so sad maybe adoption is best.. can't stop crying

[lilmsvictoria1]

I'm feeling so depressed right now I have no friends literally no family literally and I've been in the hospital since Thursday and my due date is on April 9th and they're saying I'm going to have to stay in the hospital until the baby is born I'm not even prepared for anything I don't have the car seat I can't afford clothes at this point I don't even have an outfit to bring her home button and without any friends or family no ones at my job is offered me a baby shower I mean I've worked every day of this pregnancy that's why I'm so high blood pressure time so stressed out but I just can't seem to get ahead

[jennig85]

I didnt think it would let me...    im gonna space it all out and you just take out the spaces.

J e n n i g a t e s 8 5 @ g m a i l . C o m

Or look for jenni gates on fb in oklahoma. My cover pic is my daughter with girl scout cookies. :0)

[jennig85]

Rockrose:::::   Your comment really pissed me off. JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE NO FRIENDS OR FAMILY DOES NOT MEAN YOU SHOULD GIVE A CHILD UP FOR ADOPTION. THAT IS THE MOST IDIOTIC THING I HAVE EVER READ! YOU DONT NEED FRIENDS OR FAMILY TO DO WHAT YOU LISTED. YOU MUST BE PRETTY DEPENDANT ON OTHERS TO THINK THAT BULL.

To the origial poster-- girl it will be OK! you can do this. Dont stress over it right now. Right now just take it easy. There is so much help out there for single moms. If you ever need a shoulder to cry on you can contact me ANY TIME! i am in oklahoma. I know we shouldnt give this info out but i dont care. You can email me at ***@****.

[JulianaCurry]

Girl you can do this your hospital should have plenty of resources to help you. Going through with the whole adoption thing is a very big decision.

[inlovewithmybaby]

Where is your baby daddy? You know there is such thing as child support? & also wic,foodstamps,churches around you will give you diapers & whiles. Shop at thrift store & garage sales for baby items like swings. If you don't think you can Juat put your mommy pants on & give your baby all the love that they deserve then adoption is best. But think long & hard. Changing 2 lives here forever.

[fashionkiller1]

What state are you in?

[christinah90]

I'm so sorry to see this I hope you do the right thing.

[pollypoop]

Hey darl, dont worry, speak to your doctor or midwife
A baby is a magical thing, dont rush your choice relax and try to focus on the good xxx

[GabbyLawrence]

theres alot of different ways to get help! you just need to look them up and apply for them all!..don't stress out remember you're not the only one who goes through this, there's so many ladies out there who are single and do it all by themselves. you can too!! distress and the crying is not going to help you out you need to be happy! for you and your baby...if you're really thinking about adoption because you can't afford anything just remember all the baby needs is really you and your love! please look for help there is people that can help you!

[ElisMiha36]

I have baby girl clothing and some shoes , just let me know where I can send them.
Some are brand new with tags on my sister  gave me some before I found  out  I will have  boy .

[RockRose]

If you don't have any friends or family at all,  I think it's very wise to consider adoption,  which is about the most selfless act a parent can do besides lay down their life for their child.

At the first of your post it sounded like you were sort of frustrated and panicking because you didn't have a carseat or baby clothes,  which is certainly no reason to force you to adopt your baby out.  Carseats and baby clothes take about an hour to acquire.  

But if you have no support whatsoever,  no one who will come over and visit the baby,  no one who will take you home from the hospital,  run get baby tylenol when it's raining outside and your baby is sick,  no one who will come to birthday parties or to celebrate holidays with,  to create an extended network around your baby,  I think it's wise to seriously consider relinquishing your baby.  As hard as that would be.

[Jojo_zl]

We have financial issues as well but i told myself stressing about it wont help. Hard as it is please think happy tought and forget about reality. Think of adoption after the birth not now.

[amyc08]

People can help. Take this time in the hospital to do research and call places to apply for aide. I'm sure you could apply for medicaid and wic and call planned parenthood and ask for any advice for services. Really think long and hard about adoption - that's something that is super life changing and not something you can reverse. Get in a call and collected state of mind and use these next couple months to plan.

[alyssa_66]

If you are having a girl. I have tons of clothes and stuff and a really nice car seat. My daughter is only two and we are having a boy so I have no need for any of the girl clothes. Once your baby is due you won't need any family or friends your child is all you need. He or she will give u more love than you will ever need. No matter how bad things get your child will make you so happy.

[Sheila_K]

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this alone
please let me know where you are and I can send you some clothes, are you having a boy or girl?

[domingoleigh]

First off just try to calm down and don't stress. I know it's a lot easyier said then done... The hospital is here to help you. Talk to a social worker. Doesn't mean your a bad mother you just came into a bad situation... The hospital will provide you with diapers and handy wipes for now. Maybe ask them if they have some references or anyone that can help you with a car seat...... First priority is a car seat without that u can't take the baby home...  I'm sure your mother instincts will kick in just keep your head up. Less crying and more planning...

[GenesisAbigail]

It sounds like you need some time of help,  please tell me what state are you in and I would gladly offer some help. I'm a male and my wife knows I'm on this things and it feels like I shoild help you.