three's a crowd!

[bubbles8506]

So, when my 3 year old was born via induction which i do not suggest unless u have to cuz it was hell! My now mother in law basically made my day about her because i wouldnt allow her in the room. To me it is a comfort issue and i only want my mom and the hubs in there. Now i am told she is asking again and ive made my position clear but i have a sinking feeling i will have a repeat on my hands. Last time the hubs about got himself booted from the room,as he was little use to me. The mother in law and i get along now as we didnt back then but i still dont feel at ease with her in the room im running out of "nice ways" to tell him to tell her no. Im just hoping for a speedy birth so theres no time to call in the calvary on our way to the hospital.

[bubbles8506]

Thanks, i was told she was there when my hubs eldest was born and stuck to her corner but its just a comfort issue with me. My poor dad got trapped in the room with both my other babies and a friend of mine with my first(he came so fast no one had time to vacate) when our 3 year old was born my hubs spent alot of my labor time coddling his mom in the hall way and it didnt help that his sister sas out there prolly stirring the pot. He has been told that if theres a repeat performance even he wont be in there. Im not getting stressed out over anyones stupidity this time. Its my day and my decision...why cant it be like the dog? She goes n hides n has pups,under the house lol!

[maw4389]

Tell her that the hospital will only allow two people in the room with you and you want it to be your mom and your hubby (which are whom I had with me). I'm sure she'll get over herself and if she doesn't like it then tough titty. It's your baby not hers.

[Tevesie]

You can also tell the doctors who you want in there. You should check with the hospital your delivering at. :) I know at mine they respect your wishes.

[kellnmj3]

I totally understand and she should also, I wouldn't want my mother in law looking down my private area, she can be at the hospital when the baby is born, she can see the baby right after birth, why does she feel the need to be in there?? I would politely tell her that three people in there is not comfortable for you, and you need your mom's support as well as your husband so if she wouldn't mind waiting in the waiting area you would greatly appreciate it. If you go into labor and not tell her she may be really upset, if you have the baby and not tell her I personally think it's a disrespect especially if yall have a good relationship right now. Or simply have you husband tell her that you're not comfortable. Trust me I know how it is and you probably don't want to hurt her feelings but on this special day your feelings is the only one that matters! Good luck hope it all works out

[beckyyy1115]

I would just say no. Its up to you who is there in the room while you give birth. My mom and sister both wanted to be in there with me and I said no. It'll just be my boyfriend and I.

[Zay07]

You need to talk to her yourself don't count on your husband to do it because  chances are he won't tell her straight  up. Just tell her exactly  how you feel it's your body your baby and yoy are the one that is going to go through  it so it should be your decision  about who you want in there with you.

[tiannamichelle]

I am not even allowing my mom In the room with me. After awhile you just have to be clear that it is YOUR baby and YOUR choice as to who is there.

[19jellybean94]

I'd just tell her no, she's not allowed in the delivery room. And that you only want your husband and your mother in the room, because you'd feel comfortable with just them. I suggest not telling your mother-in-law when you go into labour, wait until you get home to tell her that you had the baby :)

[lisamlb86]

Surely she should understand how uncomfortable it would make you feel having her in there? Was her mother in law in with her when she gave birth?
I love mine to bits but still wouldn't have her in with me and I doubt shed ever make me feel awkward by asking... I'd just say I want as much calm as possible so keeping it to a minimum:)

[mee25]

Well tell her nicely that appreciate her very much but that you will not be comfortable and you do not want many peps in there. Or when you are talking about the baby with her just mention that you want only your hudband and mom in the room. I suggest you to let her know about what you are thinking before she ask you so that you dint have to tell her no.