Likelihood of Positive Outcome for Pregnancy after 45

[Lindy450]

I'm a 47 year old woman, and possibly pregnant.  I was not trying to become pregnant and am somewhat surprised.  I had planned to look into getting my tubes tied in January with my husband's new insurance.  I am very much aware of increased risks, chance of Down Syndrome, miscarriage, etc.  Most of the information I have read on pregnancy at my age is negative.  I also knew a mother who became pregnant at age 46 or 47, found out the child had Down Syndrome and aborted at 5 or 6 months.  The chances of naturally becoming pregnant are near zero, and there's a substantial chance of having a deformed, chromosomally abnormal fetus (with 2 heads or something weird), 90% of my eggs are now "damaged goods", etc.  I take good care of my health and am at a reasonable weight (140), plus women on my mother's side of the family go into menopause near age 60.  I've read these factors are a plus for my age.  

Where are the success stories?   I can't even find any statistics on the chances of naturally becoming pregnant at my age.  Is it really that rare?   The information out there makes me feel like some freak.   Can someone PLEASE give me  some encouraging news?

[ShellylovesJess]

My heart is aching for you. I am so sorry for your loss. I have a 20 and 17 year old son's and my world would crumble if anything happened to either of them.
As much as you want a baby, this will never replace your lost son. You need to make sure that if you want a baby, it is for the right reasons. You are going to grieve for a very long time and will never get over loosing your son. I wish you every bit of strength and love to move forward in your life. If you are lucky enough to be blessed again, I hope it helps to close your broken heart. If this doesn't happen count the everyday you had with your first son as a blessing that you had for 24 years. Wishing you peace. x

[prettys]

Iam 46. I lost my first child a son six months back, he was 24.  My second child is 20. Still not out of grieving, Our whole family is devastated.  Is there any chance of me getting a normal healthy baby with my own eggs, my tubes are sterilized, I need to opt for ivf method I guess.  Pls give me suggestions

[bcvlasis]

I am new to this site.  I was surprised to see so many having babies at late ages.  I had one at 40 and one at 44.  They are both very healthy, and feel so blessed.  We were done.  We have a boy and a girl.  I am late.  I am hoping I am beginning my change in life.  My husband and I don't want another baby and especially a sick child.  I have to just put this in God's hands.  How are you?  

[bloominglotus]

I am 45 and pregnant, lost all previous ones in miscarriage from ages 35 on, all for different reasons.  This was an accidental pregnancy.  I had given up.  I did do a detox recently, then got pregnant straight  away.  I am concerned, but my husband thinks this is our "baby" opportunity provided by God and everything will go well.  I pray that all will go well.  Hope all goes well for all other women too.  We can only keep ourselves as healthy as possible and wait and see.  I have only told my parent as I expect negative comments and fear tactics from women I know.  My father's side of the family tend to live over 95, and I hope I follow that trend.  My mum was pregnant at 45.  The doctor told me that what chromosomal combinations you get are largely due to luck, regardless of age, and not to worry, because a good pregnancy will last.  A friend told me her sister gave up on getting pregnant and 3 months later was pregnant at 37. Pregnancy can happen, after 40, but maybe it is harder because we are more stressed at 40 than at 20.

[redmom7]

How are things working out for you? I am 45 and am 8 weeks today.  I am in total denial and preparing myself for a miscarriage although my levels are very high.  I will go to the doctor in 2 weeks.  I am "due" with this baby 20 years to the day that I had my first (who is in college) Crazy! I want to do God's will, so I know He will keep me strong whatever the outcome.
I sincerely hope all is well with you. :)

[Weeze86]

I'm 44 and have a 4 month old girl...had a child at 39, 40, 42 and obviously 44.. Everytime was a challenge because of how my age is viewed but I have 4 healthy children, what if I gave in to societal views? I'm thinking of a fifth but at this point even my doctor tells me I could die giving birth at downs is 1in 4 at my age.....my husband really wants me to try again but is leaving the decision to me.....