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am i selfish?
Am i selfish if i want to take full custody of my unborn cchild due to the dad who hasn't even cared about anything about my pregnancy. ..and due to all the things his done to me.... i feel like he has no right, but i also feel bad if i take this step because i know my daughter is going to need her father but i hate him so much his done way too much to me..the love that i had turned into hate :(
Don't tell him when you go Into labor and.don't put him on the birth certificate. He won't have a choice then. But you won't be able to get child support either.
I disagree completely. If the father wanted nothing to do with their CHIld then yes or you seen harm being done to your kid. just because he isn't there for YOU doesn't make it right for u to keep his child away from him in my opinion. If he was a POS FATHER then yes I believe fight for what's best for your child. I think sometimes as woman we forget that the child is 50% of someone else. yes we have birth etc but that technically doesn't give us full rights. I say give him the chance to be a FATHER ! If u don't then yes I do believe you are Selfish.
Nice thanks ladies!!!
I have full custody of my son. I love it. I allow his dad to pick him up pretty much whenever he wants but I get to say where he can keep him and how long he can have him.
I personally don't think u are being selfish....us as mothers are supposed to protect and make good decisions for our kids....having your baby dad in its life after him showing no type of caring for the baby is just gonna come back and bite u in the ***....kus your bd aint one day just gonna wake up and feel like being a good dad....if it dont matter to him now it never will....your baby will turn out just fine without him in its life....and u might meet someone in a couple years that will step up and b there for u and your baby and care for your baby as if it was his.
People tend to think it's easy to say " Your not going to be in your daughters life " There's more to it then that. I've been threw it myself. You need to do everything legal. Or you can be the taken to court. You don't need that, it takes a lot of time and/or money. A lot of visits with your lawyer. I put in over 100 hours with my lawyer, not to mention how many time I've been to the court house. Which was about 15.
You need to be smart and realize that it's a very long time to come to a agreement. If he doesn't want to be in the baby's life then get him to sign his rights away.
If he says no then let the courts come into the picture. Xx
Good luck.
You need to be smart and realize that it's a very long time to come to a agreement. If he doesn't want to be in the baby's life then get him to sign his rights away.
If he says no then let the courts come into the picture. Xx
Good luck.
That's exactly what I'm doing its not selfish
Get full custody and give him visitation rights. Every other weekend or something.
I disagree...you cannot take a father away from your child. She deserves the right to choose for herself. People don't understand that now a days. Your daughter could hate YOU in the long run for not giving her the chance to know her father or make her own decisio ns about her own father..it can come back on you. This is part of getting pregnant, if he wants to be in the babies life let him, if not then its on him. Unless he abuses the child, BC that's a different story.
It depends really. My ex was very abusive towards me. But I share custody with him. Did he abuse you when you are pregnant?
Do everything legal. Go to court after baby is born and fight. It's hard but you need to have a custody order or he can take you to court.
Do everything legal. Go to court after baby is born and fight. It's hard but you need to have a custody order or he can take you to court.
I wouldn't feel bad about wanting full custody if he hasn't shown any interest in your pregnancy. Usually when they have no interest in the pregnancy they don't have any interest in the child. It would be different if he had shown some interest but where he hasn't there is no need to feel guilty.
However if your going to take that step you need to start now. I would contact a lawyer and see what steps you need to take.
However if your going to take that step you need to start now. I would contact a lawyer and see what steps you need to take.
At the end you said "he's done way too much to YOU" unfortunately, once a child is brought in it's no longer about what they have done to us. I'm in the same position you are and would love for my son to have nothing to do with his father because he hasn't done anything the entire pregnancy but the child will need both parents. I would wait to see if he will change when the baby gets here. He may just want a relationship with the baby. Good luck.
no thata not selfish and your daughter doesnt need a father lots of kids rasied by just they mother turn out good even turn in to doctors,lawyers and presidents
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