tough decisions

[jessicam1294]

Hey ladies so I'm having a tough time trying to decide on what to do when it comes to me and the father of my child's relationship so hopefully an outsider point of view will help. So me and him were leaving together when I found out that he had been flirting with one of his employees and I confronted him about how they use to talk all day everyday and he just says that oh she's his best friend and even till this day he continues to say that. I felt lied to and betrayed so I decided to move and later found out I was pregnant. We been on and off for the past couple months and recently I found out he had been speaking to her at work still. He wants to try to work on things and be together but I just feel like i would always be doubting him. But the thing is I don't have anywhere to go after I have the baby I don't really have a way to provide for my child after I deliver. So do I suck it up and stay with him till I'm on my feet or just move in together but not be a couple ?

[BabyWidmer]

Message me! Where do you live? Is there a womens shelter you can go to? Best friend that can help? If your not there then don't let him force it on you. He is guilt tripping you and making you feel bad when he KNOWS he is in the wrong.

[jessicam1294]

Other than my mom I don't really have anyone and my mom is not in the best situation in her life right now. If she could help me she would but I literally don't have anywhere to go after the baby.

Once I have the baby I have a better job lined up but that's still a while for now and he will be hopefully switching jobs in a couple months. But it's like you said to what extent I looked at his phone bill and saw he hasn't been texting her anymore but he told me that he has spoken to her a few times but only after I caught him in a lie. I just want to give my child the world and it ***** that I can't be enough right now. And I don't want to feel like I'm using him till.i have a better job that's not fair. He talks about buying a house together and getting married but I'm just not there with him he's hurt me so much and I don't want to have to feel like a detective for the rest of my life trying to catch him in something.

[cheliguzman]

What a hard decision! From my view for 1 the fact that he's asking to work things out should let you know he cares but 2 if he still claims that this girl is just his friend I would ask myself to what extent like do they talk out of work or just at work, maybe another job if not for now if I were you I'd go ahead and try to work it out as a couple because living together not as a couple would be akward , but at the same time go to school or once you have your baby get a job do if once the baby is out and you still don't feel the relationship has improved then you can just move on your own because some men change when they see there baby but some dont. :/ Hope all goes well for you and you make a choice your happy with.

[BabyWidmer]

Go after him for child support! Do you have family you can lean on and will help? Don't go back, trust your gut! If he is flirting with girls and lying, what else is going on? You and baby don't deserve that!