How long should I keep the ejaculation in if trying to get pregnant?

[Wanting]

My husband and I just tarted trying to get pregnant last month.  Just before my most fertile days began I got the flu.  Needless to say we couldn't try for a few days.  We had a few days to try again after I got well enough and then my hubby got the flu a few days later.  Argh!  We still had approx. 5days of fertile days left and so of course we did the best we could. Wink! Wink!  

My question is.... how long should I be keeping the ejaculation in my body after he has finished?  I don't want to 'empty' out too early because I am afraid that it won't give the sperm enough time to 'co-mingle' with my eggs.  

I took a HPT this morning and it came out negative so we will try again for a baby after I am finished my period.  (I should be starting in 3 days).  

Any opinions would be appreciated.

[poetgirl1979]

I usually lay with a pillow under butt, with legs up against wall for about 30 mins, just to be sure. Be careful when getting up from that position though, major head rush if you don't!!! Lol!!! I had to pee last time, but I held it. Pee comes out of diffrent spot then the sperm, by the way. Sorry to be graphic, but it's true!!! Anything that leaks out by then probably does not have any sperm in it, it's just left over seminal fluid, which is part of what comes from the guy--once again sorry for graphics. =(~ Let us know what happens!!! God bless!

[penny13]

Very funny!!!!

[poetgirl1979]

I didn't mean to offend anyone. S-michelle, glad someone was helped by it. Yes, I was just making sure in case some didn't realize, cuz I guess there are some who don't after all. Trik. are you from Australia perhaps??? I think that "getting caught" comment , meaning pregnancy, I've heard from Australia, perhaps Great Britain??? My hubby was in Australia when in the U.S. Navy. Anyways, didn't mean to offend anyone. God bless all!!!

[Wanting]

Thank you for your help! I guess I am not doing anything too wrong!  I do keep it in for a little while after but then it starts to drip out so I have to go and 'let it out'.  Sorry!

I have tried to keep it in longer by holding my legs at the back of my thighs so that my buttocks is raised a bit and then the dripping doesn't happen as quickly.

Really though, should we have to do anything TOO differnt when there are women who get pregnant bu accident and they do the same thing every time I am sure!  

I won't fret it, I just think that we had an unfortunate month with both of us being sick.  I had also come off the pill just before my period that month.

I will keep you posted on what happens next month!

Ps: I am taking anither HTP tomorrow morning b/c I think i may have taken it wrong and the packege came with two anyways!  (Early response.  Only $14 in Canada and you get two!)

[penny13]

Sorry for your loss, i will keep my fingers crossed for you.
Here is some baby dust************************************

P.S Are you from britain? it's just when you used the brill coment a few times. I'm from scotland.... but i now live in canada. I'm also ttc:)

[Wanting]

I am fully aware that pee come from a different hole and not the vagina!  ha!  Thanks though!  
Thank you for your advice!  

I will try to keep it in longer and not worry about dripping.  I put a towel under mem right away all the time anyways so I don't care if it drips on that!

Take care.