no heartbeat

[sj_June_2015]

2 weeks ago i was referred by my ob to  see an ultrasound specialist.  We didnt hear a heartbeat so the dr had me do bloodtest and asked me to come back in 2 weeks, which was yesterday.  I should have been 8 weeks and there was still no heartbeat and the dr said that my hcg levels were not doubling up like they should be.  The dr told me i could either let the baby pass naturally,  take a pill, or get a d&c done.  Im so heartbroken i have no idea what i should do.  I want to let it pass naturally but im so afraid of the pain that everyone is saying will happen. This was my first pregnancy.  Im 35 years old.  Just looking for advice if anyone else has gone through making this decision.

[Tavi12]

I'm so sorry for your loss I know the pain you are feeling I lost my first angel at 20 weeks and my second I had a d&c at 8 weeks due to no heartbeat I tried to pass naturally but it wasn't passing soon enough a d&c wasn't too bad I freaked out about having to be put under I really didn't experience any pain from it either I'm also on baby aspirin and progesterone this pregnancy I'm currently 3 months and so far everything is going good I will pray for you I know it's not easy at all going through this I wish no mother had to go through this

[sj_June_2015]

Hi, thank you for reaponding to my post. I am going to wait another day to decide what i want to do. It has been so difficult emotionally.  Congratulations on your pregnancy. Reading your post gives me hope that i can get through this.

[UniquelyMoi247]

Hi, first of all I'm sorry you have to go through this. I had a miscarriage myself in 2011, my first pregnancy, at the same stage as you. It's incredibly difficult but there is no right or wrong way, it's what you're most comfortable with. I'd already waited 10 days for it to happen naturally but it didn't so I chose to take the tablet because I didn't want surgery. But again it's a personal choice. It was a tough couple of days, and it was painful for about 6-8hrs but manageable with pain relief. I still think about it but I count my blessings every day that I have a beautiful 2 1/2yr old and I'm now 26wks with baby #2. Do what's right for you. Best wishes and take care :)

[sj_June_2015]

Thank you for responding to my post. I have spent all day crying amd finally got the courage to reach out on here.  Im so thankful for this app. Ive had this app on my phone since i found out i was pregnant and everyone here is so comforting and im glad i am able to get feedback from other mothers like  yourself.

[PINKLINDA]

Im so sorry to hear you are going thru this experience. I know how hard it is to go thru the pain of not hearing a heart beat. I went thru the same experience twice in a row with in one year times frame. There is no real explanation why this happens to so many women. Luckily i have a good doctor that prescribed me baby aspirin and progesterone for my third try. I am now 12 weeks pregnant and we finally have a heart beat. The pain of it letting it go is very painful but tolerable with pain killers but the emotional pain is something i have not yet to overcome. Hang in there and never give up! There is so many things out there that can help!