moving, sick, and 24 weeks pregnant. how to deal with the stress?

[Sara_Lee87]

Hi ladies,
I am very stressed out. Any thoughts or ideas how to DE stress? My husband and I have reconciled after being seperated for sometime. I'm 24 weeks pregnant and we have a 4 year old son. My husband is a huge help with moving being that I'm not able bodies enough to do much besides pack boxes. I've noticed that he really has a lot of expectations from me and also seems to be laying a lot of guilt. He also keeps telling me about how women are crazy and if I get upset about something legitimate that it's because I'm crazy or hormones. It just really irratates me. Anyone else dealing with their man thinking this way? Anyways, I just am having a hard time balancing the stress of reconciliation, moving, pregnancy, and raising my son. Any tips, advice,  words of wisdom? I would appreciate prayers to help my family be whole again!
Thanks and God Bless

[Sara_Lee87]

Yes absolutely, when I was pregnant with my son we did pregnancy classes taught by a midwife. It was a very nice group of couples and I still keep in touch with some of them even though I moved out of state. The only thing is with our second we basically know what to expect and would have to have a babysitter. I think its great for first time parents for sure. Thx Dallasmom , I'll look into some other type of class that might work. I feel like once this move is over things will really settle down. I can't wait.

[DallasMom11]

Have you tried taking him to pregnancy classes? They offer them in hospitals and can provide some insight for men and the pregnancy process.

Education never hurts! And it's a good bonding activity

[Sara_Lee87]

Thanks Shay and Manda. It definitely takes a lot of dedication & hardwork to persevere with marriage. It's good to know there's other women out there working hard for the same goals. I have to say even though the reconciliation  is a challenge I'm much happier being back together with my husband.  I think we both grew and changed alot while we were seperated. Some people, espwcially the ones who arent married with children, have been very judgemental and critical of me... It does hurt to know hows those people and family members i thought loved and cared about me, turned on me and cut me out of their lives due to the seperation.   And now we arw back together so its just really stupid that they acted like they had any idea or knew what was going on without communicating with me or him. I don't know, I guess that's just how some people react, even though it's hurtful sometimes it's best to let it go. All I know is I wouldn't treat anyone I loved that was going thru a seperation because it's really one of the worst times and the feeling is just awful. I just hope that my baby is healthy and everything is settled and completely stable again by June when my baby is born.

[mandajayne0333]

My partner also constantly complains about how terrible he has it when im pregnant. Dont get me wrong  i can be moody and irrational but even over other things he just like oh we wont have another baby cause our relationship wont take it. This is our second baby and weve been together 5 years. I wish i had some advice for how to feel better about the relationship side but i did just want to let you know that youre not alone on the partner thing. :) best wishes with your move. We moved around the same time as well (im 37 weeks now) and it was hell. Only with family and friends help was it bareable. Tho we had no help with the cleaning and that was torture. Can only really take every day as it comes.

[shaymich2015]

I had filed for a divorce 4 weeks before finding out I am pregnant bc my husband cheated on me. We were separated for three months. Very stressful getting back together and working things out at the same time I had horrible kidney infections and horrible morning sickness. And we were planning a move from california to north carolina. And we had to drive (military) which was extremely stressful bc the whole 38 hour drive I was puking. Now I'm happy to say him and i are doing better. Not great but a lot better and we are still working through our problems but barely fight now. All I can say is I know it is stressful but it gets better. Marriage takes a lot of work especially during the hard times. My husband just recently started to not call me weak bc of the sickness I've been through with this pregnancy. Things take time and try to just focus on you and your children... you and your children are more important and the marriage will work itself out in the long run. It may not be meant to be but that's okay! Goodluck momma! Prayers! ♡

[Sara_Lee87]

Oh I forgot.to clarify, I am also quite sick with a nasty bug. I just gotta get thru this move though. It's really hard not taking any meds. Anyone know of any remedies for a cold?