not.comming around :(

[hellojojo2200]

Iv already posted bout this but im still totally upset and hurt over it. And it bugs me all day...my boyfriend dosny want our baby I do. I didnt let him force me into an abortion. Now im 15w.. and hes not comming around. I cant even bring up the fact that I heard the babys heart beat at the dr.s the onther day.cuz i dont want to start a fight..and after we got in a big fight over me not gettin an abortion we just haven't been talkn about it. I just dont know if I can even stay with someone who would do that 2 someone.I mean..maybe I being Un sensitive but I think This point he just needz to.man up.I love him so much I never thought he would act like this. Hez already a dad of 2 from previous relationship.and hes a great dad. And his reasons are valid ..money ..ect.but we can make it work financially..but not if hes not willing to try..I dunno im just so broken up about it and I feel so alone.hes my best friend and the person I turn 2.for everything. So 2 not b able 2 turn 2 him about somethin as big as this hurts.help :(

[062914]

Not everyone wants to bring a baby into the world just so someone else can raise it.. Sorry but everyone has their own reasons and if youre prochoice you shouldnt judge.

[mamanature]

No stop taking my words the wrong way.

[MomsDoItBetter]

*now give

[MomsDoItBetter]

*by givin me a place to stay &. A better job position. Just dont let him make your decisions. My bd was yellin bout money too but guess what, i got my own dam money. But he know gived me,money & buy things. Some things change. But no we are not together

[MomsDoItBetter]

He sounds JUST like my bd. But you betta keep that baby. Cause in the end, all you gne have is you. I cried & cried when my childs father asked me to do that, plus i knew i wasnt ready for another one. But God changed all that ny

[Star3789]

Lol I'm pro choice (and also pro life) but I don't agree with ur reasoning that's its ok to kill a baby because the baby will be in a better place.  Lol.  If he really only wanted to give the baby a better life he would go for adoption.  He is being very selfish he is not thinking about the baby.I do hope he comes around eventually, u might have to leave bfor he realizes what he might lose.

[062914]

I like how you put that ^ the part about when people pass away theyre in a better place and thats it the same with abortion.

[mamanature]

I said "His just stressed and stop thinking he just want to abort and kill his child, his just wanting to do what he believe is the best for your babys life." .. meaning his not wanting to abort to kill his baby because he doesnt want it. He just wants so give the baby the best life he possible can, which he believes is aborting, because he doesn't feel he can financially support the child. .... from what I read from her post is what I believe how he feels,  I obviously do not know if this is how he really feels but from my experience, situation and what ive read its what I get out of it..... abortions is much more then killing your child, its giving them a different life, a life that you believe is best for them. People say when others loose another, its okay they are with god now, in a better place. So what do we do, when we choose abortion, we give them life. People see ablortions as such a horrible thing, which it is its murder. But its also life. I have had 2 abortions and I will never regret them. People need to open there minds. Yes no doubt I killed my children, im not dumb nor will I try to deny what I did, but also I gave them life. What her partner is thinking is what is best for his child.

[062914]

Lol "god comes first" actually your children come first and if it were me i wouldnt stay with some "man" whos told me to abort my child. He should of thought about his "financial issues" before having unprotected sex, sorry bt staying with him is jst gna make you feel like s h i t.

[Star3789]

@mamanature, but he does want her to abort, he said so....

[mamanature]

You said his worried about money, you say it can work but you don't have 2 other kids to support, he does. Even if you put "your" money towards his kids its still only his full responsibility to support them, he must be finding it very hard and to add another baby to his financial issues is a very stressful situation, even if you can make it work, he must be feeling that maybe his not supporting his kids the way he would love too, just giving you another way to think about it all. You say his a great dad, he will come around, just give him time to let him mentally work it out. He deep down loves his unborn child, trust me. Just because he doesn't want the baby does not mean he doesnt love or care for the baby. My partner was smiliar and money is our issue too. Maybe talk to him about organising your money so you guys are stable. Dont talk about the baby talk about the reality of it and plans to get where you both want to be and work out how your money can work. He will come around if his already a great and loving dad. His just stressed and stop thinking he just want to abort and kill his child, his just wanting to do what he believe is the best for your babys life. I hope this helps you.

[hellojojo2200]

Obortion is out of the question now.. I decided that a few weeks ago.I know hes being lame..
But I always here storys of guys comming around..and hes so awsome in every other way...its just hard...hes not a bad person I think hes just scared and over whelmed...theres alot going on right now besides haveing a baby..but thats life..im just gunna try and have faith that he'll come around...its just so hurtful and I wish I was different..and if he dosnt than I dont want 2 be withna person like that anyway.... dosnt change how sad I am about it....I guess ill just concentrate on being happy about baby and taking care of little one and me..

[My2ndbaby]

You don't need such a person in your life. And another thing: God should come first in your life, not any human being. I'm afraid yours is a no-win situation. First and foremost, abortion is murder. Plain and simple. And if you let that man push you into abortion, YOU (not him) will be tormented for life. After a while you will begin to resent him, and eventually break up with him.

[MommyToBe__01]

Your*

[MommyToBe__01]

Uhhhhh. Why the f are you with him then? Youe just hurting yourself.