why?

[asherz123]

I have a 8 year old step daughter i have raised her since she was 3 her mom isnt really in the pic. Me and her had a great relationship now its like she hates me idk what i did i do everything for her and have since she was 3. Now everything i say to here she get a attitude or walks away from me or she says my dad know or i will just ask my dad. Me and her dad have a two year old already and she didn't treat me this when i was prego before. Im 32 weeks now and all of a sudden she hates me. I feel like leaving. I love her but i shouldnt get treated this way. And her dad agrees with me too and we involve her in everything.idk what to do anymore

[LalaLand8]

Eww to the comment of send her to live with her grandma and she's not your blood! That is such a disgusting way to look at this issue. I know u see her in a better light though! To each his own.... Godspeed to you sweetheart hope all is going better now and thank God for the 2 days you had with her that went great :)

[mauismama]

Fully agree with alliestwins.

[alliestwins]

Please ignore the she is not your real kid comments. You have had her from the time she was 3 she is your kid. My sister whom i raised did this at about the same age. She is testing you and becoming more aware of the fact that biologically she isn't your daughter. Set limits and get outside help but don't turn your back.

[imfinallypregnant]

Dont let it get to you at the end of the day shes not your blood... I think you do so much for her and shes just a brat being mean to your baby.. Thank god i dont have step kids i dont think i would be as nice as you they would be back living with their mom. Dont allow her to disrespect you. you being pregnant is not an excuse for acting and treating you badly she's not 4 anymore especially if shes also being bad with your real kid. if you dont put a stop to it its only gonna get worst

[imfinallypregnant]

Send her to live with her mom or grandma..

[asherz123]

Thank you for the insight. She was fine for two days now she is doing it again. So i guess we will figure something out

[PamelaSmith800]

You know I think it maybe a phase... my now 9 year old daughter is acting out and has been since she was around 8... still dealing and she don't even know I am pregnant yet. .. kinda of scared to tell her.

[Mistylou71]

Kids can be funny creatures ..its important to remind yourself & remind her its her behaviour you dont like not her..kids can often get in a bit of a muddle by not connecting the right dots together in a picture & act out cos they dont like what they see ...sometimes when the family heirachy changes kids can find it hard to identify correctly where they sit amoungst such changes.. For example the youngest can feel like they are being replaced because they will no longer be the "baby" or the "youngest" in the family ... Sometimes a muddle can be made when yhe child is of the only gender in the family eg. Shes a girl & has brothers & the baby is a girl.. .we know as adults they are not being replaced but sometimes there the kind of muddles kids can make by not connecting the right dots ..reassure her she  ..

[LalaLand8]

Also privileges like nail shops must stop until her attitude changes. Don't ever reward naughty behavior!!!

[LalaLand8]

Hmmmm well I don't think the issue is if ur doing enough for her. Maybe something is going on outside of ur home! I would absolutely get her to a social worker for a private talk. Or maybe professional help. Talking never hurt and maybe u get to the real issue b4 more issues arise! This is a hard one and I wouldn't wait to fix it boo!

[asherz123]

I didnt mean like leave but leave for a few day and we do alot. I take her shopping we get her nails done we cook together. She is even been mean to her two year old sister yelling all at her even hitting her. We have talked to her and she doesnt even listen she roles her eyes or just plays with her hair or her clothes she doesnt seem.to care.maybe it is a phase but its getting old

[LalaLand8]

Ur husband needs to sit her down and correct her right in front of u! Serious yet loving face and tone! U have to speak up also and let her know ur not going to allow any disrespect and mean what u say! Set ground rules and apply action for good and bad behavior! Truthfully if u don't nip this in the bud now IT WILL GET WORSE!!! leaving ur family is not an option because of an 8year old. Man up boo! U got this! Praying for u right now!

[HBabe2]

I'm not in this situation, so i can't relate. But I'm wondering if it's just a phase of some sort? Perhaps she feels like less of your daughter or less important to you because she's not your blood daughter? i know you would never intentionally have her feel this way, but girls will be girls. Maybe you two should do something together. Just you ladies. like a manicure or pedicure? Something fun that is for just her and you. Something special so she knows she's important and not forgotten just because a new baby is on the way. :) best of luck mama!