my father is unaccepting our baby

[elen83]

I married my husband almost two months ago and on our wedding day we were 5 weeks pregnant. My father didn't attend my wedding because he thinks I made a mistake in marrying my husband. He never got to meet him but made many assumptions about him. I finally told my dad today the news but before I could continue he said he didnt want to hear it because I already made one mistake. I am heart broken because I was hoping he would be happy about having a grandchild. He never approves of anything and seems like world issues are more important than his own family.  I dont know what to do anymore. I feel like I shouldn't go over my parents home anymore and ask my mom to see me instead. Anyone been through something similar? Did your dad or mom finally come around once baby was born? Sometimes I feel it's too late if that's when my dad will try. And if he does want to see my baby, my husband has to be there too or its unfair to him.

[elen83]

Thank you everyone for your support. I think I'm going to leave it as be. He hurts his family so much because of his personality/attitude and ignorance.  Not sure whether it is the medication he is on or what. I sometimes wonder how my mom has put up with him for so long. He is a good father in other ways but if he cant see that I am happy that is his problem.  My marriage to my husband wasn't a mistake. He is most loving, funny, kind and sweet husband for me. I was going to show him our 12 week ultrasound picture but after he said what he said..there was no point. It makes me sad he's like this because he is ruining his relationship with his family. I decided he wont be around my baby since he denied it. Sorry had to vent...thank you again!

[elen83]

Thank you everyone for your support. I think I'm going to leave it as be. He hurts his family so much because of his personality/attitude and ignorance.  Not sure whether it is the medication he is on or what. I sometimes wonder how my mom has put up with him for so long. He is a good father in other ways but if he cant see that I am happy that is his problem.  My marriage to my husband wasn't a mistake. He is most loving, funny, kind and sweet husband for me. I was going to show him our 12 week ultrasound picture but after he said what he said..there was no point. It makes me sad he's like this because he is ruining his relationship with his family. I decided he wont be around my baby since he denied it. Sorry had to vent...thank you again!

[Hanna_1026]

Sometimes, parents see something in a person that we do not see. I cannot conclude as to the reasom why you father is like that. Probably, you are his only daughter or something. However, whatever your parents say or others say about your husband.Try not to be affected, you knew your husband more than any one else, as long as he takes care of you, responsible.kind.and.honest.and most of all your happy, someday your father will.see.that. For.the.meantime.focus.on your baby, based on ur story your.father is.the.only.one who disapprove. So please go.to.ur.mom talk to.her.about.what u.feel i.think.she knows.and.understand.ur.father and.do.not.forget to.pray ;)

[Kaymanchase]

I'm sorry, I understand having a crappy father. I mean, he might be a great father otherwise, so I'm sorry for making assumptions, but.. How dare he? Your wedding? And your baby? My rule is, if anyone denies my baby before he's born, they don't get the chance to claim him when he's born. My father being the idea.

[LyakGarcia]

Its very hard for a father to let go of his baby girl, no matter how he has acted you should try and try and try to reconcile with him, visit and try to make conversation with him, show him pics of your ultrasounds when the time comes, little by little he will accept the baby and your husband, i pray your dad has a change of heart soon