointless now to even try to make friends for myself. We are from Florida, but live in Kentucky, but he has friends here and I dont. My boyfriend is just more likeable then I am, and I find it difficult to connect with others, especially his older friends he has here. My boyfriend has more life expierences then I do, has done more and been all over. He knows more and just has everything to talk about, he can get along with anyone, I just dont have that ability.

But to make friends now, to me is pointless. I am pregnant, I am family focused now. I dont want b.s, I dont want drama, females are nothing but trouble (no offense, but it is hard as hell to find a good female friend. Can know someone for ten years and still she can change) wasted time and space. I dont want my baby brought into a problemed life because we have stupid friends. Everyone is about drinking, partying, and drugs, and thats just not my thing. Never was much before and it definitaly isnt now.

I love being with my boyfriend, and Im content. Only when he leaves to be with friends do I really miss having someone myself to connect with on a friendly level.
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I would much rather stay in and just hang with hubs than go out with friends. It's to the point where it just feels like a chore to meet up with people. They're all single and we just don't relate anymore.
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Ugh!!! I so thought I was the only one...I'm a loner for the most part, I pretty much stay to myself, I have associate's that if I wanna play cards or whatever I can. Being a loner definitely keeps drama and confusion down especially with lots of friends as females(just my 2 cents... Now that i am 7 weeks preg and cant do the things that i used to do for fun so i am extremely bored out of my mind, any ideas anyone!!!! Welp!!!!!
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I never mind him going to hang with them especially after I am already in bed. . But I am not close to them and really don't intend to be and he sees that as a bad thing but that's what I am used too and ok with that. He says it would be better for our relationship if we actually did stuff with other people but idk. .
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I know exactly how you feel! It is the same way with me and my boyfriend. I have no friends, he has lifelong grew up did all and everything with friends. Its hard to feel like I fit in when I always feel out of the loop. Guy friends and girl friends, its actually quite lonely. Not to mention, for me it has always been an issue as to "do I remind them of..." "do they like me more, or less..." I dont know, that is just my mind set with my anxiety and being around HIS friends. It just wasnt easy.

And for some reason, when I did have a friend or two, he either didnt like them for unknown b.s reasons or he never wanted to meet them. So eventually, it was easier to just cut the strings then listen to his b.s about who I liked and who I considered a friend "/
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Me and my bf don't have any friends. Im okay woth that because I rather keep it solo just me and him. friends are just to much I think their all fake lol
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