Advice....

[Brenda_perez]

My mother in law wants to throw me a babyshower but I really don't want one, I even told her to not surprise me with one. My hubby says I'm being selfish cause it's not about me it's about the baby. What do you guys think am I being selfish or do I have to have one.

[Rachel__grace_]

I had a similar issue with my "mother in law" (i used quotes because we're not married lol). She wanted to have a party but I didnt, because it was my second child and I'm pretty traditional in the sense that I dont think you should have one unless it's your first baby (but that's just my opinion, not trying to knock anyone who has multiple showers). I ended up compromising by having a 'diaper party' where we said to just bring a pack of diapers so extravagant presents werent expected to be purchased by the guests. I realized it would have been selfish for me to take that party away from her because it was her son's first born since my other child was from a previous relationship. If you can suck it up and let your m.i.l. do it I know both her and your husband will appreciate it.

[alexis444]

Its not selfish of you. I think its just because your mil is really excited
I know you don't want one but maybe she wants to give you one because she didn't have one or something. I know if my sons wife didn't want a baby shower I would throw one anyways lol i would sneak it in some were. Its her showing she loves you and is excited for you to add another little addition to the family.

[mw89]

Its not selfish.  If you dont want it dont have it. Just explain nicely to your mil that you just would rather not have one.

[qbkc]

It's technically not for you . All the gifts are for the baby and with babies being so expensive anything extra helps but it's up to you ...

[scillacts]

Well its really up to you but I say just have one. At least she wants to throw you one. There all excited for the baby

[jessicups]

I guess that would depend on if you guys can afford everything you need for the baby. Not that baby showers are all about presents, but if you personally don't want the celebration than the only other bonus is gifts. If you guys could use the help in buying items for baby then I can see why your DH might be saying it's for the baby. If you don't need the help with items then it's not for the baby at all, it would just be a celebration for you guys, seeing as the baby doesn't know it's happening. It's ultimately up to you, if it's really something you don't want then I don't see why you would have too. Maybe just have a small get together after baby is born?