2nd thoughts

[suggsbaby]

ladies im starting to have 2nd thoughts about not havin my little girls father at the hospl. with me... i didnt want him there in the 1st place cause of how he treated me and all, now being alone for almost 5 months im starting to think i do so we maybe work things out and maybe betogther again..

[suggsbaby]

ok thanks ladies i have and will

[mrsp416]

I didnt know he was talking out of both sides of his mouth. If he wanted to be there he'd be checking on you. Do what you have yo do for you and baby leave his butt in the dust honey

[ChristyIrons06]

Men are like that they say they want something but they think it will be handed to them on a silver platter. I bent over backwards when I was pregnant with my first(we were both young) broke up when I was 3 months pregnant but still did everything I could for him. Than I woke up and said to myself do I want my child to think it is OK to treat women like this? I finally cut him out it was very hard he even brought his gf to the hospital when I was delivering. It wasn't till my son was almost a year old when he started to realize what he had lost, we have been married for 9yrs 3 boys and a girl on the way. We have had our ups and down but it has only gotten better with time. I'm just saying know your worth!!

[suggsbaby]

ok

[Masoak]

One big thing I learned and took away from my ex (father of my first 2 boys) is that I have ZERO control over his actions but have all control over how I react to it and also I had to let go of the "dream" of the family life I wanted with him and accept that his actions just weren't showing me that the kids and I are his #1 it was the toughest thing to go thru..
Now I am with my new guy who is wonderful and is giving my kids and I the life/opportunities that I always wanted. And where's my ex now? Unhappy with someone else and wanting me back but it's too late. Just know that everything is happening/unfolding as it should and never settle and always remember that if he truly meant the things he says/said he'd be there and nothing would stop him...if u haven't spoken since July then that should be ur answer  u have to make urself unavailable to him he knows ur waiting so no more waiting..good luck xo

[suggsbaby]

ok ty u ladies

[hothotsauce]

If he really wanted to be there, he'd be checking in on you and the baby, chica. You're talking yourself into seeing something that isn't there. Actions speak louder than words.

[suggsbaby]

i have and he wants to be there and be with me but he hasnt talked to me since july

[mrsp416]

Well its not a bad idea IF...and here is the IF...if you BOTH want that! If he has moved on with another woman and he is showing no interest do not gwt yourself upset and stress the baby. Men tend to move on to another relationship regardless of whats going on without batting an eyelash all the while were home mourning the realtionship crying watching sappy movies with a box of puffs plus wishing he'd walk through the door professing his undying love and admitting his wrongs. What i suggust is you offer to meet him ALONE for lunch at a public place. Discuss how you feel and see where he stands and go from there...

[nihasa88]

Its always good to give a try to start anew and leave the past where it belongs :)