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My husband and I just recently were evicted from our house because the dog we had bit the owner one day when we was not home. We since then have had a really hard time finding another place to rent. Well for the time being we are staying with his parents his step sister and adopted siblings along with ourselves and almost 1 year old daughter. The children here are 12 11 and no 10 years old. My husband works during the day and so does his parents. Well our agreement to stay here was that I watch the kids before and after school on weekdays. These kids are horrible though the 10 year old has done everything but be nice to my daughter. She's even hit her!! She starts fights with the other kids and the 12 year old cusses me out. I have told my husband's parents many many times and nothing is done about this. Well one day the brat hit my kid again so I slapped her but and my husband's dad went off on me. He calls me a dumb b×××× and every other name in the book and all my husband tells me is to be nice to his family. I don't know what to do anymore I'm depressed and I can't take it I'm 26 weeks pregnant with our son and all this stress is taking a toll on me. Am I wrong for wanting a divorce because husband won't defend me but goes against me.
I don't blame you. Sounds terrible. I'm praying for you.
Thank you. It is so hard knowing my husband the man I have put all my heart and soul into will not defend me on anything when it comes to his family. 95% of our marriage problems are his family. If his family would either let me be or he just defend me everything would be fine. My husband says to me "what am I suppose say" "what am I suppose to do p*** them" or "we will get kicked out" I have a girl friend of mine willing to let us stay with her and he doesn't want to. I'm stuck I am ready to pack my daughters and I stuff and go to my friends until I can find some where to rent to me.
Yeah... Again, I don't blame you. I don't know what I would actually do in that situation, bug I can imagine myself doing something nutty. Like buying a tent and air mattress, and spending two weeks camping in a state park... Good luck!!
I would of packed my daugther things and left Sometimes guys don't know what they have till were gone that's what I did with my husband he went crying to my mom and all for about a month till I came back
I think you should get your things and leave. Go to a friends or your parents house. That kind of situation isn't good for you and the baby inside you and the one year old you have! It'll effect you all. Hopefully you figure something out and leave that place. Prayers!
Hun there kids are Odviusly not disaplind and need to learn. You should not have to be dealing with all that during pregnancy and they ain't your kids.you did the right thing and u should leave. Odviusly them people don't care that u should be able to relax and rest while pregnant. You should not be up watching bad kids being stressed out. You need to be able to rest. Good luck hun.take care.
I too hope you find the strength you need to leave. Not only you but your unborn baby and daughter don't need that kind of stuff in their life. Stress is not good for you guys. And like someone else said, guys don't know what they got till its gone.
Thanks you guys for helping me in a difficult situation. I have made up my mind. I am leaving him and I told him why. All he had to say was sorry. So I'm sorry to. I don't want or need this stress. The depression is really taking a toll on me.
Do not leave, put your faith in God that everything will get better. Trust me God is the answer for everything. I will be praying for you that things get better. The easiest thing to do is leave trust in God he is too good to ignore.
I completely disagree. I don't think you should leave right now. Do I understand the situation is very frustrating and that these kids are terrible, absolutely. But you are taking about leaving your husband and I think you could work this out. I do not agree with the way he doesn't stick up for you but try a few things before you just up and leave. You all are adults sit down like adults. Have a sit down with your husband and wrote down the things you really need his support on in order to maintain a semi cooperative relationship with he and his family. Then sit down with his mom and dad and have a conversation with them. Tell them you want their help with their children and ask them how they would like you to discipline them while they are gone and you are with them. Go over ways acceptable for all and ask what you can do to get their support. Tell them in turn you expect to be treated with respect and not called names or be talked down to. It might take a little more work on your end but they are allowing you to live in their home (that doesn't mean they can abuse you and call you names) but be the level headed one. If your husband can't support you in this then go to counseling before you leave him. Maybe a third party will help him understand your need for his support.
Or leave with your husband just dont give up is my advice keep your head up
Maybe not divorce right away but you and your daughter if u can go somewhere by yourselves like if u have relatives go stay with one. I'd be really mad if my husband didn't defend me and after telling my in laws about their misbehaving kids they don't do anything. Your husband is probably stressed with having to work than come home and I'm sure his parents complain ..... take some time for u and your daughter but don't rush out. . BUT if you feel like you'd be better off alone than leave. Don't force yourself to stay somewhere your not happy. If u have the thought of leaving than something isn't right.
If u are not comfortable and u are stressed out don't think about him think about urself and ur daughter and the Lil boy growing inside of u ...I understand the feeling of not being defended when u feel it's needed the most if ur friend is willing to help u then go and it will open his eyes to what he can lose if he doesn't straighten up
My main concern is these stupid kids hitting my baby!! She is my priority a divorce if leaving him is the only way to protect her then so be it
I think you should start packing just to show him how serious you are. You need his support. If you can't have his family and your family is just Gibbs be harder on you later.
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I got told to leave by his family yesterday which is fine because it saved me from having to explain why I was leaving to husband. But on the other hand it's not fine because now his family is threatening myself and unborn child's life. I'm in a very sticky situation here and so is my husband. He did leave with me although I didn't ask him to or really want him to but all this gave me a little reassuring that just maybe we can work this out even though he still won't defend me while they threatin me.
That's terrible what your going through. Dont worry about hubby being in the middle as it says in the bible a man will leave his parents to be with his wife and they will be one. (forgot exact scripture) You and the children are are his family now and its good that he left with you. However, he has to be a man and draw a line.. its one thing having a difficult in law it's another thing for them to be verbally bashing you, threatening you etc. If it was my husband he wouldnt be having it! Honestly, i wouldnt suggest leaving, but you definetly need to relocate. They want to codemn you for disciplining their child? Well if they would have did their jobs as parents you wouldnt have had to do it for them. Under ANY circumstances does a 10 year old belong disrespecting you (her elder) OR hitting your child. Your not the one wrong here.. hubby's family is! Move ASAP and problen solved. Btw.. Hubby better man up and I dont mean that rude but he is the head and needs to act like it! He is suppose to be a father, husband and protector of his family. I wish you the best and I will pray for you. Good luck hun!
Pray about it and leave it in the hands of God. Trust and he will take care of you abd your family :)
Im not religious but but i do know, god helps those that help them selves? Sitting and waiting around may not be the answer...ever hear the joke about god and a row boat..a man is in a flood hes stuck on top his house and he prays to god for help..suddenly a row bot comes buy but the man doesnt get on but says god will help him.the boat leaves and the man begins to pray..another boat comes and again he turns it away saying god will save me..a third boat comes and again he sends it away..a few hours later the river rises the man drowns.. he gets to heaven and sees god before him..he askes why did you not help me i have been a loyal beliver all my life and when i needed u most u werent their..and god responds.. i sent 3 boats!
Oh sweetie, at least he left with u, don't worry about him being in the middle, my husband is just like that, he tries not to be in the middle, at least now u can work it out with him, and I bet u is gonna be different
I'm sorry for you. I'm praying for things gets better for u and ur family
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