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my bfs family.

The min me and him got to gather his mom hated me said a he didn't need another woman taking care of her son!? Etc. Needless to say we moved in to gather and then got pregnant since then she has disrespected me 3 more Times and I had to forgive her every time. Cause he asked then his friends and brother ganged up against me his friends said sorry but its been months now ans his brother hasn't. Now today he tells me he is gonna get his relationship back with hi a brother no matter how I feel about it so either I accept it or leave him. I feel like it isn't fair they they get to WALK ALL OVER ME and I just have to keep on getting over it. But yet it's my fault if I stand up for myself and say no not this time I won't do it! Help? Am I wrong? Or is he? ..
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Also. I would tell his mom what's on my mind an what exactly iI think of her. She can do it to you.. goes both ways babe.. get a backbone... stand up for yourself if you can't who is? Obviously not your man. An I think the brother is stuck up mommys *** too..
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Mamma let him go... I been married twice.. I'd be saying adios papi...you can find someone who loves you an respects you an that baby. He isn't a responsible man he wants to be stuck up his mommas ***.. let him... you do what you got to for that baby an love will find you..
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Don't let anyone disrespect you.  As long as you're ok with him continuing his relationship with his family that's all that matters.   If anything he should be telling his family to apologize.   If you still want to try to work things out, maybe go to therapy so that he can hear it from someone else how unreasonable he's being.
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Thank u! Very motivating!
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You will be ok. And good for you for sticking up for yourself. You don't need to be with someone who will disrespect you or let his friends and family disrespect you. If he truly cared and loved you, he wouldn't let these people disrespect you.
And if you have to do it alone then so be it. I did it alone with my first child and now I'm married to a wonderful man and pregnant again. My kid is 11yrs old. And i did it alone this whole time. So I'm sure you can do it too. It's hard but it's worth it.
Don't run back to him, stay strong, if anything if he comes running back to you, you tell him he better change or you will just leave him again. Let him know you deserve better. And that you are going to be the mother of his child and maybe one day his wife.  And if this is how he is going to treat the mother of his child or wife, then he's going to find himself alone for a very long time, till he changes or till he finds a woman that likes to be treated poorly. And that woman is not you. You want better, and you will not settle for less.
Good luck, keep your head up, stay strong.
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Very true. I have two other children and I left their father cause he was abusive and drink a lot so guess this just falls into that. I sure do pick em huh. Went from thinking I was gonna marry this man to just alone.
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*their fault.  Didn't mean to say your fault.
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Respect for you is more important than having the father around. You don't want your baby to see the disrespect you receive because it could cause your baby to feel it is your fault.
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I guess now I'll do this alone all because I want to b respected? This *****: (
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Its not your fault and if he truly loved you the disrespect would've been taken care of. Sometimes we are better off being single moms because it is best for the baby. Aldo keep in mind that how the treat you is a reflection of how they might treat the baby. Keep your head up and know that it is what's best for you and baby.
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You don't have to rekindle any relationship with anyone if they only disrespect you. Your bf needs to grow up and defend you because you are the mother of his child. I know that it's hard because it's your bf brother if it were me I'd just flick him off honestly lol
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I'm texting him now (he at work)  and we are done but it's my fault. And he will" always love me"
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I've been through the sane thing with my fiance while he was in jail a couple weeks ago and as soon as he got out and found out what was said to me he yelled at his grandma and sister for disrespecting me and told them they don't need to be around if they keep it up. If your bf truly cared he wouldn't let anyone disrespect you and wouldn't blame it on you even if he is overwhelmed
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I'm almost 36weeks and now he is gonna leave us if I don't" get over it"  and allow them back around. What to disrespect me again? I just can't
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I know exactly how you feel. I don't understand my bfs family at all and I'm contemplating whether I want them to be apart of my child's life. It must be hard what you're going through, but try to not get all worked up and get stressed because it's hard on you and the baby. I think if he was more supportive about your feelings he would have your back 100% instead of making you feel that you and your baby comes second. Try to stay strong!! :)
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But when I tell him that he says it's always about u blah blah blah I do everything for him cook clean wash his clothes make sure everything is taken care of. Now this. I feel KIKE it isn't fair to me hi a brother said a lot of mean thing a to me and I Dionysus a word to him and now he want me to call him to work it out! I don't think I.should have to do anything I didn't cause any of this.
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He is wrong and honestly it sounds like he doesn't give a damn about how you feel.
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