your opinion?!

[shaymich2015]

My husband is a Jr. With a very long name. He wants our son to be the third. I am really against it for multiple reasons. Like sexual side between my husband and i, it's selfish, my husband was picked on very badly, I wanted the picking of our first baby's name to be unique and special to us. Am I wrong for feeling that way and should I be okay with our son being the third?

[shaymich2015]

Thank you guys very much! You guys have given me so much information and your own stories which will help me out a lot! I am going to try to talk to him again in a couple months. Let things cool off now. Just look at names then when I'm further along talk to him more about it. I'm only halfway through my second trimester.

[joykitten4444]

Sounds like he's backing or of your agreement not to name your child after anyone. That's hard. My friend it's pregnant and the father it's also d demanding to name the baby if it's a boy. This is ultimately your decision. You're the mother, you fill out the papers at the hospital. You're creating this new life. I hope he respects you enough to consider you feelings,  wants and needs. That's what marriage is about after all. Compromise. Tell him you love him, but that's this is very important to you as well. Find something that is meaningful to you. Good luck.

[mjp0325]

I'm not a huge fane of having names that are jr or the third ect. Heck my MIL kept telling us that we should name our baby charlie....which i hate the name charlie. Lol. But I do like having traditions. Or naming after someone. Like my daughters name is madison ann. Madison means child of matthew which is my husbands name and ann is both mine and my mothers middle name. With our new addition if it was a boy the middle name would be lance and if it was a girl the middle name would be terri, so that either way my dads name would be incorporated as a memorial s ok mce he died when I was 15. But maybe its important to him now since you have had so many miscarriages and he has been hurt by the loss just as you have. And maybe he'll change his mind when it gets closer. But just be open with him and calm when you discuss it. Or start putting names together when you two are laying down relaxing. You guys will work it out.

[Cjmomof3]

Ha! She wasn't crazy about it, but knew it was important to his family to keep the name. They compromised by letting him be called 'Chip'...I'm not sure how I would deal with the why thing though. Lol. That's tough. The name of your child is a big deal!

[proudmommytobe15]

My brother is a junior and my mom regrets it a lot

[jessijlb1229]

We had to go through this conversation when I first got pregnant.  My husband wanted a 4th. He has a very traditional southern family that is very close. So i knew this was extremly important to him. Granted I don't mind the name Eddie Shelton **** even though it is a very southern name. But i was hoping that we could choose a name together. After many conversations our compromise was that our first born boy will be the 4th but I could choose the girls name and/or our second sons name since we plan on having more than one child. It's funny because we went threw all of that and then find out we are having a girl! So I got to pick her name Elizabeth LeAnn.  :)   I guess it's all in the compromises.

[shaymich2015]

We talked about it the second we found out about this pregnancy and agreed no naming the baby after anyone and that would include him. Then he talked to his mom who had somehow talked him into it and now refuses to budge...

[shaymich2015]

Thank you specialmom! I will definitely  make that list and these pregnancy tears will flow even more haha. How did she come to terms with him being the 5th cjmomof3??

[RockRose]

I have to say,  after we got married we left the church and are now Methodist.

But I couldn't be more grateful for the Catholic Church "precana" education.  Even if you aren't religious,  going through the Catholic Church's precana marial preparation is incredibly educational.  

[RockRose]

Reading all these threads,  I'm SO grateful I got married in the Catholic Church.

They make you discuss this kind of stuff before you marry.

What an incredible blessing.  

Did you not have a chance to discuss the fact that he would insist you name your baby this,  before you got married?

[Cjmomof3]

Hi! My aunt went through this same scenario. They ended up naming him Stuart Francis ***** the 5th, but we all call him Chip. It's a cute nickname I think.

[specialmom]

He doesn't sound like he is being rational.  Good time to let those hormonal tears flow.  :>)  My husband let me have my way due to my 'fragile' state.  ha ha.  

but I'd really just not talk about it for a little bit and say you aren't sure yet and leave it at that.  then present him with a list of like 12 names and ask him if he'd consider any of those names to be used with or instead of his chosen name.  Just lay low, use the hormone tears, offer alternatives and see what happens.  good luck (and sorry for your miscarriage losses)

[shaymich2015]

We'd call him EJ. Bc that's the only thing left besides **.. and that's not appropriate especially in today's society with kids. Haha. And my husband would call him by his actual name. He says right now he doesn't care about the baby bc it's not here yet and we've lost so many baby's from miscarriages. So if he doesn't care about the baby why does he care so much about the name? It's selfish in my book.  

[specialmom]

Well, that is really hard if is going to fight you on naming your son third.  Can you get a nickname out of his name that you can stand? What about using the initials.  Like if it is James David, calling him JD?  We have an MJ in our family because of that and Ik now a JB. ??

[shaymich2015]

Every time it's brought up we get into a really bad fight. I tried to make that compromise. He said his name can't be broken into pieces like that. I really like the name Ezra. I'm jewish. He's not willing to compromise at all.. I don't know what to do but I'm really really unhappy with our first born son to be the third... I want my husband to be the only one with that name bc his name is unique. And when we first found out about us being pregnant we both firmly agreed on not naming the baby after anyone...

[specialmom]

Ya know, this is a personal thing.  I think for some, giving a child a family name is a neat thing for them to do because it is meaningful to them.  But if you don't like the name and don't want to do it, then you should have a say.  It's hard because saying you don't like the name is saying you don't like your partner's name or their dad's name.  :>)  But you know what I mean.  

Can you compromise and use part of the name for a middle name?  

[lydia1st]

My son will b a jr. Im 8 months but we both agreed on it. Sit him down and talk it out.  Write down positive and negative about it