mixed baby advice?

[julybaby1587]

Hi there. I was browsing through the toy section and began to wonder. Our daughter will be a perfect combonation of European American and African American. I want to be sure that she acknowledges both parts of her background. When buying dolls, is it best to buy her varied skin tones and when shes older let her pick? Also, anyone have experience with hair care? My boyfriend's mom was giving me some tips since I've obviously only experienced my own hair texture. Also, how do you handle comments or looks from people? Any advice you could give? We are so excited for our baby girl and just want to be as prepared as we can :)

[diachong]

My baby is going to be Asian and black. I read it is best to buy dolls of varied skin tones, and as far as her hair, at this point you have no idea how her hair will turn out lol some mixed people have pin straight hair, some have wavy hair, some have soft curls or tight curls and some have fine hair and others have coarse hair. I wouldn't be concerned about her hair if I were you.

[tastycl0ud]

The only thing I can really comment on his hair care. If she ends up having nappy, super curly or hair that isn't straight, DONT do hair relaxers!! I got them a lot when I was younger and I hated them. They burned, smelled bad and weakens your hair.

[julybaby1587]

Thanks Ladies :) the town listed was my home town which i recently moved from (which is not as intolerant as the documentary suggests). We are in a more diverse area. I certainly dobt want her raised in a place where shes likely to feel outcasted. Certain areas on Long Island are more isolated than others.

Along with hair texture, i cannot wait to see how beautiful she is! Who she resembles more, mannerisms, characteristics, etc. Its all a part of the surprise. You're right, i do believe itll all fall into place once the tine comes. Til then, ill keep surfing the internet for ideas abandd advice.

[jonesfamily15]

My 6 year old is mixed mexican and african american and I never tried to pick out certain dolls for her. As shes gotten older shes picked out all kinds of dolls and understands that everyone is different because we are all different meaning me her dad and her. As far as hair care goes it really depends what type of texture my daughter has very curly thick hair and it has taken me a few years to learn how to braid it real nice but if I can do it im sure you will be fine. As far as looks or comments from other people I still get mad, but my fiance is really good at handeling them. I try to ignore negative comments and embrace the positive. Goodluck and congrats :)

[RockRose]

Answering your most serious question,  how should you handle looks and comments from people - I think that will be a real concern and may indicate you should move to a more tolerant community to raise your child.  

Raising a mixed race child in a community that has very very few black children and fewer mixed raced ones,   I think she may face some difficulties.

So unless things have changed a lot since the last stats were published,  and that saddening documentary on PBS about your town,  I think you are in an area where there is intolerance that would make you feel singled out.

[fabulously_fabulous]

I wouldn't be concerned about hair at this point.   There are too many possibilities of the type she will have, and I'm sure you will be able to take care of it regardless.   As for dolls I don't think it matters, I did not give a care about what color my dolls were.

[maybaby1989]

I thibk it will all come naturally to yall once she is here.:) i come from a very strict family and my hubby came from a very care free family so im sure our daughter will get the best of both worlds:) i would buy diffrent skin toned dolls that ways she is taught that everyone is different in there own way. I hope this helps. Good luck and congrats on your sweet baby:)