Nervous

[NewMommy16]

Does anyone have any advice on how I should tell my mother that I'm pregnant? Being 16 I don't think she'd be too happy. Even though it wasn't my fault and I can explain that, I'm still nervous.

[remar]

If you said no and he still pushed you to have sex than this is rape. He needs to pay for what he did. I know you didn't come here for pity but no girl should ever have to go through anything like this. No means no, it's as simple as that.
I think it's best to be completely honest with your mother. You're her child, she is an adult and she needs to help you make decisions as to what to do about this situation. Something needs to be done about this boy or he will keep doing to other girls, if he hasn't already.
We're here to support you, listen and help anyway we can.

[NewMommy16]

I told my mother. But her reaction wasn't as I anticipated. She wasn't as angry as she was confused. She kept asking me questions, honestly I really just wanted to lie and say I had given my virginity to a boy from school in the bathrooms during lunch. It has less of a shock value. But hey, it's off my chest, I haven't been disowned....Now we have to work on telling my father 0.0

[NewMommy16]

I'm not going to say it directly because I didn't come on this forum to get pity. But basically, I didn't want to and he did. So he did.

[TylersMommy022415]

Remember like I told you on your last post what you need to do. There is always adoption if you don't want too keep the baby! And with how far along you say you are, you need to tell your mom like now. Especially if it wasn't consensual.

[FirstTimeMummy2Be]

What do you mean wasnt "exactly consenual" hun?

[NewMommy16]

The sex wasn't exactly consensual. But *shrug* pregnancy is pregnancy.

[momtoscarlett]

How wasn't it your fault? Just curious

[Saralynn143]

Everyone will freak out at first but they will still be there no matter what. Tell her, cause you will be relieved no matter what she says.

[meghannandbaby]

Even tho i was 18 and didnt live with my mom anymore i was still super nervous to tell her because i knew she would freak out so i took her to lunch one day and told her while we were eating and since we were in a public place she couldnt freak out. Yes she was upset but she came around and even came to my gender ultrasound with me. Im now 32 weeks and my mom has been my biggest suport through everything

[alipeachcobbler]

When I told my mom I had NO idea what I was going to say, everything I thought of just sounded fake. I went to her room in the evening while she was laying down (so she'd already be kind of calm) and I sat down and just looked at her for a solid minute. She asked me what was up and I just spit it out. She just looked at me for a minute then she figured out my due date lol.

[Braxtonnn]

^Don't go in without knowing exactly what you're going to do and how you're going to do it. It's a lot of work but it's better to talk to her when you have a plan. In the end she will be by your side, if not in the very beginning.

[Braxtonnn]

I was nervous too, not to tell my mother, but to tell my father. I actually told him new years eve and he took it so much better than I thought. He told me congratulations, that I have a tough road ahead, and that he loves me and will love my baby. I don't have a relationship with my mother so I just let family tell her, don't do that. Just sit down with her and be straightforward, "Mom I have to tell you something and I know that you're going to be mad and disappointed, but I'm pregnant." At that point you'll just have to wait for her response. You can't use excuses or anything like that. You have to show responsibility and show that you are mature. Sure, you're young, but so am I. I'm 18 and no one thought I was mature until they heard the plans my boyfriend and I have and saw how we took charge of our lives. The best thing to do is think about what you're going to do or what you want to do about this life you're now carrying. Figure the plan for yours and your baby's future. Don't go I'm without knowing exactly what you're going to do and how you're going to do it.

[FirstTimeMummy2Be]

Im 18, I told my mum when I found out at about 7-8weeks and yeah she was disappointed but she was with me for my first ultrasound at 9weeks and has completely supported me all way through im now 23weeks today, im sure the sooner you tell your mum the better and she'll be there for you, good luck x

[MamaDean15]

She will be disappointed, whatever she throws at you don't react. Once she calms down really explain the situation. She will be upset or whatever but trust me she will be by your side at the end. I also agree with the others. Tell your mama right away the sooner the better. Good luck hun, just breath it will be okay

[babyg7617]

I have a cousin that just has her baby she is also 16. Her parents weren't so happy at first  when she told them .  .but they got over it because it's true what bbybootz83 said u have to show responsibility and maturity for ur actions. And they will help u out:) good  luck ..just let them hear it from u and no one else.  

[bbybootz83]

There is never an easy way at your age to tell your parents. If they are upset with you they will eventually get over it. Just as long as you show responsibility for this baby.

[NewMommy16]

Okay. Thanks. I'm new at this and know absolutely NOTHING of what I'm doing. Let alone know how to explain this to the person who thinks I never want children.

[NiteWish515]

The best thing would be tp just sit down and tell her. Don't wait around. Try talking to her in a peaceful quiet place where it is just you two.