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people can b so rude. ..

Just a rant...
Hi I'm a 20 year old mom to b. I have a son who will b 2 in February and a son who will b 5 months in February and I'm now around 6 weeks pregnant again. Everyone keeps giving me that ("ur pregnant again!") Look and it's upsetting.. it makes me feel like I'm being judged. This pregnancy was not planned but I'm not gonna back out now. Everyone says it's to close with my youngest being only close to 5 months but in reality he will b around if not a yr by time I have the baby. I'm just so hurt and upset on how ppl are acting..has anyone dealt with this b4? How did u deal with it?
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Hey you are not alone I'm in the the same boat I'm 27 with a 6yr old, 1 yr old and now 35 weeks pregnant with bby #3 I got/get those same looks especially from family, when I had my 6yr old I had got on the minera IUD and once it was out I got preggers a few months later with the 1yr after that I was on the pill but still got pregnant with this bby, once I had told ppl I was pregnant again after my 1yr bday ppl whr like omg again tie your tubes, or what are you trying to do start a tribe, make your life hard, even my boss at work looked at me kinda crazy when I broke the news to him he legit said to me after I said I'm pregnant he said huh who you again? Lol etc... I'm just now at a point whr I don't even care what they think it's my life my children women have been having more than 2 for centuries so I don't understand why it's sooo taboo now in 2017 but yes you are not alone if you ever want to talk just inbox me, sorry for the long post :)
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I am also in the same boat. I'm 27 with an 8yo, 6yo, 2yo, and 11month old, I'm due with number 5 in just 3 weeks. I'm sick of the comments to. Don't you know how that happens, are you trying to be the duggars, how many more are you gonna have, etc... On the plus side the people who matter have been so encouraging, reassuring me that I'm a great mom and this will just be another chance to show that. Keep your head up girl this baby will turn your life upside down in the best way possible.
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People are rude, when I told my family I was pregnant with my son when I was 19 and engaged my grandmothers reaction was "what the hell did you do that for" . My decisions are mine and mine alone, you cant take what they say to heart all that matters is you and your kids
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I'm 22 and have a 5 year old boy and a 2 year old girl. For that exact reason of people being rude and very judgemental. I didnt tell anyone I was pregnant (including family) until I was about 31 weeks along.
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Thank u everyone for the posotive feedback. It means a lot to know I'm not alone. Thank u everyone. :)
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dont worry about what people think i am 24 and pregnant with baby #4 and my last baby was only 6months when i became pregnant and i had so many rude comments not only about that theyre so close together in age but that im 24 with and expecting baby #4 but at the end of the day its your life and im not gonna lie yeah its gonna be hard but when ypure in need is their really anyone there 4 you ? nope ! so enjoy ur babies and dont mind what ppl say congrats on ur baby btw(:
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I'm 26, almost 30wks with baby #4 and my kids are 5,4 and 2. Definetly feel like ppl judge me.
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Thank u everyone. My thing also is I had my first son then had a miscarriage then got pregnant with twins and lost one of the twins but had the other wich is my youngest son and now I'm pregnant again...so ppl usually count how many I would of had but if I would of had the baby I first miscarried with I wouldn't of gotten pregnant with the twins when I did so I still would of only had 2 not 4 but ppl don't see that they just add up how many I have and how many I lost n start judging me for it. ..
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Oh well I'm pretty young to have a child and the only people who knows is the father and my family and I'm only 1 month pregnant... So I'm pretty worried about people judging me about having a baby but now this is my advice to you don't worry about what other people think if they're not putting money in your kids life to help then they shouldn't worry about what you do and how many kids you have
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Don't worry about about them. I'm 24 years old 37 weeks pregnant with my 4th baby children 5 and under , I get comments all the time and I just laugh them off now. Enjoy your babies !
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A woman in the news had a baby when she was 63, through IVF and a donor egg.  Do you judge that?  If so, just realize, people do judge based on the mother's age; you do too.  So what.
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In other words, judgers gonna judge.  Can't do anything about that, it's human nature.
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Im 21 with baby #3. My oldest is 5, my youngest is 20 months old. And im 34 weeks. My family is like really and omg your so young. And they are telling get on birth control. Wtf! Im like no its my life! My big sister told me before i had my second baby to get on birth control I just said "Bi*ch mind ya own damn business!" Just ignore them.. They ain't worth your time
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If they have a problem then they don't have to look at you. I had my daughter at 20 and son at 21 and they are only a year apart so I was pregnant and breastfeeding. My daughter is 3,my son is going to be 2 in march and I am now 25wks pregnant with my third, due in may and i am now 23. This one was not planned, but I am completely grateful and I refuse to let anyone make me feel bad about it. Don't let anyone make you feel like you are less than they are. If you have happy children then you deserve to be blessed with more. The people who make stupid comments like that are bitter and unhappy with themselves so they try to make everyone else feel bad about their lives to make themselves feel better. Don't allow them to have that hold on you. My own mother tried telling me I should have waited and gone to college and tried telling me that my daughter needed attention before I had another baby, and now my daughter can't live without her brother. I know I made the right decision and besides it's not up to us anyway, I am much happier than my mother ever got to be so i can tell that she was trying to hold me back from my happiness. I am happily married and I get to stay home with my kids so that they can get all the attention they need. I got married when I was pregnant with my daughter, but my husband had already asked before I became pregnant. If you are happy in life and you have a happy family then don't allow anyone to make you feel ashamed. Good luck with your troubles and God bless you and your family, hang in there.

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