last child??

[Dametrice]

So i love children, but don't feel i want anymore as i have biologically received my boy and girl, and my husband previously had the girls prior to our marriage and i had my daughter.

This is our first and only child, the first boy and he asked if i was really sure about not having another one would i fix it now?  He said he was done before our son but is excited about him but his concern is he's in his 40's and want to be active for his kid but any older he won't.

How many of you said no more and actually had another one? Any thoughts?

[Dametrice]

Manky88

My husband is about the same. He said he is done but leave it up to me. Since i said two max, was wondering would i regret that.  Sorry for your complications.  Please get plenty of rest because me running all the time made me had my daughter a few weeks earlier. That means you shouldn't do too much because i wasn't high risk.

Zahra

My husband will be like that, in his 60s when our son hit 19. But he likes to run so hope that helps allot.

Mjp

Sorry about what happened. I feel this will be the last one. If we have anymore we will probably adopt. He knows i love kids and i want to begin being a foster mom again later next year. So i won't ask for another one that i have to carry.

Thanks everyone for your advice. Was emotional to think i wouldn't have any kids after this one. Time will tell. I was a foster mom so we can continue that when i want another one, or by the end if next year.

[mjp0325]

I haven't personally been in this dilemma but my parents were. My dad was 40 when I was born and my mom had me via c-section. I don't want this to sound as a downer but its just what happened to me. I'm happy my parents didn't have me any later. When I was 15 my dad was 54 and a few months before his 55th birthday he died of cancer. There are times I'm super jealous of my older sister because she got more time with him. He got to see her go to prom and graduate highschool while he missed out on all those for me. And when I got married and had my first daughter and now this baby. So because of that I decided to have my babies in my 20s when my husband and I are well estabished. I know cancer can happen at any time, but for me all the people I know for the most part get it when thier older.  So for a different reason I can understand where your husband is coming from.

[4093882904588213800_979_5]

I should have mentioned this earlier. My dad has a 9 year old. He was 44 when he was born. Being involved hasn't been an issue for my dad. The fact that my brother is being raised an only child is a problem. He doesn't seem to know how to behave well around other kids. Just something to think about.

[zahra_n]

My youngest brother is currently 19 yo and my parents are 60. They have always been very active with sports like coming to games and coaching and age was no problem at all. They are physically younger than parents of his friends because of their lifestyles. And dont worry, A KID will keep you young and up to date no matter the age.

[manky88]

my husband wanted only one and now im having his 3rd. i do have 3 other children prior to him. because my history of preterm labor and preemies ect and this.pregnancy i had to sew my cervix at 22 1/2 weeks due to my cervix shortening and dilated to 1cm. each child seems to get harder so im tieing my tubes after this one. regaurdless my husband only wanted one he is proud and happy of his boys and excited having his first baby girl.

[Dametrice]

With my husband, he is very caring and sensitive to what i want. I usually get my way. I told him two kids max was what i wanted so sinceI'm there biologically, because we have the girls before marriage, i am questioning would i regret it. He said if i want another let him know but his fear is his age and being there to really invest in their lives.

[Dametrice]

Thanks, i have thought about birth control. I can't do the pill so i will try another kind. I skip so many days with the pill and this time i find out not only did my back up expire but it wasn't to be in heat. As educated as i am my husband asked how did i possibly over looked that. Lol Someone was trying to explain a non hormonal one to me so i will research it.

[Dametrice]

Traciv

I'm 28. He's 18 years older. I have done foster care so wonder would that remove a need for another one.

[3751115548386680226_953_5]

I have 3 biological children and a step son I swore that my 4 year old was the last but here we are 26 weeks with another boy so 4 boys 1 girl I swear I'm done no play time till this mama's fixed

[adanae11]

I agree with going on a long term birth control if you are questioning it at all. My husband only wanted one kid and I wanted 3. Now I'm expecting number 2. I talked about having a second for 3 years and then one day he said you should go off your birth control... make an appointment for the doctor. If you have any question about future kids at all, I would just do birth control.

[4093882904588213800_979_5]

I said no more and am on number 3 since.  At the time I said I was done it was because other people around us only had two or three and they were judgmental of big families. My husband and I always wanted 5 or 6. We made our own decision and it sounds like your husband is making his own decision.  That being said they make birth control that lasts up to 10 years but can be removed if he changes his mind and you both decide to have another.

[traciv]

How old are you?

[Crystalmummy89]

Well not me but my parents did. They had my lil brother ten years after me. Hes now 15 and there in there fifties. He was a suprise but a good one non of the less