Am i doing something wrong?please read,,

[Zahra147]

My husband wants me to clean, wash , take care of my daughter and cook whil i'm prego & very anemic & i'm always tired he wants me now to make the lunch when i just told him i need to get rest & he can make it sonce he have nothing to do exapt hanging out with his brother since he wok up untill he sleep, he became upset & told me u'r pregnant u wanna rest when u had the baby u wanna rest when u'll start doing u'r work??
Excuse me !!!!! I don't remember i married u to be u'r made or housekeeper !!

Do u think his treatment faire to me???
Any advice i'll be thankfull ladies..

[Zahra147]

Rosealie23@
Yes i'm with u on that.. And thats what i do , i'm more concern about my kids more than anything els in the world..

[rosealie23]

You only need to do what religiously is required. Plus your main job as you said is to take care of the children and I do think that the one in your tummy counts and you should remind him of that.

[Zahra147]

Socialmom@
Yeah i'll just ignore it for now, and i'll see what i'll do about it with him later on when i calm down ..

Thanks a lot ladies i feel much better now..:)

[Zahra147]

12_4_14@
When i do that and remind him that i do lots of stuff instead of him he became more abusive , so i just shot my mouth and leave the room..

Pregwith3rd786@
Sorry honey to hear thats happened to u :(
Sometimes they know ho to be selfish & jerks , but i defenatly know that we are strong enough to do whatever we want by our own self unlike them! They need us not the other way round ..
I know i'm strong women i don't need a man to complete me.. I'm perfect by my own self..so u r..

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Gosh, no.  I don't think this is fair and don't think your husband is being considerate of you.  I would follow through on setting a boundary that he WILL help.  Don't make the lunch when he asks you to each time.  and if you say I'm not feeling well or I need to rest, then stick to it.  

I would also have an open conversation now about his role in the house.  Set up some things that he will do each day.  Perhaps you make dinner and he does the dishes.  Things like that.  Talk about it and let him know that you have boundaries and don't want to resent him and him to resent you so you should find compromises TOGETHER.  

best of luck to you dear

[pregwith5th786]

I agree with u @zahra147 especially the last sentence. I recently gave birth to my stillborn baby girl at 38 weeks. At first my husband was really helpful, as time is passing its like he is getting distant from me. I really want him to b with at this hard time to support me. But unfortunately he isnt. Im lookinafter my 2 kids n doing all the housewrk myself. I feel he doesnt care about me ne more.

[Zahra147]

My life is no deffrent from yours just a little bit but otherwise we live in UK so we help each other in everything , but he started to act like old fation men they don't help at anything and they want u to do everything , he wants me to be like his mom!
Itold him i'm sorry but my health is far away from u'r mom!

I'll try with him .. I really hate to speak with him all the time about it but i'll try too..

Thanks a lot honey :)

[12_4_14]

My dad is the same way towards my mom, he has that mentality that women are supposed to do all the housework and cook all the time. But thats the generation he grew up in. So my mom said screw it and just stopped cooking, cleaning and even getting out of bed sometimes. She became very depressed and my dad just didn't understand what was wrong still. Eventually things evened out between them. But i realized I'd never let a guy get to me like that or expect me to do anything if I didnt  want too. My bf is sweet, caring, and we do alot of things 50/50. Including paying for stuff, sometimes ill pay full. That really ***** hes doing that, id just tell him to calm his ****. When my bf does start to complain I make him feel like crap i.e. I'll bring up the past or if it comes to it make him feel less of a man, it makes me feel bad but theres really no other way to get him to agree with me sometimes. Haven't had to do that in a long time. Last night i caught him playing video games at 3am, i told him to tutn it off and come to bed. He did it immediately. Lol

[TJay40]

I'm not Muslim. I know your life style is very different from mines. I can't give you much as advice but he needs to stop. Stress can cause a miscarriage also. Talk to him about that, if he love you and his children it will stop.you need to rise and be the queen of the house.

[Zahra147]

Habibtii@
Yeas i'm muslim

TJay40@
He used to help me until his brother came, so he started to complain a lot!!
I started to feel like he wants to look string in front of his bro!!
Thats stupid !!
Ugh i miss me being a princess in my daddy house ='(

[TJay40]

Wow that's not very nice. Marriage is for better or worse. Put your foot down! He need to help around the house until the new baby is sleeping through the night. Every one is different but my husband wake up early makes the children (4)and I breakfast, help them get ready for school prepare or prep supper then go to work. He also helps with the house work on the weekend.He did everything on his own until I was 16weeks. I was to sick and fatigue to get out of bed. You did not create your baby alone, it takes two.Tell him GET IT TOGETHER

[habibtii]

That is not right at all. You need to put your foot down and let him know. & your religion are you Muslim? If you don't mind me asking. I'm sorry for your loss you don't need more stress.

[Zahra147]

The problem when i don't do what ever he wants he always mad and hates me, spmetimes i feel he is not loveing me anymore!
I have spoke with him before but didn't work!!

I'm totally lost

[MrsAmySanchez]

Don't leave him thats not the right thing to do, thats why no marriage makes it anymore cuz someone always tells someone to just leave..just talk to him, have a counselor help you if you need to and if you want to rest then rest and he will have to deal with it

[Zahra147]

I hate when he acts like a jurk!!
& to make it wors hes blaming me thats he couldnt get master scholarship bc i can't study any more so my government can't pay him unliss i went back to uni which i can't i just losed one baby last march on 12W bc he was pushing me so hard to study whil i couldn't!!

In our religion i'm not responsipal of anything at home or in money side i just have to take care of the kids!!

I just dont know how to deal with him anymore!!!

[jessica18xx]

He sounds controlling. You should leave his ***

[Brandi_Bear]

You need to put your foot down and get a little tough cause that's not right