NO SMOKING!

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Let's just say I have the sister inlaw from hell!  She acted so sweet when me and my bf got together! Then she turned into a monster she is absolutely a piece of trash. she smoked with everyone of her kids and smokes in the house! She lives with my mother in law with 3 kids! And her husband! She's on disability which she doesn't deserve because she will take cash jobs here and there. She is soooo lazy her kids are always filthy. And screams at them and cusses them up and down! They are 3  and 2 and she had a baby yesterday.i just found out I was pregnant and I'm already thinking I don't want my child around cigarette smoke or cussing how do I tell my bf that without offending him. I want better for my baby!

[HappyMomma33]

I think it's easy to judge people. I wouldn't worry about what she does....I'd worry about what I am doing. They are her kids and regardless if you agree with it or not they are not yours. I got pregnant by accident and it took till I was 18 weeks to quit smoking. Do I want someone yelling in my face....judging me....telling me they feel sorry for my kids lungs? No. Do I agree with her smoking in the house.....no. But would judge her for it...hell no....they are not my kids. Who am I to say my parenting Will be any better than hers. I hope it is but I don't place judgement on other people like that. I worry about what I can control and that's making sure I'm the best parent I can. I think you should worry about what you are doing and stop worrying about others.

[unknown_jones]

i had this issue. my hubby n i were on same page, no smoking around baby. when we shared this his family acted like i was uppity. yes, i'd like my baby to stay smoke free. my SIL, a nurse, started so many fights/arguments over this issue. my hubby stood firm and told them we just wouldn't bring baby over anymore. my MIL,put a stop to smoking in house, atleast while we visited. As long as u n dad agree, he'll be the one to deal with his family. stay firm, this is y'all baby.

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Funny thing is is that the grandma supports her! Her habits, her kids everything she loves her more then my bf and he knows it but still try as hard as he can! And puts UT out of his mind. I wish he would just say screw it! It's so sad!

[lkaykirk]

I told my husband the truth. If the person smells like smoke they don't get to hold our baby. If they are smokers they can not come around. I am allergic to smoke and I don't want it around my baby. Or even in my house. I've been more sensitive since I got pregnant.  Just tell him. Try not to sugar coat it or he might not take you seriously

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She's so lazy she will let them stay up and hype them up with sugar. So they will stay up late so she can sleep in! I just honestly feel bad for her kids and there lungs!

[LoveCake98]

I don't know if you can control what happens when visiting.  Maybe ask them to come to your house--especially if she's smoking indoors.  Talk it over with grandma too.  No one likes to reek of cigarette smoke after visiting relatives. We used to have to wash our jackets when we left my Gmas house when I was a kid. Ewww, the walls were stained brown cuz she smoked in there for 40 years.

[LoveCake98]

Hah, well you know who WON'T be your babysitter in the future. I think it's normal to evaluate other peoples' parenting practices.  I would just keep an open, calm dialogue going with him about how the 2 of you will parent and discipline your child. Rules like no yelling are totally appropriate with children as well as no arguing in front of your child, etc.   Most important is to get on the same page with dad.  Not as important to point out SIL's shortcomings. . I'm sure he realizes you & sis are completely opposite in your relationship styles.  I remember my DH & I both being horrified at my BFF screaming the f word at her kids.  It was a no brainer for us that her behavior was inappropriate.

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How do I say put it out or go outside to smoke when me or my child over visiting!

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And they all sleep in the same room!