girl talk. need to vent! !??

[lalachatty]

Going thru a rough time with my bf. Hes the father of my second son nd of our expecting baby. For a month weve been arguing almost every day.

I had the most unfortunate thing happen to me where, ive called him on a sunday morning (on a day when he knows my whole fam is home) it rang nd went to voicemail so i hung up. Apparently i left a message ididnt kno of nd well...it did not just have the background noise of my house but very explicit sounds of a man nd woman "gettn it on".

As you can imagine he totally flipped nd its been the main topic of every argument since. Hes been pickn on small gestures, comments, body language that i make nd relate it to being suspicious nd me being even more guilty like im hiding something.

Ive been tolerating his rant. Crying my brains out to him. Taking every chance to see him. To show him, to love him. But somehow something clicks in his head nd he picks a fight with me just to see how id react.

Im scared you know. He my one nd only. I dont care about havn fun nd going out. My happiness nd joys come from being with him nd enjoying our family.

Ive lost 10 pounds in a month  nd im three mos preggo. I kno it can be normal but im worried about my health. Am i doing something  wrong? Or being selfish? Somebody lmk please!

[lalachatty]

My brother told him that everyone was home. My parents wud also vouch. But he thinks its becuz their taking my side. I just laughed bcuz my parents made me learn things the hard way. They spoke truth to me to make me learn. U know?  Theyd never lie for me.

[lalachatty]

Yes...in the voicemail there were sounds of me in the kitchen my bother sneezing than a mans voice saying "u wanna make porn"....then muffled sounds...nd at the end a girl saying something sounding like "mm, just eat me"

He said he heard moaning. But wen i listened i didnt hear it.

I told him i dont disagree that you heard these things cause thats what it sounds like. But i can tell you that it also sounds like the events that happen in my house at the time after i made that one call nd "left that msg".

[RockRose]

I think you need to go to your phone service provider for this one.  

It sounds like you can understand your boyfriend's concern - what is on there is your call, and then a message with an obvious sound effect of two people having sex.

You surely don't blame him for thinking it was you.  He would be foolish not to think that,  I'm sure you're understanding.  

So.  When you say you "apparently left a message",  is it clearly your voice?  And then a couple having sex?  Ug.

Is your whole family willing to say they were there with you on that Sunday morning,  and that didn't happen,  it was just a weird phone error?

[lalachatty]

Im sure it was from my phone.  He has tmobile nd theres that voicemail  app that u can listen to messages nd it shows u whos it from. Yup...my number was there.

Ive talked to him. Nd said everything that u suggested. Nd he said its the perfect thing to say when someone is hiding something. Nd becuz i give the same answer he thinks meditated nd planned out. Like if i say it enough it'll  be real. (Thats what he thinks)

But its really all truth nd honesty. **** ive loved him all my life since freshman year. Im 27

[ylopez93]

And yu are sure that the vm with thr noise was coming from yur phone?
I truly think is that he is insecure since he has already been cheated before but he can't be taking it out on yu. Yu need to have a serious talk with him and explain to him that yu would never do that and that he needs tk trust yu

[lalachatty]

Ive experiencedit while talkn on my cell but not on a voice msg. My other thought was me being hacked. Cuz i had that happen before too.

[lalachatty]

Yes....i had the chance to listen to it becuz he wanted an explanation. Nd trust nd believe i was dumbfounded! Right away i reacted defensively. Nd pissed because how the hell did this happen.

Its like talking on a landline in high school with ur girl friends. You randomly hear someone  else talking or laughing....nd u kno its becuz ur lines r being crossed.

Thats what the msg sounded like

[E_ E_R_EK_EA]

Was there actually the noises hed thought he was hearing?

[lalachatty]

....do u think he'll realize? Hes been damged from a 5yr relationship  where his ex cheated on him with his friends. (Yes more than 1). Nd he had his first son with her. I believe she ran away because she really was hiding something. But i never ran from any of our fights. Ive always bear it all til it stops. >_<!!!!