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is my girlfriend pregnant? Help!!

Hi my name is Justin I'm 17 my girlfriend is 16 she's on birth control,we were each others first on June 13 of this year. We've Been together a year now. But any way since she was on birth control we didn't use condoms except on the first time. Well anyway all is well, until yesterday the pharmacists tell her that the medicine her dermatologist prescribed her can effect birth control ,she tells me I freak out. Okay she has her period and we have sex two days after her period on the 15&16 of August that was the last we have had sex. Now the funny thing is on the16th after sex. I told her I felt that maybe we should stop, well reason why is intercourse was doing nothing for her and I felt as if I'm using heR body to get off, and I'm not using her as a booty call. I'm in the relationship for her. I could care less about sex. but anyway Sunday we decided we would stop until we felt we were ready to try again well she's been feeling a knot in her right lower abdomen above the pubic bone and yesterday she shows me that she looks like she has a baby bump. But she took two test and they said negative but she still is showing signs of it. She's urinating a lot and so forth. I'm freaking out. If she is pregnant I'm a proud father. But I'm so emotionally frustrated I've cried at the thought of telling my parents. I have no  one I can go to. I need help,and gynecologist have also said she might have endometriosis. I dint know what to do please help me asap
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She would not have a baby bump from sex on the 15th or 16th of August, please try to calm down.  

It is true that some medications can cause birth-control pills to be less effective, so it's good that you didn't rely on the pill after the 16th.  Her negative tests won't really be accurate for another few days, she should take another home test on the 30th to be sure.  

I know it is nerve-wracking, but try to wait it out.  The chance of getting pregnant is only about 20% in a given cycle, if no contraception is used.

The other thing you can do is look up the kind of medication she was on and the kind of birth control she is on, and look up the drug interactions section.
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Thank you so much. I just don't know how I'm gonna wait this out. Because if she is then we are telling our parents asap. Now her stomach has a tightening feeling in it. Also could it be ovarian cyst? Because she was told she had some on her ovaries that were larger than normal. But they wouldn't become a problem unless she is sexually active. Like I said we decide to stop and then this happens. I'm more worried about what her mama is gonna do. I don't want her to kick her out or something. My parents aren't gonna be happy but they wouldn't kick me out. They will be more disappointed. I think the frustration I have is about how I'm gonna tell them
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She might have had some protection from the birth-control pills, you should look up her brand of pill and the FAQ's, or call the pill's advice line (look for an 800 number) and ask about the kind of antibiotics she was taking and how they might interact with the pill.  They will be able to tell you if she was still protected.

Also, no symptoms she is having at this time would indicate pregnancy, even if she had gotten pregnant, because it is too early.  If she is having tightening feelings in her stomach, it is much more likely to be tension than anything else.

Finally, ovarian cysts themselves can affect the chance of getting pregnant (not making it more likely but less).  

In any case, it's premature to go into catastrophic mode about what is going to happen to her and how you are going to tell your parents.  Although there is a chance you will have to have such a conversation, she is not as likely to be pregnant as she is to have escaped pregnancy.  Don't borrow trouble, you need to decide what to say only if you find out there is a reason to tell them anything.  

In the meantime, please think about the issues involved with having sex.  Since you are saying she would be in trouble with her parents if she was pregnant, I assume this means she is having sex without their knowing she is sexually active.  There are other reasons parents don't want their kids to have sex besides the risk of pregnancy.  Given that you love her and are not into just using her body just for your own gratification, you might refrain for now.  She'll be 18 soon enough and will be able to legally do whatever she wants.  Right now, the fact that her parents want to protect her might be a good guideline to respect.


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She only has her mom and the thing is her mom told her I understand you won't wait till marriage, but please use protection. But she tells me " if I find out you done anything to my child. It will be hell to pay" please don't tel me how we were to young to be engaged in such an intimate activity. Or that we should have thought of the consequences before hand, the thing is we did and we said if you get pregnant it's our own fault we knew what we were getting into, is she pregnant? It's not the problem. We are caught between cancer , cyst, or a tumor. That's not a good feeling. I'm more concerned with my girlfriend health befor our little secret. I will tell her mom and my parents in a heart beat if something is wrong with my girlfriend, it comes back around to. Even if she isn't pregnant her stomach is swollen like she's three months pregnant, but if it's not a baby it's cyst or cancer or whatever could be wrong. Her gynecologist said the cyst on her ovary was nothing to worry about until she was sexually active and the same if she has endometriosis it wouldn't be a problem until she was sexually active. If my girlfriend has a health issue all because we had sex. The pressure of it being my fault is on me. There is no one to blame but me. I'm the one who caused it. The only cure for ovarian cancer is kemo and that does more harm than good. To anyone who reads this sex isn't worth losing what you love. If my girlfriend is not pregnant she could potentially have a cancer that can kill her. And it's al because of me. The reason I'm so scared is because we do not know what it is. I wish I could find answers.
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At 16, she is extremely unlikely to have cancer.  Also, sex does not cause cancer.  (Here you are on the one hand telling me you are mature enough to have sex and on the other hand declaiming dramatically, "The only cure for ovarian cancer is kemo and that does more harm than good."  Please.  You're an MD and an oncologist?  Just. Stop. Catastrophizing.)  

"We are caught between a cyst, cancer or a tumor."  No, you are not.  If anything, you're caught between about a 15% risk of pregnancy (if you find, when you do your homework and call the FAQ number associated with her birth-control pills, that the antibiotics could have an impact on their effectiveness) and the much stronger likelihood that she is merely somewhat bloated from her birth-control pills.  Some women put on 10 lbs. when on the Pill.  She would not be three months pregnant from sex on the 15th and 16th of August, and you said she's been having her period up to then as expected.

You've got to quit panicking and freaking and begin to calmly do the work you can do, which is, talk to the doctor or pharmacist or the FAQ's line or the 800 number, and find out what is going on with the theoretical interaction with her antibiotics.  Ask specifically, would she have had breakthrough bleeding if the antibiotics had negatively impacted the pill's effectiveness?  If she didn't have any signs like that, does that mean it was working?  You are much better off asking rational questions than writing up her Living Will against her mythical ovarian cancer diagnosis.

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I hope you do understand that I'm sympathetic to your worries.  It just does you no good to fall to pieces in advance of even getting any bad news.  I'm trying to get you to stop borrowing trouble and do the thing that will help you make an assessment of whether there is even any real risk that her pill failed.  Call or research the question of whether her other medication really did interfere with her pill.  I am thinking it did not, because she didn't have breakthrough bleeding, but you should be asking the pill manufacturer this.
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We say ovarian cancer or cyst because of her visit to the gynecologist in May, I'm not borrowing the trouble of cancer. They told her that. But they also said she wouldn't be able to tell if they were a problem until she became sexually active. I'd rather my girlfriend be pregnant them have cancer or cyst. But she's doing better it seems. I have stopped panicking now. I have always be s worriesome person I over think tremendously, thank you so much for your help and support. My girlfriend told me something to think about that calmed me down a lot. She said if I am pregnant I am pregnant, we can worry about it when we find out.  But worry will do nothing because it won't change it. And she said if I'm not pregnant all your worry is for nothing.  So I'm doing much better and so is she. I also did take the time to research actual symptoms of ovarian cancer and cyst. And she doesn't. As far as we can tell due to her symptoms. So that's a great thing, the not in her lower abdomen I felt it yesterday and that's just a lymph node because I have one there to, so we have narrowed it down a lot, I'm a religious guy so I've been praying for answers. And it seems God is giving them to me. But can being bloated just appear over night? And last a couple days? She has no pain whatsoever. And is it possible since she's so skinny that  she has a small belly starting to show. And another thing she has that belly going on but she hasn't gained a single lb. her pediatric doctor weighed her at 139lbs a month ago amd she still weighs that.
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And what did you find out about the possible interaction between birth-control pills and the prescription she was on for her skin?
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I'm waiting for her to get home to look at them and give me the information and her birth control pack doesn't have a a name on it
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Regarding not worrying until it is time to worry, that is fine unless you happen to really like drama.  My sister's boyfriend went to Africa with the Peace Corps, and then got malaria.  When he came home and got well, two months later he got a life-insurance policy.  As part of the tests for this policy, they tested him for AIDS.  He hadn't had any exposure -- no unprotected sex (and I don't think any sex at all in the months prior to the test) but it came up as "equivocal," meaning he had to test again.  Did he calmly just test again?  Did she calmly say, "Darling, test again, it was probably the malaria causing a funny result."  Did she say "Let's look on the internet or ask a doctor if having recently had malaria can give an odd result to an AIDS test" or did they listen to anyone else say that?  No, they did no such thing.  They freaked out, they told everyone they were worried,  they didn't find out about malaria effects on AIDS tests, they wrung their hands, they called each other on the phone, they threw things in the air -- in short, they had a glorious time starring themselves in the dramatic story of his possible AIDS and wallowing in freak-out world.  And of course, the subsequent AIDS test showed him to be clear, after we all had to hear the dramatic story of his probable death sentence starring themselves, over and over.  

I'm suggesting, don't be like that.  If your girlfriend has medical questions (such as, how is that cyst doing now that I am having sex?) she should book with her doctor.  Her mother does not have to be in the room (by law, she can ask her mom to leave).  She can say to her mother that the cyst has been aching and she would like to see her doctor again to see if it has grown, shrunk or stayed the same and maybe to talk about a procedure to drain the cyst.  If she is convincing, her mom probably will book her at the doc.  Or if she can't bring herself to say all of this, perhaps she can just book with the doctor herself.  Even if she is not pregnant (and odds favor her not being pregnant), she should get the cyst checked now that you two have been sexually active.  The ovaries can get bruised during sex, and that can cause more problems with cysts.
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Thanks again. But I know her mom and her mom literally is a B**** my girlfriend can do nothing wrong and her mama is really verbally abusive. So if she tells her mama to leave the room her mom is gonna be like why don't you want me in Here. My girlfriend gets no privacy,she can't even go to the bathroom  without someone coming in. And if she goes outside to talk to me on the phone, her mom comes out there like why are YOU out here what are you talking about that you don't want me hearing. She gets no privacy or trust. What can we do
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Wait and test two weeks after the sex in question, or just see if her period comes.  She should also be working around to someday (not this week) having a talk with her mother about respecting her right to her own life.
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But one more question. If she was to be pregnant. How long do you think our parents would be mad. And how should we tell them? Should we sit mine and her parents down and tell them together? Like do you know what we should expect?
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Don't sweat over whether to sit them down and tell them together and how you should tell them, until you know for sure she is pregnant.
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Well she is now showing more symptoms of pregnancy, as we count down the days till her period.she now is having the stomach  cramps and it sounds like her stomach is growling,and the thought of eating her favorite foods is making her nauseous. So,I'm Not panicking or anything. But if she is I will be happy the more it seems to become a reality I'm excited. And me and my mom have had some conversations. My cousin/ sister is pregnant, my mom raised her from the age 12 of course my cousin is now 21 but she's expecting a baby girl, my mom is really supportive so I don't think it's gonna be to bad.  

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