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My husband says he needs a real job instead of getting a second one and has proposed the option of going to work on a boat. He explained that he would be gone for 3 weeks and come home for 1 week then be gone again and this is how the schedule would work. He says that if he does this it will allow me to stay at home and take care of the baby but on the other hand I don't feel like our baby will know him as well as I would like him/her to. I also have worked my whole life and can't imagine not having to anymore. Does anyone else's husband leave for extended period of time like this? On business trips, or maybe deployed, or maybe even on a boat? How do you feel about it? Are your kids ok with it? Do they ask a lot of questions about daddy?
Maybe consider letting him do it up until your eight month of pregnancy or sown thing so that yall can save all the money from here to then?* just compromise and talk things out to where you are both comfortable
I have so many opinions on this.
So far personally I have not had to be away from my husband but we have talked about and considered taking the opportunity if the right proposal (Amt of money) was on the table.
I do know I would have a really hard time away from my husband if he did have to leave but I also know money wise we would be set. So it's a huge sacrifice marriage wise.
Parent wise I think I can handle my baby on our own for a while.
I also wouldn't quit my job because I would see it as an opportunity to be able to save all the extra income so that he'd only have to work away for a smaller period. Like say 6months at the most. I personally think working and staying busy would really be needed when you don't have your partner there anymore.
We have a time wise on how long we could actually help being away from each other, the reason it's a big deal more marriage wise is because I often hear from friend that are in those situations that the man usually gets comfortable and used to being away. One making a big amount of money at a time and also second not being as involved in family affairs. Husbands and wives tend to get in fights after they are so used to doing things alone on their own ways, so we they get back together it can be hard to sync everything together again.
That's not the case always but hearing stories like that does scare me. My dad was a 18 truck driver out of state so sometimes we would go a week or two without seeing him and that was really hard but eventually with that money we got a bigger house and he transferred to a job where he could work just within the state. It was a sacrifice he said he made to gain the experience and years where it was given to him and in the end it paid off.
So maybe your husband takes the job for a year at the most and then with all the experience he can find a better job locally. Hopefully, best advice is keep a strong dedicated marriage/partnership & stay positive. Best wishes!
So far personally I have not had to be away from my husband but we have talked about and considered taking the opportunity if the right proposal (Amt of money) was on the table.
I do know I would have a really hard time away from my husband if he did have to leave but I also know money wise we would be set. So it's a huge sacrifice marriage wise.
Parent wise I think I can handle my baby on our own for a while.
I also wouldn't quit my job because I would see it as an opportunity to be able to save all the extra income so that he'd only have to work away for a smaller period. Like say 6months at the most. I personally think working and staying busy would really be needed when you don't have your partner there anymore.
We have a time wise on how long we could actually help being away from each other, the reason it's a big deal more marriage wise is because I often hear from friend that are in those situations that the man usually gets comfortable and used to being away. One making a big amount of money at a time and also second not being as involved in family affairs. Husbands and wives tend to get in fights after they are so used to doing things alone on their own ways, so we they get back together it can be hard to sync everything together again.
That's not the case always but hearing stories like that does scare me. My dad was a 18 truck driver out of state so sometimes we would go a week or two without seeing him and that was really hard but eventually with that money we got a bigger house and he transferred to a job where he could work just within the state. It was a sacrifice he said he made to gain the experience and years where it was given to him and in the end it paid off.
So maybe your husband takes the job for a year at the most and then with all the experience he can find a better job locally. Hopefully, best advice is keep a strong dedicated marriage/partnership & stay positive. Best wishes!
I couldn't imagine not working. It's just who I am but on the other side of it being home with my kids full time would be awesome. It is something to think about. It may be hard but it is good money.
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